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Actress admits her dowry harassment allegations were false

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on September 23, 2010

Kolkata, Sept 23 (IBNS): Tollywood actress Swastika Mukherjee has confessed in a media conference that the dowry harassment allegations she made against her estranged husband were false, apparently bringing a closure to an episode that has been playing out amidst full media glare for ten years.

“I was young, I did not have enough sense back then and I did what my family, friends and peers advised me to do,” is how Swastika on Wednesday chose to explain why she falsely accused her husband singer Promit Sen of “subjecting her to cruelty” and “criminal breach of trust”.

Swastika’s shocking but predictable confession comes a day after she apparently submitted an affidavit at a city court admitting that the charges she made against her husband and her in-laws under Indian Penal Code 498A and 406 were “unfounded, false, baseless and speculative”.

Swastika and Promit, the youngest son of renowned Rabindrasangeet exponent Sagar Sen, were married in June 1998, when the actress was just 18. “Things started to go wrong around two years later when like a bolt from the blue my brother, our family and even me, who all lived in different places, were charged by her for dowry related crimes,” said Pritam Sen, Promit’s elder brother, who also attended the press conference.

“We went through hell for the past ten years. So many arrest warrants, all the expenses and the defamation aside, my brother is never going to get back the last ten years. He’s totally mentally devastated,” he added.

Though divorce was reportedly filed by Swastika in 2001, the cases are still under legal red tape.

Pritam said recently Swastika had issued a press release which after being published in the media made it seem as if the two parties had reached a compromise and were heading for divorce which was definitely not the case.

Hence Wednesday’s press conference was called by the actress “to come clean”. “I am deeply sorry for all that Promit and his family has had to go through. I hope he can move on,” said Swastika. “As far as the custody of our daughter Anwesha is concerned, lets see what plays out. She’s a ten-year-old girl and she too has a say in this,” she said.

When asked what drove her to suddenly make such an effort, she replied that it was not out of any pressure but just a “realisation”.

Sources, however, say this might be just a coup to get the divorce the 30-year-old actress, who is known for her ‘who cares’ attitude and has not exactly had the smoothest relationships over past few years, has been after for quite some time.

Pritam, however, said he and his family were pleased at Swastika’s confession.

He said, “I think we should give her the benefit of the doubt. Let’s see what this leads to. But we’ll not accept anything but a genuine apology.”

The Sen family is apparently not mulling pressing charges on the actress since they are “not vindictive people”, said Pritam.

The confession, apart from sending gossip mills in overdrive, also sheds light on the Indian Penal Code which leaves the door for such a heavy-handed charge wide open for misuse.

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One married man commits suicide every 9 min

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 22, 2010

Family problems, illness, love affairs, bankruptcy identified as top causes.

We need a Men’s welfare Ministry since theres no avenue to safe guard a Man’s rights presently, the society is conditioned to ignore and ridicule Men’s issues. Men’s issues are listed below for reader’s reference.

Men and boys are always expected to be and conditioned to become protectors and providers, and also routinely portrayed as

* Oppressors, aggressors, wife-beaters, dowry-seekers, bride-burners, sexual perverts, pimps, cheats, criminals, murderers, rapists, drug-peddlers, terrorists, etc. who ought to be restrained through inhuman, draconian laws;

* Idiots, pathetic, uncouth and inferior creatures who are constantly in need of rescue by their “superior” wives, girlfriends or female relatives who are set to overhaul them;

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Mother throws baby in dustbin to hide affair

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 27, 2009


The 24-year-old woman (l) was arrested for abandoning the newborn in a dustbin

A 24-year-old Ghatkopar woman was arrested on Saturday for dumping her newborn daughter in a dustbin, where the baby was ravaged by rats the entire night before police finally found her.

Strangely, the woman, Kejal Suraiyya, had managed to keep her husband and in-laws in the dark about her pregnancy.

“We have not been getting along for the last two years. Though we live in the same house, we have not had physical relations since then. My parents, suspecting something amiss, had inquired with her about her swelling tummy. But she told us a story about missing her periods,” said Kejal’s husband Pradeep Suraiyya, a resident of Bhatwadi.

“One day, my parents saw that her swelling had gone down, but she said it was the result of medicines that she had taken a few days ago.”

Naturally, the family was shocked when the police came knocking on their door to tell them that Suraiyya had left her baby to die in a dustbin.

When the Ghatkopar police found the one-day-old infant on September 21, she was severely injured and had several rat bite wounds on her arms. Immediately, a team led by Manisha Jadhav, sub-inspector of Ghatkopar police station, rushed to the spot. “We took charge of the baby, as she was alive, and admitted her to Rajawadi Hospital. She was badly bitten by rats,” recalled Jadhav. The infant was later shifted to Sion hospital.

When the police started investigation to find out who the mother was, they contacted all midwives in the area. “We contacted all the local midwives and also probed in and around the area, but we did not get information about any woman being pregnant around that time,” said Chandrakant Puri, police inspector of Ghatkopar police station. “But on September 23, we got a call from a woman saying that she suspected her neighbour, Kejal Suraiyya, to be the child’s mother.”

On subjecting Kejal to medical examination, the police found out that she had indeed delivered a baby around September 21. Finally, she confessed to the crime. She then revealed that she had given birth to the baby at her in-laws’ house when no one was around. Soon after the delivery, she dumped the child in a nearby dustbin.

Kejal suspected that her husband had an affair, and after frequent arguments over this, the two had stopped talking. Kejal had taken up a job in a Thane beauty parlour.

“When she came to know that she was pregnant with another man’s child, she figured out that she did not have enough money even for an abortion,” said Puri.

“She decided to give birth and dump the baby. We have arrested her and booked her under Sections 317 (exposure and abandonment of child under 12 years by parent or person) and 201 (causing disappearance of evidence of offence, or giving false information to screen offender) of the Indian Penal Code,” said Puri.

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How to (mis)use 498a: Guide for the litigating wives

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 20, 2008

Section 498A, of Indian Penal Code, is a boom for modern Indian women. It comes very handy for women to fulfill their materialistic desires. A quick guide to the empowered women of India on how to use 498A to unleash ‘legal terrorism’.

WHAT’S THE use of being empowered, if you are unable to cause harassment, pain and suffering to the husband and his family to the point of suicide? If this is your objective, IPC section 498A can come in handy for you. This not only makes sure that you cause trauma, harassment and pain to your husband’s family, but also you get paid in full for it in due course. So gear up women, here is a crash course in 498A.

Here is the modus operandi of a false 498A. It’s actually easier than ordering a pizza and will cause assured harassment for the husband’s family, the other benefits may include:

  1. Display of strength and scaring the husband’s family into submission;
  2. Chances of a quick and easy extortion or as it is called, a ’compromise’. This booty will then be shared by the colluding relatives and the wife, according to their level of involvement and quantum of assistance;
  3. Imagining a case in which the husband, scared of jail time, will leave his family and be his wife’s slave.
  4. Getting the moral support of NCW (National Commission for Women)and WCD (the ministry of women and child development), that see wealth distribution, from husbands to wives, as a way to encourage women buying more stuff and bringing foreign direct investment in women’s products.

The 498A consists of three basic phases and you need to have unique skills to master them;

  1. Complaint (letter writing skills and vocabulary words, which invoke sympathy, hunger, harassment etc)
  2. Police arrest (always wished you acted and get aid for it, here is your chance, you need to cry, wail and shout and also get paid in full for it). Who knows you might as well get picked for an Ekta Kapoor serial.
  3. Compromise (the sweetest of all, counting the money and making sure it gets deposited in full).

Modus Operandi

  1. Leave your husband on the pretext of visiting your mother, pregnancy or caring for your ailing father.
  2. Look for the most opportune moment:
  • For Husbands living in India Fridays are the best time and if Monday is also holiday nothing like it. In fact girls can look for the this time and then go to their mother’s place first and then plan out.
  • For NRI’s the best time is when they are visiting their family in India. This way he will not be able to return and will loose his peace, money and career immediately.
  • Once the date and time has been decided, its time to take the plunge. Don’t worry noone can touch you misusing this section. Remember the all powerful Indian Police and judiciary is with you along with the NCW and WCD, who will in due course come up with more laws for your benefit.

A very important part of this process is drafting the complaint.

  1. First the easy way. Visit any local lawyer. The cheapest ones will also suffice as these days all have preformatted 498A allegation forms, just fill in your name, address and list of people to accuse and behold!!! You can have your own personalized 498A complaint. Some girls who are creative can also choose to study the preformatted complaint and then write one of their own. This will help bringing out the writer in you. Remember, just like there is no extra charge to include the names of your family member for credit cards, there is no extra charge for causing additional harassment to any number of relatives of your husband. Some women have also included husband’s friends as a bonanza. So go on and include all those whom you ever despised in this list. Whomever you include make sure you always include the women and children of the husbands family as they are his weak spot. Whatever you write, make sure the below 3 allegations are in as without this the police will be reluctant to register your complaint even with bribes.
  • Not given food and water for 7 days and kept me locked in a dark room.
  • Beating me each day right from the wedding night. Even the doctors will tell you that the most violent of criminals will rather have sex with a woman on the first night than beat her, but the India Police, NCW and WCD does not believe so and will believe whatever you say. If you can create false medical certificate there is nothing like it. But this is not all that important as the police will believe whatever you say anyways.
  • Already paid Rs 10 lakhs at engagement. Make sure you include whatever you ever wished for but did not get to buy in the stridhan list as the police will make the husband buy and ‘return’ those articles even if you have never given those. See how simple the WCD ministry has made it for you to fulfill your materialistic desires. So this is time to get the articles of your wildest desires. At least if you write 10 you might get one, so whats the harm in writing as many as possible.

2. Whew !!! Your complaint draft is final and you have a gleaming copy of a spanking new 498A. You should be proud that you will soon be joining the 498A women’s list who have made a martyr of their Husbands family to get their desires fulfilled. You have crossed a big hurdle in your life. Now the Money just wants to come to you. The next steps are pretty simple and routine and should be cake walk for the empowered women like you.

3. Visit the local police station with some relatives. Most of the girls take their father and brother, but the police do not mind if you take your paramour (ex-lover) especially if he is supposed to benefit from the expected settlement and you both have already booked your new flat and are looking to pay the first installment.

4. Be ready to wail and have moist eyes as these infuriate the police officers in India against the husband. If you have Mahila thana, that’s the best place to go, as these women police officers have known to create havoc on the Husband’s family. Pay a token advance bribe to police and see the speed at which they start the manhunt for the Husbands family and his aged parents and sisters faster than hunt for Osama. You need not even pay the rest of the bribe as it will be collected in full from the Husband’s family. Make sure to file the case as far off as possible even if the alleged incidents in your complaint did not occur there. This will add icing on the cake as the Husbands family will have the additional pain of fighting the case in a different state and city. You, by now, will not be able to stop praising the WCD and NCW for this law and wanting more laws like these to hit the stands. How much thought they must have put into this law to make sure you get away Scot free. GO 498A !!! Hip Hip Hurray !!!

5. So the husband is arrested. Congratulations!!!. Now you have shown them what you are made of, bravo my girl, bravo. But hey, this is milking time, and as cows have a specific period for milking, for husbands and it is when they or the women of his family are behind bars. You need to be quick and fast as a fox. Make sure that he is not released and the bail gets denied. Immediately put the amount for “Compromise”, make sure you quote an astronomical amount as it’s always bargained down. If he agrees CONGRATULATIONS again, you are a millionaire after writing a complaint letter. Book authors do not make so much money as you have made by writing a letter. You have just paid the amount for your very flat in full and it is tax free. This is apart from the other tax-free money you can claim in terms of alimony. I will talk about it in another book “Alimony and Maintenance for dummies”.

6. If you are denied any compromise money, there is always another chance; the metropolitan magistrate will bargain for you to close the case. Try your luck there as well.

I wish you all the best in your 498A gold rush.

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Woman booked for trying to kill mother-in-law

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 19, 2008

Tribune News Service

Ludhiana, October 4
The Haibowal police has booked Anju Rani, a resident of Civil City,
for allegedly trying to kill her mother-in-law by splashing boiling
cooking oil on her face.

The victim, Chanda Bala (65), sustained burn injuries and was rushed
to the civil hospital on September 29. According to reports, Anju had
strained relations with her mother-in-law ever since she got married
to Amarjit Singh four years ago.

On September 29, both of them had a heated argument over some issue
and in a fit of rage, Anju splashed the burning cooking oil on Chanda
Bala’s face.

The police has registered a case under Section 307 of IPC against Anju

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IIM Bangalore talks about flaws in Dowry laws

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 18, 2008

A project undertaken by students of IIM Bangalore concluded that the Government should make amendments in Dowry laws which will stop women from misusing these laws against the husband and his family.

The study also examined several flaws and ambiguities in these laws; and how these laws have been misused by the rich unscrupulous women to harass their husbands.

Read the complete report here

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Yes I demanded dowry, but never got it

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 16, 2008

All the characters referred to below are fictitious and bear no resemblance with anyone living or dead whatsoever. Any co-incidence is purely co-incidental and unintentional

Dowry? A sensational word, isn’t it? Evokes strong emotions for the ‘married woman’. Unlawful demands from the husband’s side to the bride’s side like a scooter, car, fridge, cash, jewels, etc. etc. Seems like a scene straight from a social cinema, depicting the ‘married woman’ as a liability. This is what the media has always represented dowry and dowry seeking money mongers as, and so this is what the society has come to know of it.

But the definition of dowry is far wider than that entailed above as put in Indian Penal Code Section 498A as any ‘unlawful demand’ made by husband and / or his relatives. But what is ‘unlawful’ has not been described. It has been left to anyone’s imagination and depends on the intensity of the ‘married woman’s’ tears at time of the complaint.

The other day I happened to meet Jignesh, who has been accused under section 498A for allegedly making ‘unlawful demand’ to his wife. So I happened to chat with him as to what was the need to make any ‘unlawful demand’ from his wife when he himself earned a handsome salary working with an MNC at a prestigious position? Excerpts of my chat with him,

Me: “Well sad to know that you are facing criminal charges, but I fail to understand that when you are yourself so well placed, what made you demand?”

Jignesh: “So you seem to have decided the verdict yourself as is evident from your question.”

Me: “Hey man, I did not mean that.”

Jignesh: “It’s OK, am used to it, but it is a truth that I demanded dowry from her. You heard it right, Yes I demanded dowry but never got it.

Me: “I see. Do you mind sharing your demands?”

Jignesh: “Not at all. I demanded our cultural values from her; I demanded as much respect from her for my parents, as I have for her parents. I demanded support from her to build my family. I demanded a feeling of oneness with contemporaries and love for the young ones in our family. I demanded restraint and patience to understand each other to build a stronger familial foundation. I demanded an anticipated expectation to be as much loyal and faithful to me as I am to her. Since she and her parents, especially her mom did not have all these, they thought these demands were ‘unlawful ‘, and filed a case on me and my innocent family under Section 498A IPC.

Me: “I see. Hats off to you and sorry once again for that question, it was just framed badly, not intended that way.”

Jignesh: “That is fine; this is the pill society gives to victims of 498A, the Anti – dowry law. But I have no qualms in saying that I demanded dowry, for if what I demanded amounts to dowry in today’s era of Woman Protection and Woman Empowerment, then so be it. After all times are changing. Definitions of 1960 cannot work today.”

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