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Saas wins against bahu

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 6, 2009

ONLY WOMEN CAN WIN AGAINST WOMEN

THIS IS A NEW BEGINNING FOR ALL THE HARASSED MOTHERS IN LAWACROSS THE COUNTRY

http://www.telegraphindia.com/1091106/jsp/calcutta/story_11698981.jsp

– Court orders police to help old woman move back into usurped address
RITH BASU
Uma Dutta in her rented Patuli house. (Sanat Kr Sinha)

An elderly woman tortured and driven out of the house that her husband had built for her has found justice after a four-year court battle against her daughter-in-law.

Tears welled up in 71-year-old Uma Dutta’s eyes after an Alipore court ruled last Friday that she and her son Pratik were the rightful owners of the two-storeyed Garfa North Lake Road property usurped by bahu Runa Paul, 32.

The court asked Kasba police station to file a report on Uma’s allegations about political interference and police laxity by November 30 and also “maintain close vigil to ensure that the petitioner can live in the property peacefully”.

For retired railway pensioner Uma, the verdict was much more than just getting her Kasba house back from the clutches of her daughter-in-law who apparently has quite a track record of marriage-and-dupe.

“She (Runa) and her friends in the CPM had tied me to a chair and assaulted me when I refused to transfer the house in her name on July 25, 2005. They kept me without proper food and medicines for six days. I survived on puffed rice and water,” recalled Uma, who suffers from multiple ailments.

Son Pratik, who has a law degree but no regular source of income, sided with his mother after learning that Runa was thrice married before they met. “She had harassed and duped her previous in-laws, too,” said Uma’s lawyer Dipit Bose. Only one of Runa’s earlier marriages was registered, the lawyer added.

Runa and Pratik married in October 2003 and she allegedly started demanding Rs 6 lakh to open a pharmacy within three months of the wedding.

“She would turn violent when my son and I stood up to her. She got some local CPM leaders to intimidate us. When we decided to go to the police, the CPM activists threatened to frame us in a robbery case. Runa then threatened to slap a case under 498A of the IPC (torture for dowry) against me and my son,” said Uma.

A former office superintendent with the railways, Uma and her son have been living in a rented Patuli house since leaving their Garfa home. Runa has rented out a part of the two-storeyed house and occupied the remaining portion along with her extended family.

The inspector-in-charge of Kasba police station, Shankar Prasad Biswas, said he could act against Runa only after receiving a copy of the court order.

Runa was unavailable for comment. When Metro visited the Garfa house, nobody answered the doorbell. Neighbours have nailed a board to a wall of the house, warning prospective property buyers against dealing with Runa.

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Association to protect Mothers-in-law launched in AP

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 15, 2009

http://www.merinews.com/article/association-to-protect-mothers-in-law-launched-in-ap/15786341.shtml

MOTHERS-IN-LAW in our country are being severely discriminated against, neglected and subjected to all forms of domestic abuse over the last decade. Unless provisions are made to protect mothers-in-law from discrimination, domestic violence, and legal harassment, and unless steps are taken to ensure their welfare during their post-menopausal years, we will witness serious deterioration in the health conditions of aging women in the country, and reduction in their life span.

Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA) is the first ever social forum created to protect the rights and interests of mothers-in-law in Andhra Pradesh. APMPA is the Andhra Pradesh chapter of All India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum which was launched on 6 September 2009 in Bangalore, followed by the launch of local chapters in Delhi, Nagpur and Lucknow.

APMPA will work towards the protection and welfare of women in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and legal counseling. It will also urge the government to reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence laws and demand equal protection for mothers-in-law from domestic violence.
The helpline numbers of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association is 9704683163, 9753605415. Mothers-in-law facing harassment can contact at these numbers.
Mothers-in-law have historically been portrayed as evil and bloodthirsty by media and popular culture. However, it is a scientifically and also statistically established fact that mothers-in-law are unnecessarily maligned and subjected to discrimination by the society.
The National Family Health Survey (NFHS) has conclusively established that a woman in the age group of 15-49 years of age faces 8 times more violence from her own mother compared to her mother-in-law. 13.7% women have faced violence from their own mother as compared to 1.7% women who have faced from their mothers-in-law.
Recent Research has shown that “daughters-in-law are programmed to hate mothers-in-law”. This is one of the most important causes of the stereotyping of mothers-in-law in the society.
Mothers -in-law in India face severe abuse in the forms of :
Physical harassment including assault, locking up the mother-in-law in a room, denying food and medication etc.
Mental harassment including taunts, allegations, caustic comments, threatening to file police cases, disallowing communication with her son, grandchildren, defaming her and her family etc.
Verbal harassment including name calling, insulting, abusing, etc.
Economic abuse including extorting her money and wealth, throwing her out of her own house and forcibly occupying the house, etc.
Legal harassment including inciting the police to threaten her, filing false cases under Dowry Prohibition Act, IPC Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, and other related sections, sending her to jail or forcing her to run around the court for years together.
Driving mothers-in-law to commit suicide.
The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Family Health and Welfare only counts women between the ages of 15-49 as women. Mothers-in-law who fall in the age bracket above 49 do not count as women, and their health and welfare is not a matter of concern for the Government of India.
While there are close to 15 laws that provide protection to daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law do not have any societal support or legal protection from any form of discrimination or abuse.
In the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man.
Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment.
Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.
Several elderly women, falsely accused under IPC Section 498A (for the only crime of mothering sons and getting the sons married) approached the National Commission for Women, seeking justice. These women have long heart-rending accounts of how they are being harassed by their daughters-in-law. The NCW’s short, yet prompt and candid response to these mothers was, “Your matter does not fall under the mandate of the Commission”.
Similarly, in June 2009, a 45 year old mother-in-law was arrested in a dowry harassment case filed by her daughter-in-law. The poor lady was allegedly gang-raped in police custody, in Bhopal. The news, which was reported in leading newspapers, went completely unnoticed by the NCW or any other women’s organization that harp about fighting atrocities against women. No panel was set up. No probe was initiated and no action has been taken against this brutality perpetrated against a mother-in-law.
On 8 October 2009, a news report described the gut-wrenching tale of a 75-year-old mother-in-law, Jiwan Devi, who is another victim of societal and legal bias against mothers-in-law. Holding back her tears, here is what she said to the journalist who visited her:
“What is the point?…I and my sons were in jail for four years before we were acquitted. And my grandchildren were at the mercy of our neighbours and distant relatives. Why?… My granddaughter is 19. While all her friends are in college, she is still in class 11. This happened only because there was no one to take care of them while we were in jail. They were also in deep shock”’
There are thousands of Jiwan Devis in this country, whose lives have been destroyed, just for having given life to sons. These are the women whose woes do not fall under the agenda of the Ministry for Women and Child Development, the National Commission for Women, or any other related women’s organization, and they have nowhere to go to seek help and support for problems specifically affecting them.

APMPA will work towards the protection and welfare of women in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and legal counseling. It will also urge the government to reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence laws and demand equal protection for mothers-in-law from domestic violence.

The helpline numbers of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association is 9704683163, 9753605415. Mothers-in-law facing harassment can contact at these numbers.

Mothers-in-law have historically been portrayed as evil and bloodthirsty by media and popular culture. However, it is a scientifically and also statistically established fact that mothers-in-law are unnecessarily maligned and subjected to discrimination by the society.

The National Family Health Survey (NFHS) has conclusively established that a woman in the age group of 15-49 years of age faces 8 times more violence from her own mother compared to her mother-in-law. 13.7% women have faced violence from their own mother as compared to 1.7% women who have faced from their mothers-in-law.

Recent Research has shown that “daughters-in-law are programmed to hate mothers-in-law”. This is one of the most important causes of the stereotyping of mothers-in-law in the society.

Mothers -in-law in India face severe abuse in the forms of :

  • Physical harassment including assault, locking up the mother-in-law in a room, denying food and medication etc.
  • Mental harassment including taunts, allegations, caustic comments, threatening to file police cases, disallowing communication with her son, grandchildren, defaming her and her family etc.
  • Verbal harassment including name calling, insulting, abusing, etc.
  • Economic abuse including extorting her money and wealth, throwing her out of her own house and forcibly occupying the house, etc.
  • Legal harassment including inciting the police to threaten her, filing false cases under Dowry Prohibition Act, IPC Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, and other related sections, sending her to jail or forcing her to run around the court for years together.
  • Driving mothers-in-law to commit suicide.

The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Family Health and Welfare only counts women between the ages of 15-49 as women. Mothers-in-law who fall in the age bracket above 49 do not count as women, and their health and welfare is not a matter of concern for the Government of India.

While there are close to 15 laws that provide protection to daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law do not have any societal support or legal protection from any form of discrimination or abuse.

In the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man.

Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment.

Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.

Several elderly women, falsely accused under IPC Section 498A (for the only crime of mothering sons and getting the sons married) approached the National Commission for Women, seeking justice. These women have long heart-rending accounts of how they are being harassed by their daughters-in-law. The NCW’s short, yet prompt and candid response to these mothers was, “Your matter does not fall under the mandate of the Commission”.

Similarly, in June 2009, a 45 year old mother-in-law was arrested in a dowry harassment case filed by her daughter-in-law. The poor lady was allegedly gang-raped in police custody, in Bhopal. The news, which was reported in leading newspapers, went completely unnoticed by the NCW or any other women’s organization that harp about fighting atrocities against women. No panel was set up. No probe was initiated and no action has been taken against this brutality perpetrated against a mother-in-law.

On 8 October 2009, a news report described the gut-wrenching tale of a 75-year-old mother-in-law, Jiwan Devi, who is another victim of societal and legal bias against mothers-in-law. Holding back her tears, here is what she said to the journalist who visited her:

“What is the point?…I and my sons were in jail for four years before we were acquitted. And my grandchildren were at the mercy of our neighbours and distant relatives. Why?… My granddaughter is 19. While all her friends are in college, she is still in class 11. This happened only because there was no one to take care of them while we were in jail. They were also in deep shock”’

There are thousands of Jiwan Devis in this country, whose lives have been destroyed, just for having given life to sons. These are the women whose woes do not fall under the agenda of the Ministry for Women and Child Development, the National Commission for Women, or any other related women’s organization, and they have nowhere to go to seek help and support for problems specifically affecting them.

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Mothers-in-law group to fight cruelty by Daughters-in-law

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on September 9, 2009

Mothers-in-law of India group together to fight against the cruelty by their daughters-in-law.

The news is covered by BBC as well as countries like Russia and Gulf.

All India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum (AIMPF) news at BBC :
 http://news. bbc.co.uk/ 2/hi/south_ asia/8241275. stm

http://www.gulf- times.com/ site/topics/ article.asp? cu_no=2&item_ no=313453& version=1& template_ id=40&parent_ id=22

http://www.dnaindia .com/mumbai/ report_we- are-victims- not-vamps- mums-in-law_ 1288123 says “It’s official. The saas-bahu soaps have got it wrong. Contrary to what reel households portray, mothers-in-law are seldom the villain of the piece in real domestic settings.

The latest round of the National Family Health Survey (NFHS) shows that
young women face maximum domestic violence from their own parents rather than in-laws. Armed with the data, over 700 women have joined hands to launch the All-India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum (AIMPF) to break their stereotyping as vamps, and demand protection against violence and abuse by daughters-in- law”

According to the NFHS report, 13.7% women faced violence from their
mother as against 1.7% tormented by their mother-in-law. Among unmarried women, 57.1%, and among women who were married but whose send-off ceremonies were yet to take place, 64.3% reported family members, particularly mothers, as perpetrators of violence against them.”*

All data can be found at page 548 of the following report

http://www.nfhsindi a.org/NFHS- 3%20Data/ VOL-1/India_ volume_I_ corrected_ 17oct08.pdf

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