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Indian men have gender bias

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 24, 2009

Most men have a gender bias. This article is one of the few articles on this blog that I am writing in favour of woman.
You can evaluate yourself on the below mentioned 10 points and evaluate for yourself whether you are gender neutral or not – perhaps it is time to change.
1. When you go out with a female, insist that you share the expenses equally. Most humans get offended when someone else pays for them. Males do not have a right to hurt females like this.
2. Do not open the door for a woman, if you will not open the door for a man. We should treat women the way we treat men. That is what gender equality is all about.
3. After a party, if you share a taxi ride back home, do not drop the girl first just because she is a girl. If your house is closer, then you should get dropped first.
4. When you are traveling by public transport (say a bus), you see an old woman standing while you have a seat. Before offering her a seat, think about whether you would have offered a seat to an old man too?
5. You work as a manager and there are males as well as females working in your team. Do not allow females to leave early on pretext of household work. Males have equal responsibilities at home.
6. When you look at a female, realize that she is superior to you in physical strength. She is
going to live 7 years longer than you. This thought should specially come to you if there is a
situation where the female is expecting some physical help from you – for example, in keeping a
heavy travel bag in the cabin of an airplane. Do not do it for her. Females should carry only as
much luggage as they can carry on their own. It is only because they make males (even strangers)
do the labour work that they live so much longer than us.
7. When you have a heavy piece of baggage that need to be kept in the overhead baggage compartment, and you wanted to seek help of the cabin crew – do not change your mind if the crew is a female. Let her do her duty. Females and males are two wheels of the society. Let the females also do their job and derive job satisfaction.
8. In office jobs requiring shifts, do not force only male employees to work night shifts. Let
females also take turns. If they refuse, fire them (like the way you would fire males if they
are not fit for a job). If the trend continues, stop to hire females.
9. When an NGO asks for money, look at their advertisements. They will always have girl photos,
because they know everyone has a soft corner for females. Refuse to donate, and tell them that
you would donate to NGOs who are not biased towards one gender.
10. When a girl beggar asks you for money, do not give it. You are already giving Rupees 7,428 Crore Rupees through women’s ministry to the poor girls. (Men pay 82% of the taxes collected in this country).

Most men have a gender bias. This article is one of the few articles on this blog that I am writing in favour of woman.

You can evaluate yourself on the below mentioned 10 points and evaluate for yourself whether you are gender neutral or not – perhaps it is time to change.

1. When you go out with a female, insist that you share the expenses equally. Most humans get offended when someone else pays for them. One gender  routinely paying for the other makes the other gender feel inferior. Males do not have a right to hurt female ego like this.

2. Do not open the door for a woman, if you will not open the door for a man. We should treat women the way we treat men. That is what gender equality is all about.

3. After a party, if you share a taxi ride back home, do not drop the girl first just because she is a girl. If your house is closer, then you should get dropped first.

4. When you are traveling by public transport (say a bus), you see an old woman standing while you have a seat. Before offering her a seat, think about whether you would have offered a seat to an old man too?

5. You work as a manager and there are males as well as females working in your team. Do not allow females to leave early on pretext of household work. Males have equal responsibilities at home.

6. When you look at a female, realize that she is superior to you in physical strength. She is going to live 7 years longer than you. This thought should specially come to you if there is a situation where the female is expecting some physical help from you – for example, in keeping a heavy travel bag in the cabin of an airplane. Do not do it for her. Females should carry only as much luggage as they can carry on their own. It is only because they make males (even strangers) do the labour work that they live so much longer than us.

7. When you have a heavy piece of baggage that need to be kept in the overhead baggage compartment, and you wanted to seek help of the cabin crew – do not change your mind if the crew is a female. Let her do her duty. Females and males are two wheels of the society. Let the females also do their job and derive job satisfaction.

8. In office jobs requiring shifts, do not force only male employees to work night shifts. Let females also take turns. If they refuse, fire them (like the way you would fire males if they are not fit for a job). If the trend continues, stop to hire females.

9. When an NGO asks for money, look at their advertisements. They will always have girl photos, because they know everyone has a soft corner for females. Refuse to donate, and tell them that you would donate to NGOs who are not biased towards one gender.

10. When a girl beggar asks you for money, do not give it. You are already giving Rupees 7,428 Crore Rupees through women’s ministry to the poor girls. (Men pay 82% of the taxes collected in this country).

So boys – Next time someone says ‘Respect women’, you should ask them – ‘Men do not deserve respect?’

Next time, when someone says – ‘A woman is a mother and a sister’. You should ask them – ‘And men are only meant to be free ATM machines?’

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Husband kills wife to marry lover

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 14, 2008

Getting divorce in India is so difficult that people prefer to kill their spouse rather than go to the court seeking divorce.

My wife did not kill me because she wanted to live off my money for the rest of her life (seeking monthly maintenance from me/ settlement money to quash criminal cases etc), otherwise she would have surely killed me.

BANGALORE: A software engineer, who “murdered” his wife in order to marry another woman, has been arrested, a top police official said here today.

Manoj Kumar was nabbed yesterday for the cold-blooded murder of his wife Lakshmi,also a software engineer, on November 7, Police Commissioner, Bangalore city,Shankar Bidari told reporters.

“All gold ornaments which the accused had removed from his wife’s body, Rs 30,000 cash and the iron-rod used to hit her on the head, which had been hidden in a bush by Kumar has been recovered”, he said.

Investigations revealed that though Kumar left for work in the morning, he went back home in the afternoon on the day the murder was committed.

When he was questioned, Kumar, who had lodged the complaint about the murder, said he was “not happy with Lakshmi whom he married under pressure from his parents and wanted to get rid of her and marry his
lover, a married woman who had sought divorce from her husband”, the police official said.

He had removed the ornaments to make it appear as a murder for gain, Bidari said.

The murder comes close on the heels of a triple murder committed by a retired Air Force Sergeant, D S Yadav in the city recently, police said.
http://timesofindia .indiatimes. com/Cities/ Bangalore_ man_held_ for_wifes_murder/articleshow /3713696. cms

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It’s a man’s world?

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 14, 2008

Discrimination against males starts even before they are born and still the world is fooled into believing that it’s a man’s world!

According to Indian law, aborting a male child is not a crime but aborting a female child is. So killing a male child even before he is born is allowed but one can be jailed for killing a female child. And then they claim that its a man’s world…

http://nrcw.nic.in/shared/sublinkimages/78.htm

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