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Love, Marriage & Sex in the city-498A

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 2, 2011

 

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Domestic Violence applies on husbands also

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 14, 2010

This film is in support of husbands whose suffering goes ‘UNHEARD’.

 

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Wanted: Gender-neutral laws

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on August 16, 2010

If women like Uma Challa had their way, they would change all gender-biased laws that exist in India today, including Section 498A of the IPC or the dowry law.

The draft Bill on Protection of Women against Sexual Harassment at the Workplace may be ready, but some women actually think it is heavily biased against men. If women like Uma Challa had their way, they would change all gender-biased laws that exist in India today, including Section 498A of the IPC or the dowry law. Challa argues that the dowry law is being misused by many women to harass their husbands and in-laws.

Hyderabad-based Challa launched a forum called All India Forgotten Women, under the aegis of Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) in 2005, in response to the “large-scale arrests of women falsely accused under Section 498A IPC”.

The draft Bill on sexual harassment at the workplace, she says, does not have provisions to protect men from similar harassment at the workplace and it thus undermines the Indian Constitution, which states that men and women have the same right to equality and life.

“The Bill and its architects undermine the basic truth that sexual harassment is neither about sex nor gender. It is about power, and a woman in power can be every bit as abusive as a man,” Challa says.

“The Bill requires that committees for redressing grievances consist of persons `committed to the cause of women’. If committees are filled with individuals committed to the cause of women and not to the cause of truth, law and justice, is it hard to foretell the fate of males in an institution or in society as a whole,” she asks.

Challa, who is also president of The All India Men’s Welfare Association, says the Bill contains provisions for `conciliation’ and `settlement’ between the `aggrieved’ woman and the respondent. If `conciliation’ happens and `settlement’ is arrived at, no further inquiry will be conducted. If, however, the terms and conditions of `conciliation’ and `settlement’ are not met by the accused, an inquiry will be conducted.

“When sexual harassment at the workplace is considered a grievous crime which warrants a special and stringent law, what is the purpose of having a `conciliation’ and `settlement’ plan? In what way is this law different from the dowry law, which is being used as a weapon of extortion,” she asks.

She says countries around the world, including the USA, the UK and all member countries of the European Union, have gender-neutral sexual harassment prevention laws. “Even Pakistan, which passed a similar Bill in January 2010, embraced the principle of gender neutrality,” she adds.
http://www.deccanherald.com/content/88344/wanted-gender-neutral-laws.html

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P7 news channel – Kayda Kanoon

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on March 4, 2010

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90% dowry cases false

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on March 1, 2010

Rajasthan Patrika, 26 Feb 2010

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Married men more prone to suicide: Study

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 27, 2010

Married men more prone to suicide: Study

February 27th, 2010

It’s not just women who go through trauma as a result of bad marriages. Men suffer just as much, but silently. Recent data made public by the National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB) points out that one married man in India is committing suicide every nine minutes. According to the survey, the cause may vary from personal problems and marital issues to economic pressures. It’s clear that many men are agonising internally over failed marriages.

Psychologist Sridevi S says it’s because men are not as expressive as women and bottle their feelings. “Women have been nurtured from the time they are young into believing that they can surmount problems. But on the other hand men are told not to cry and express emotions in public, so they suppress all their troubles until it overwhelms them and they feel they can’t take it any more.” She continues, “The sudden increase in suicidal tendencies among men is also because earlier women took care of all the family issues, but today, both husband and wife are working, they deal with it together. So men find it difficult to balance home as well as work.” The survey points out that compared to women, men are a greater suicide risk, with a male-female ratio of 64:36.

Suresh Ram, Convener, Save Indian Family movement, TN, says that this could be the result of pro-women Indian laws. “There are several laws in our country which protect women, while men have no such protection. Often women take advantage of it. There is this stereotype attached to men, that they should not cry or express their depression. Why is it,” he questions, “that when a man commits suicide he is called coward, while when a woman does so, they say she is driven to it-” he asks.

Actor Srikanth says,”Being a married man could be a little stressful today, but you must understand that there is a woman in your life who is also going through the same.”

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A man’s rights in India

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 25, 2010

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All the rights that a man has in India are listed above.

Can’t see anything? That is because there are no rights for men in India.

Only women have rights and these rights have been given to them by men only.

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It’s a man’s world

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 23, 2010

Time and again, I have heard that it is a man’s world.

A man is murdered every 19 minutes as opposed to a woman every 66 minutes. The number of men committing suicide is twice the number of women committing suicide. At home, men are twice as likely to be driven to commit suicide as compared to women. Outside home, men are getting murdered three times as compared to women.

82% of the taxes collected by the Government are contributed by men and Rupees 11,400 Crore is spent annually on women’s welfare. Not even a single rupee has been spent on men’s welfare in the last 60 years the country has been independent. There is a ministry for women and a ministry for children. There are protection laws for almost everyone and everything – including women, soil, animals, fisheries, forest etc. The only entity inconspicuously missing from the large list is men.

Talking about protection, even the domestic violence laws of the nation are gender biased. Only a woman can seek relief from the court under the recently enacted domestic violence act.

On the complaint of women, even 2 month babies have been arrested by the police for causing extreme mental harassment to women.

In the court of law, men are presumed to be guilty unless proven innocent. And given the abysmally slow pace of legal proceedings, it takes decades before a man can prove his innocence.

Adultery is a crime for men while women can legally do it. What is more interesting is the fact that women can now claim alimony from their illicit partner as well. By the way, unlike countries like USA where alimony is only for long lasting marriages and for a specific period of time, in India women are entitled to life-long alimony payments even if the marriage lasted 1 day.

Indian courts, including the Supreme Court of India, routinely forgive women for contempt of court and perjury because of their gender.

Any un-natural death of a woman within 7 years of marriage sends her husband to jail automatically. The most common cause of an un-natural death is suicide; and we already discussed that men are twice as likely to commit suicide as compared to women.

1.12 males are born to every female. The ratio declines to 1.10 by the age of 15; to 1.06 in the age group 15 – 64; and 0.90 for the age group 65 and above. This seems to imply that girls are either genetically superior to boys OR they are protected and men are made to do all the hazardous tasks.

As a matter of fact, worldwide women live on an average 5 – 7 years longer as compared to men. Still, the importance given to women’s health is many times more as compared to men’s health.

Talking about women’s issue is in vogue but people ridicule when a person talks about men’s issues. Hence there are hardly any opinion articles written about men. I personally spoke to an editor of a well known Indian national newspaper and he said “I agree with you in principle but I will not be able to publish any of your views. They are anti-women and the women will sit outside my home on a hunger strike”.

So, people are scared of women, and perhaps because of valid reasons. Last year, women activists forced their way into a High Court and broke the wooden chair on which the judge used to sit because he delivered a judgment in the favor of a husband in a matrimonial dispute.

Talking about the courts, a few months back a Supreme Court judge, while deciding on a matrimonial dispute, clearly told the man “Do as your wife tells you. If she says look this side then you look this side. If she says look that side then look that side. We all have suffered”.

The president of India is a woman and the most powerful politician in the country is also a woman. And still they say it is a man’s world!

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One married man commits suicide every 9 min

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 22, 2010

Family problems, illness, love affairs, bankruptcy identified as top causes.

We need a Men’s welfare Ministry since theres no avenue to safe guard a Man’s rights presently, the society is conditioned to ignore and ridicule Men’s issues. Men’s issues are listed below for reader’s reference.

Men and boys are always expected to be and conditioned to become protectors and providers, and also routinely portrayed as

* Oppressors, aggressors, wife-beaters, dowry-seekers, bride-burners, sexual perverts, pimps, cheats, criminals, murderers, rapists, drug-peddlers, terrorists, etc. who ought to be restrained through inhuman, draconian laws;

* Idiots, pathetic, uncouth and inferior creatures who are constantly in need of rescue by their “superior” wives, girlfriends or female relatives who are set to overhaul them;

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Are guys more ‘physical’ than girls?

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 20, 2010

Today, we had an office weekend picnic. Friends and families of employees were also invited. In between the younger crowd the discussion quite often drifts to romance and affair.

I witnessed this healthy discussion about the physical needs of boys versus girls. The girls were arguing that guys often need girls only for their physical needs. The boys had their share of beliefs.

There is one opinion that really caught my attention. A guy mentioned the following:

“I need physical as well as emotional love. Girls are so manipulative that it is impossible to trust them. Today she is with me and tomorrow she will be with someone else. We enter into any human alliance because we want to gain something. Emotional aspects of a human association mean more to me, but those can be proven only over a period of time. Girls are either fickle minded or they have a tendency to keep switching partners, hence I concentrate on physical aspects in the beginning of a relationship.

Emotional aspects materialize only over a period of time. Girls are usually not stable. A relationship costs time, money, emotions and I do not wish to be taken for a ride for several months without gaining anything out of it.”

Most people weren’t very pleased with this attitude, but them most of the world is feminist – who pamper women.

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