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Domestic Violence applies on husbands also

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 14, 2010

This film is in support of husbands whose suffering goes ‘UNHEARD’.


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Man alleging misuse of dowry act performs ‘shraadh’ for self

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on April 10, 2010

LUCKNOW: Former state government employee and a resident of the Old City, Pandit RamShankar performed a shraadh ceremony on Friday that was ‘different’. Shankar performed the ceremony for the ‘departed soul’ of Akhil Dubey, a Lucknow-based pharma executive. But here’s the catch. Dubey, alive and kicking, was part of the ceremony. As for why he felt the need for performing the ‘shraadh’ — Dubey was commemorating his ‘death’ as a common man, on the same day, exactly one year ago.

Here’s what prompted such extreme action. After tying the knot on November 2008, Dubey alleges that he discovered that his wife was already married and also had a child. Shocked on making the discovery, he attempted to “resolve” the issue but met with little success.

“Two months later, when I moved divorce proceedings against her, she slapped a case of dowry harassment against me under section 498 A of the Indian Penal Code,” says Dubey. Under this section, on April 9, 2009, an FIR was registered against Dubey. “That day marked my death as a common man. In the eyes of the world, I became branded as a criminal,” adds Dubey.

And to commemorate his ‘criminal status’ one year on, the ‘shraadh’ ceremony respectfully remembered Dubey for the ‘decent and common man’ that he used to be.

As for the sanctity of such religious rites, Shankar defends the act saying the Indian scriptures allow a living person to perform his ‘shraadh’. “The ‘Garud Puran’ allows people to do their own ‘pind daan’ while they are alive. Especially those who do not have children and cannot perform the rites after their death. Similarly, the ceremonies for the 10th and 13th day can also be performed in advance,” says Pandit Ram Shankar.

The unique event was organised by a Lucknow-based NGO, Pati Parivar Kalyan Samiti (PPKS), a group of “afflicted” husbands who have been protesting the misuse of section 498 A of the IPC by women.

According to this section of the IPC, if the husband or his relative subjects a woman to cruelty, he shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to three years and is also liable to pay a fine. The offence is cognizable, non-compoundable and non-bailable. Interestingly, the protest against the misuse of the law by women has been gaining ground across the country. Seeking to be absolved from the status of ‘criminals’ and to voice their protest, over 2,000 members of PPKS Lucknow, routinely, bail out other aggrieved husbands and also instruct them on how to get out of the procedural tangles involved in the issue.

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Woman held for husband’s murder

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on January 4, 2010

CHENNAI: Police on Sunday made a breakthrough in the man missing case of Ashok Kumar of Bazaar Nagar in Avadi when they arrested his wife Sweety Rekha (19).

Suburban police sources said she drugged Ashok last November and strangled him to death with the help of her lover Asim (25) and accomplices Vinod (19) and Thalip Basha (21).

The men, who were also arrested on Sunday, transported his body and dumped it in a forest area in Chittoor district.

The motive behind the murder was to eliminate Ashok who was a hindrance to the relationship Asim and Rekha had, sources added.

All the four were later remanded to custody and sent to Puzhal prison.

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Woman kidnaps baby to aid her second marriage

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on January 4, 2010

BANGALORE: All is fair in love and war, goes the adage. Gouramma, a 28-year-old married woman in another relationship, lived up to it literally: she
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The drama unfolded like this: Nandini Layout police received a complaint on December 28 from Narayanappa, a grocery shop owner and resident of Shankarapuram, that his 11-month-old son Kiran was missing and Gouramma, a family friend who had come to their house a day ago, couldn’t be traced.
Narayanappa earlier was a neighbour of Gouramma in Yeshwantpur. On December 27, his family invited her to their home. Gouramma and the boy went missing the next afternoon. Gouramma was married to Narayana Reddy, a coconut vendor in Bellandur, and the couple had a 11-year-old boy who was staying with his grandparents in Yeshwantpur.

During investigation, it came to light that all was not well between Gouramma and her husband and the couple stayed separately often. She had an affair with Shivamani, a law student from Tamil Nadu, who was studying in a Bangalore college for the last two-and-a-half years.

According to DCP North H S Revanna, Gouramma had even gone to his hometown, Ambattur in Chennai, to meet his parents one-and-a-half years ago. She told them that she was pregnant and wanted to get married to Shivamani. Gouramma avoided meeting Shivamani for the last year but continued to insist she was pregnant. Shivamani had gone back to his hometown by then.
On December 28, after taking 11-month-old Kiran with her, she went to Ambattur to meet Shivamani’s parents, claiming it was his child and demanded that he marry her. The family, after much coaxing, fixed their marriage date for January 5.

Meanwhile, Nandini Layout police who had tracked her, went to Ambattur and arrested her and rescued Kiran. A kidnap case has been registered against Gouramma.

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Court serves notice to woman for false evidence TOI

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on December 15, 2009

CHANDIGARH: Backtracking on dowry allegations in court proved costly for a woman as she got entangled in her own web of lies, following which, a show-cause notice was served to her for giving false evidence.

According to information, the Sector-25 based woman had levelled dowry charges against her 27-year-old husband, a resident of Sector 51, in May 2007.

In her police complaint, the woman alleged that soon after she got married, her husband started misbehaving and using derogatory language with her for bringing insufficient dowry.

She also alleged that she was thrashed and locked up in rooms on several occasions.

Subsequently, a case under sections 406 (punishment for criminal breach of trust) and 498-A (husband or relative of a husband of a woman subjecting her to cruelty) of the IPC was registered against her husband on July 5, 2007.

However, the case took a new turn when during the court hearing on Monday, the complainant outright denied that she was harassed or maltreated by her husband or her in-laws.

The woman went on to state that a ‘misunderstanding’ had cropped up between the couple, due to which her relations turned sour with the in-laws, resulting in the two getting divorced.

Much to the surprise of the jury, the woman’s parents also supported her statement and denied that she was never maltreated or harassed by her husband and his family.

Shocked at the turn of events, the prosecution declared the complainant hostile, while the judicial magistrate questioned her why she shouldn’t be punished for giving false evidence in the court?

The magistrate in his judgment stated, “The complainant deliberately suppressed the truth and made afalse statement knowing it could be used in the court proceedings. This clearly amounts to perjury.”

He further said, “The complainant should be tried for giving false evidence in legal proceedings. A show-cause notice must be served to her under Section 344 of the CrPC, wherein she must explain why she should not be punished. Separate proceedings must be also initiated against her.”

Meanwhile, the court acquitted the woman’s husband by giving him the benefit of doubt.

http://timesofindia .indiatimes. com/city/ chandigarh/ Court-serves- notice-to- woman-for- false-evidence/ articleshow/ 5337893.cms

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Woman kills baby of husband’s second wife

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 29, 2009

It is a well known fact that women are more violent than men, so I am not surprised that a woman goes and kills a newborn child. I would not have even posted this article on this site, except if I did not want to bring out the following gender bias:

Why did the police arrest the husband? A woman goes and kills her ex-husband’s child, and the police arrests both of them, why? Only the woman should have been arrested.

In a tragic incident, a woman allegedly killed a newborn baby at Dongli village in Tehri district just because he was the child of her husband’s second wife, police said in Dehradun on Friday.

The baby, who was repeatedly thrown to the ground, died instantly on Thursday.

Geeta, the second wife of Pushya, entered into wedlock some months back. She gave birth to a male child a few days ago.

Meanwhile, Pushya’s first wife Sumitra went to Dongli village where she allegedly picked up the child and threw him to the ground, after which he died instantly.

Police has arrested Sumitra and her husband Pushya. Pushya has five children from his earlier marriage.

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Mother throws baby in dustbin to hide affair

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 27, 2009


The 24-year-old woman (l) was arrested for abandoning the newborn in a dustbin

A 24-year-old Ghatkopar woman was arrested on Saturday for dumping her newborn daughter in a dustbin, where the baby was ravaged by rats the entire night before police finally found her.

Strangely, the woman, Kejal Suraiyya, had managed to keep her husband and in-laws in the dark about her pregnancy.

“We have not been getting along for the last two years. Though we live in the same house, we have not had physical relations since then. My parents, suspecting something amiss, had inquired with her about her swelling tummy. But she told us a story about missing her periods,” said Kejal’s husband Pradeep Suraiyya, a resident of Bhatwadi.

“One day, my parents saw that her swelling had gone down, but she said it was the result of medicines that she had taken a few days ago.”

Naturally, the family was shocked when the police came knocking on their door to tell them that Suraiyya had left her baby to die in a dustbin.

When the Ghatkopar police found the one-day-old infant on September 21, she was severely injured and had several rat bite wounds on her arms. Immediately, a team led by Manisha Jadhav, sub-inspector of Ghatkopar police station, rushed to the spot. “We took charge of the baby, as she was alive, and admitted her to Rajawadi Hospital. She was badly bitten by rats,” recalled Jadhav. The infant was later shifted to Sion hospital.

When the police started investigation to find out who the mother was, they contacted all midwives in the area. “We contacted all the local midwives and also probed in and around the area, but we did not get information about any woman being pregnant around that time,” said Chandrakant Puri, police inspector of Ghatkopar police station. “But on September 23, we got a call from a woman saying that she suspected her neighbour, Kejal Suraiyya, to be the child’s mother.”

On subjecting Kejal to medical examination, the police found out that she had indeed delivered a baby around September 21. Finally, she confessed to the crime. She then revealed that she had given birth to the baby at her in-laws’ house when no one was around. Soon after the delivery, she dumped the child in a nearby dustbin.

Kejal suspected that her husband had an affair, and after frequent arguments over this, the two had stopped talking. Kejal had taken up a job in a Thane beauty parlour.

“When she came to know that she was pregnant with another man’s child, she figured out that she did not have enough money even for an abortion,” said Puri.

“She decided to give birth and dump the baby. We have arrested her and booked her under Sections 317 (exposure and abandonment of child under 12 years by parent or person) and 201 (causing disappearance of evidence of offence, or giving false information to screen offender) of the Indian Penal Code,” said Puri.

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Mard ko bhi dard hota hai

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 20, 2009

‘Harassed’ by female colleagues, MiD DAY reporter Varun Singh finds nobody is willing to help a man in distress. P.S. it’s International men’s day

When a woman complains to a bystander that she has been molested or someone is following her, the guy is at the receiving end of abuse or a few punches, knocking the air from his lusty sails.

On International Men’s Day, today, we witnessed that the same treatment is not meted out to men who are harassed.

Bachao! Urvashi, Alisha and Kranti pretend to harass Varun,
but none of these men came to his aid.

We got MiD DAY female reporters to harass Varun Singh in full view of passersby yesterday. Not a single person, including cops, came to his aid.

Bus Karo

Mahalaxmi bus stop

I walked towards the bus stop with my supposed trio of tormentors following me at a distance.

Two men who were chatting with each other at the bus stop stopped mid conversation and looked on interestedly as the girls and I staged a ‘fight’.

Hey, Handsome! The girls, Alisha, Urvashi and Kranti, harass
Varun at a bus stop in Mahalaxmi. The men look on passively.

One of the girls asked me my name and even started pulling my bag.

I asked the men for help, but they looked on in stony silence.

I kept requesting the men to help me out but they watched me like they were watching a film. When I kept prodding, one of them said, “What can we do? We can’t help you out!”

Chowky jao, band bajao

Haji Ali junction

I approached a traffic police officer, who was already stressed with the heavy traffic on the junction.

I told him the three women (pointing to my colleagues) have been following me since Mahalaxmi and were passing lewd comments.

Get Those Girls: Varun Singh asks this traffic cop to help him,
as the girls were following him and passing lewd comments.

The traffic cop responded saying, “I cannot help you. Please go to the police chowky.”

So I told him that the girls were right here and so he should act immediately, but the police officer insisted I go to the chowky and even gave me a piece of advice.

“Arre, go to the chowky and these girls will follow you there.”

Legal blocks

Esplanade court

I went to the Esplanade  court in the afternoon and approached a lawyer, and told him I have to register a complaint.

The lawyer said  he would help and told  me to tell him my story. I said that three girls were teasing me and no one helped out.

The change was dramatic. He said he couldn’t help me and I would have to “get a complaint registered with the police at Haji Ali.”

Help Me, Please: Varun Singh approaches a
lawyer at Esplanade court.

I reminded him that he had mentioned that it was not important to register a complaint at Haji Ali, but the lawyer seemed to have a sudden and convenient attack of amnesia.

I asked him how could I find him again (after filing my complaint at the police station). He said, “I am always here. I will be standing here.”

However, he refused to give me his number. I asked for his name and he said, “I am Swami, ask anyone about me,” and vanished in a flash of black and white.

Men’s Day

International Men’s Day is celebrated on November 19 every year.

It started in 1999 in Trinidad and Tobago and was supported by the United Nations and received in principal, support from men’s groups in USA, Europe, Africa, Asia, and the Caribbean.

Case Study

Savio D’souza, a victim of wife harassment, approached the law for help, but came away disappointed. He said, “My wife got a divorce in the church. She used to come home drunk at 3 am and beat me.

We have separated, but she’s staying in my house and I had to stay on the streets for nearly 18 months.”

Today, Savio and nearly 500 such men will march to Matralaya from Mulund, to protest the law which doesn’t give any relief to a man who is harassed by his wife or a women.

The march will comprise members of Protect Indian Family Foundation, Save Indian Family and Child Welfare Family Foundation, all of whom work for protecting the rights of men.

The men are protesting against 498 A (dowry harassment). They will submit a letter to the home ministry asking for an amendment in the law to protect men.

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Reaction To Women Abusing Men In Public

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on May 17, 2009

Look at the video to see how common public reacts –

See the difference between how they react when they see a woman beating a man versus a man beating a woman!

Look how passerby women feel a sense of pride and victory when they see another woman beating a guy, and how a policeman refuses to intervene when a woman beats a man but proudly says ‘I would have arrested the man if he was beating a woman’.

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