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Young NRI men in UK being forced into marriage

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on July 2, 2010

http://in.news.yahoo.com/48/20100701/1247/twl-young-nri-men-in-uk-being-forced-int_1.html

British officials have been dealing with several cases of young Indian-origin women being forced into marriages against their will, but recent cases show a sharp increase of men facing such ordeals.

Britain has set up a Forced Marriage Unit (FMU) that deals with cases of British citizens being forcibly taken to the Indian sub-continent and married against their will for cultural, immigration or family reasons.

The unit has rescued several young women, but it is estimated that most cases go unreported. Latest figures show that during the last year, the unit registered a 65 per cent rise in the number of calls from men.

The unit received the most calls from men linked to Pakistan, followed by India and Bangladesh. It also received calls from British men with links to the Middle East, Africa and eastern Europe.

A spokesman said: “The calls we receive are the tip of the iceberg. It now seems likely that men account for one in five of all the forced marriages that take place to British citizens.”

In June, the FMU took a call from a young man in Leicester whose family had allegedly locked him in his bedroom after discovering that he was gay.

He told the FMU that his family were downstairs, discussing whether to take him to India and either kill him, abandon him there or marry him off.

Last year, the FMU gave advice and support to 1,682 men and women regarding suspected forced marriage.

More than 220 calls and emails involved male victims, up from 134 in 2008. As of the end of May this year, there have been 88 calls from men for help.

Foreign Office Minister Jeremy Browne said: “Boys and men who are forced into marriage find it harder to ask for help than women, but we are urging males affected by forced marriage to speak out and seek the help that is available to them.”

He added: “Of course, women make up the majority of forced marriage victims, and over 1,400 reports of women facing this abuse were dealt with by the FMU last year.

But people often don’t realise that men can be victims of forced marriage too.”

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Balm for men

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on May 25, 2010

ASK someone about the problems of women, and a list would emerge that would never seem to end. Ask about men’s problems, and you see only blank faces. Does that mean that men do not have any problem? Or is it that there is no awareness amongst the general public? Or is it just that men are simply taken for granted? If Uma Challa had her way, she would strive to bring in changes.

The All-India Men’s Welfare Association wants laws to be enacted to protect men from harassment

http://www.tribuneindia.com/2010/20100523/spectrum/main4.htm

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P7 news channel – Kayda Kanoon

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on March 4, 2010

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Married men more prone to suicide: Study

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 27, 2010

Married men more prone to suicide: Study

February 27th, 2010

It’s not just women who go through trauma as a result of bad marriages. Men suffer just as much, but silently. Recent data made public by the National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB) points out that one married man in India is committing suicide every nine minutes. According to the survey, the cause may vary from personal problems and marital issues to economic pressures. It’s clear that many men are agonising internally over failed marriages.

Psychologist Sridevi S says it’s because men are not as expressive as women and bottle their feelings. “Women have been nurtured from the time they are young into believing that they can surmount problems. But on the other hand men are told not to cry and express emotions in public, so they suppress all their troubles until it overwhelms them and they feel they can’t take it any more.” She continues, “The sudden increase in suicidal tendencies among men is also because earlier women took care of all the family issues, but today, both husband and wife are working, they deal with it together. So men find it difficult to balance home as well as work.” The survey points out that compared to women, men are a greater suicide risk, with a male-female ratio of 64:36.

Suresh Ram, Convener, Save Indian Family movement, TN, says that this could be the result of pro-women Indian laws. “There are several laws in our country which protect women, while men have no such protection. Often women take advantage of it. There is this stereotype attached to men, that they should not cry or express their depression. Why is it,” he questions, “that when a man commits suicide he is called coward, while when a woman does so, they say she is driven to it-” he asks.

Actor Srikanth says,”Being a married man could be a little stressful today, but you must understand that there is a woman in your life who is also going through the same.”

http://www.deccanch ronicle.com/ tabloids/ married-men- more-prone- suicide-study- 634

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A man’s rights in India

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 25, 2010

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All the rights that a man has in India are listed above.

Can’t see anything? That is because there are no rights for men in India.

Only women have rights and these rights have been given to them by men only.

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It’s a man’s world

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 23, 2010

Time and again, I have heard that it is a man’s world.

A man is murdered every 19 minutes as opposed to a woman every 66 minutes. The number of men committing suicide is twice the number of women committing suicide. At home, men are twice as likely to be driven to commit suicide as compared to women. Outside home, men are getting murdered three times as compared to women.

82% of the taxes collected by the Government are contributed by men and Rupees 11,400 Crore is spent annually on women’s welfare. Not even a single rupee has been spent on men’s welfare in the last 60 years the country has been independent. There is a ministry for women and a ministry for children. There are protection laws for almost everyone and everything – including women, soil, animals, fisheries, forest etc. The only entity inconspicuously missing from the large list is men.

Talking about protection, even the domestic violence laws of the nation are gender biased. Only a woman can seek relief from the court under the recently enacted domestic violence act.

On the complaint of women, even 2 month babies have been arrested by the police for causing extreme mental harassment to women.

In the court of law, men are presumed to be guilty unless proven innocent. And given the abysmally slow pace of legal proceedings, it takes decades before a man can prove his innocence.

Adultery is a crime for men while women can legally do it. What is more interesting is the fact that women can now claim alimony from their illicit partner as well. By the way, unlike countries like USA where alimony is only for long lasting marriages and for a specific period of time, in India women are entitled to life-long alimony payments even if the marriage lasted 1 day.

Indian courts, including the Supreme Court of India, routinely forgive women for contempt of court and perjury because of their gender.

Any un-natural death of a woman within 7 years of marriage sends her husband to jail automatically. The most common cause of an un-natural death is suicide; and we already discussed that men are twice as likely to commit suicide as compared to women.

1.12 males are born to every female. The ratio declines to 1.10 by the age of 15; to 1.06 in the age group 15 – 64; and 0.90 for the age group 65 and above. This seems to imply that girls are either genetically superior to boys OR they are protected and men are made to do all the hazardous tasks.

As a matter of fact, worldwide women live on an average 5 – 7 years longer as compared to men. Still, the importance given to women’s health is many times more as compared to men’s health.

Talking about women’s issue is in vogue but people ridicule when a person talks about men’s issues. Hence there are hardly any opinion articles written about men. I personally spoke to an editor of a well known Indian national newspaper and he said “I agree with you in principle but I will not be able to publish any of your views. They are anti-women and the women will sit outside my home on a hunger strike”.

So, people are scared of women, and perhaps because of valid reasons. Last year, women activists forced their way into a High Court and broke the wooden chair on which the judge used to sit because he delivered a judgment in the favor of a husband in a matrimonial dispute.

Talking about the courts, a few months back a Supreme Court judge, while deciding on a matrimonial dispute, clearly told the man “Do as your wife tells you. If she says look this side then you look this side. If she says look that side then look that side. We all have suffered”.

The president of India is a woman and the most powerful politician in the country is also a woman. And still they say it is a man’s world!

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One married man commits suicide every 9 min

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 22, 2010

Family problems, illness, love affairs, bankruptcy identified as top causes.

We need a Men’s welfare Ministry since theres no avenue to safe guard a Man’s rights presently, the society is conditioned to ignore and ridicule Men’s issues. Men’s issues are listed below for reader’s reference.

Men and boys are always expected to be and conditioned to become protectors and providers, and also routinely portrayed as

* Oppressors, aggressors, wife-beaters, dowry-seekers, bride-burners, sexual perverts, pimps, cheats, criminals, murderers, rapists, drug-peddlers, terrorists, etc. who ought to be restrained through inhuman, draconian laws;

* Idiots, pathetic, uncouth and inferior creatures who are constantly in need of rescue by their “superior” wives, girlfriends or female relatives who are set to overhaul them;

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Women empowerment project successful

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 18, 2010

Hello WCD, NCW and other feminists,

Looks like your Women Empowerment project is successful.

http://epaper. sakshi.com/ Details.aspx? id=383438& boxid=29635926

Translated version:Alleging that “We are given sleeping pills to make us
sleep so that she can enjoy her carnal pleasures. She continues illicit
relationship with others when our father is not at home. When told to mend
her behaviour, she, alongwith our father, necked us out. Save us from the
attrocities of our mother,” 3 children knocked the SHRC. K.Sravani(11) ,
K.Vani(9) & K.Renuka(7) from RTC Colony, Guntur complained to the
commission. And mentioned in the complaint that “Our father Chandrasekhar
works as Home Guard in Donakonda Police Station. Mom works as sweeper in a bank there. When our father is away on night duty, many people would visit
our house. When asked as to why she is doing so in front of the kids, she
threatened to kill us. Joining hands with father, she necked us out. We fear
that she & her paramour would kill us. She caused harm to our grandfather
who gave shelter to us. Save us from her and admit us in a school.”

Sakshi, Hyderabad city edition, Page 6.

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Defeating Feminism Videos

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on December 25, 2009

Defeating feminism – Part1

Defeating feminism – Part2

Defeating feminism – Part3
Look at how at 3.55 minutes, the first blog he talks about is from India – All India Men’s welfare association 🙂

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Men, Math and Marriage

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on December 22, 2009

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