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Now, a forum for ‘tortured’ husbands

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 31, 2009

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/hyderabad/Now-a-forum-for-tortured-husbands/articleshow/5182345.cms

HYDERABAD:It wasn’t the voices of victimised women but those of men complaining of “wicked wives’’ that were heard the the most during this domestic violence awareness month that ends today, October 31.

The month may have been earmarked to coax women to step out of their homes to file cases against cruel husbands, but in Hyderabad men were seen asking “aggrieved’’ husbands to report the ill-treatment meted out to them by their wives.

Having found a confidant in each other, these men, claiming to be victims of false dowry harassment cases and domestic abuse, toured the city roads distributing pamphlets about the absence of a law to protect them against such ill-treatment and the need for more ‘male-oriented’ policies. They held campaigns and seminars where they accused the society of being biased towards women and prejudiced against men, and went from one locality to the other asking other traumatised husbands to come forward and report such incidents.

The ‘tortured spouses’ also launched an All-India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA) to take their battle to a higher level and call for a separate ministry for safeguarding the interests of men like them. “India even has a separate ministry for animals. Why should the men be left out then?” said S Venugopal, convener of Save India Family Foundation (SIFF), Andhra Pradesh chapter, the body that facilitated the launch of AIMWA. Venugopal, who joined this group around six months ago says that the awareness about these social groups is increasingly growing among men in the state who, unlike in the past, are now willing to
come out and share their experiences with the world. “When I joined SIFF there were indeed a few others like me. But today the numbers have doubled,” he said.

Parthasarathy T R, one of the founders of AIMWA agrees with this as he goes on to point out how the three helplines, that are available for such male victims, have not stopped ringing ever since they held these rallies. “Each of these numbers receive close to 30-40 calls a day as against 10-15 previously, from distressed husbands,” he said. These organisations are also conducting an increased number of counselling sessions for such men now, who they say, tend to develop suicidal tendencies if not attended to. “The pain and agony that men go through, when subjected to domestic violence is much like what women face, when ill-treated. But everybody sympathises with the women, the men find no listeners,” said Mohammed Jaleel a member of AIMWA adding, “Whenever I tried to tell people how I was wrongly framed, they either thought I was mad or was trying to cover my misdeeds of harassing my wife by saying all that. Nobody believed anything that I said until I joined this forum.”

Curiously, much like in the case of women, the stories of harassment of these husbands are also related to their in-laws. While some complain of their in-laws forcing them to become ‘ghar jamais’, others allege that their influential in-laws have got them beaten up by the police without even filing a case. Home truths of another kind.

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DV Act 3rd anniversary celebrated across India

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 26, 2009

Troubled by their daughter-in-law and the biased laws, Indian families come to the roads across India on the 3rd Anniversary of the highly criticized DV Act.

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Indian men have gender bias

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 24, 2009

Most men have a gender bias. This article is one of the few articles on this blog that I am writing in favour of woman.
You can evaluate yourself on the below mentioned 10 points and evaluate for yourself whether you are gender neutral or not – perhaps it is time to change.
1. When you go out with a female, insist that you share the expenses equally. Most humans get offended when someone else pays for them. Males do not have a right to hurt females like this.
2. Do not open the door for a woman, if you will not open the door for a man. We should treat women the way we treat men. That is what gender equality is all about.
3. After a party, if you share a taxi ride back home, do not drop the girl first just because she is a girl. If your house is closer, then you should get dropped first.
4. When you are traveling by public transport (say a bus), you see an old woman standing while you have a seat. Before offering her a seat, think about whether you would have offered a seat to an old man too?
5. You work as a manager and there are males as well as females working in your team. Do not allow females to leave early on pretext of household work. Males have equal responsibilities at home.
6. When you look at a female, realize that she is superior to you in physical strength. She is
going to live 7 years longer than you. This thought should specially come to you if there is a
situation where the female is expecting some physical help from you – for example, in keeping a
heavy travel bag in the cabin of an airplane. Do not do it for her. Females should carry only as
much luggage as they can carry on their own. It is only because they make males (even strangers)
do the labour work that they live so much longer than us.
7. When you have a heavy piece of baggage that need to be kept in the overhead baggage compartment, and you wanted to seek help of the cabin crew – do not change your mind if the crew is a female. Let her do her duty. Females and males are two wheels of the society. Let the females also do their job and derive job satisfaction.
8. In office jobs requiring shifts, do not force only male employees to work night shifts. Let
females also take turns. If they refuse, fire them (like the way you would fire males if they
are not fit for a job). If the trend continues, stop to hire females.
9. When an NGO asks for money, look at their advertisements. They will always have girl photos,
because they know everyone has a soft corner for females. Refuse to donate, and tell them that
you would donate to NGOs who are not biased towards one gender.
10. When a girl beggar asks you for money, do not give it. You are already giving Rupees 7,428 Crore Rupees through women’s ministry to the poor girls. (Men pay 82% of the taxes collected in this country).

Most men have a gender bias. This article is one of the few articles on this blog that I am writing in favour of woman.

You can evaluate yourself on the below mentioned 10 points and evaluate for yourself whether you are gender neutral or not – perhaps it is time to change.

1. When you go out with a female, insist that you share the expenses equally. Most humans get offended when someone else pays for them. One gender  routinely paying for the other makes the other gender feel inferior. Males do not have a right to hurt female ego like this.

2. Do not open the door for a woman, if you will not open the door for a man. We should treat women the way we treat men. That is what gender equality is all about.

3. After a party, if you share a taxi ride back home, do not drop the girl first just because she is a girl. If your house is closer, then you should get dropped first.

4. When you are traveling by public transport (say a bus), you see an old woman standing while you have a seat. Before offering her a seat, think about whether you would have offered a seat to an old man too?

5. You work as a manager and there are males as well as females working in your team. Do not allow females to leave early on pretext of household work. Males have equal responsibilities at home.

6. When you look at a female, realize that she is superior to you in physical strength. She is going to live 7 years longer than you. This thought should specially come to you if there is a situation where the female is expecting some physical help from you – for example, in keeping a heavy travel bag in the cabin of an airplane. Do not do it for her. Females should carry only as much luggage as they can carry on their own. It is only because they make males (even strangers) do the labour work that they live so much longer than us.

7. When you have a heavy piece of baggage that need to be kept in the overhead baggage compartment, and you wanted to seek help of the cabin crew – do not change your mind if the crew is a female. Let her do her duty. Females and males are two wheels of the society. Let the females also do their job and derive job satisfaction.

8. In office jobs requiring shifts, do not force only male employees to work night shifts. Let females also take turns. If they refuse, fire them (like the way you would fire males if they are not fit for a job). If the trend continues, stop to hire females.

9. When an NGO asks for money, look at their advertisements. They will always have girl photos, because they know everyone has a soft corner for females. Refuse to donate, and tell them that you would donate to NGOs who are not biased towards one gender.

10. When a girl beggar asks you for money, do not give it. You are already giving Rupees 7,428 Crore Rupees through women’s ministry to the poor girls. (Men pay 82% of the taxes collected in this country).

So boys – Next time someone says ‘Respect women’, you should ask them – ‘Men do not deserve respect?’

Next time, when someone says – ‘A woman is a mother and a sister’. You should ask them – ‘And men are only meant to be free ATM machines?’

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Cruelty against women; Court concerned over misuse of law

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 17, 2009

http://www.indianexpress.com/news/cruelty-against-women-court-concerned-over-misuse-of-law/529372/

New Delhi A Delhi court has expressed concern over growing propensity to rope in innocent persons as accused in cases relating to cruelty against married women and sought a vigilant approach from lower courts in prosecuting relatives of the accused husband.

“A tendency has emerged to rope in family members of the husband in cases of Section 498A (cruelty against women), of the IPC. Concrete allegations with regard to the date, the place, the manner, the act of cruelty should be present in the evidence in order to frame charge,” Additional Sessions Judge (ASJ) S K Sarvaria said.

Upholding an order of a magistrate who discharged the husband and his family members in a harassment case lodged by his estranged wife, the ASJ said, “Because of the present propensity to rope in innocent persons, the trial courts have to be vigilant while framing charges for offence of cruelty.

The prosecution had challenged the lower court’s order discharging five accused from the charges of subjecting complainant Kiran to cruelty in 2002 here.

After filing of the chargesheet, the Magistrate had discharged them of the charges saying it did not find concrete evidence to proceed with the case.

The “judicial mind” needed to be applied considering the facts and circumstances of each case while framing the charges, the ASJ said upholding the findings of the lower court.

The ASJ said that the courts were empowered to differ with the findings of probe agencies if they found lacunae in their investigation.

“The court is not expected to act as the Post Office to the decision of investigating agency. When there is some suspicion but not grave suspicion, it is empowered to discharge the accused if the circumstances so warrant,” he said.

The court said that “vague and bald” statements cannot be the foundation for framing of charge.

“When allegations are levelled, the courts are not expected to accept them without applying a judicial mind to the facts and circumstances of the case. The framing of a charge is not a knee-jerk reaction, but is an application of the judicial mind to the evidence before the court,” it said.

The court said that the woman had failed to come up with any specific instance of cruelty in her complaint.

“Facing a criminal trial is not an easy task, it is an ordeal. A person accused of an offence is not only socially stigmatised, but also has to invest time, money and energy in protecting his liberty and reputation,” it said.

A Delhi court has expressed concern over growing propensity to rope in innocent persons as accused in cases relating to cruelty against married women and sought a vigilant approach from lower courts in prosecuting relatives of the accused husband.
“A tendency has emerged to rope in family members of the husband in cases of Section 498A (cruelty against women), of the IPC. Concrete allegations with regard to the date, the place, the manner, the act of cruelty should be present in the evidence in order to frame charge,” Additional Sessions Judge (ASJ) S K Sarvaria said.
Upholding an order of a magistrate who discharged the husband and his family members in a harassment case lodged by his estranged wife, the ASJ said, “Because of the present propensity to rope in innocent persons, the trial courts have to be vigilant while framing charges for offence of cruelty.
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The prosecution had challenged the lower court’s order discharging five accused from the charges of subjecting complainant Kiran to cruelty in 2002 here.
After filing of the chargesheet, the Magistrate had discharged them of the charges saying it did not find concrete evidence to proceed with the case.
The “judicial mind” needed to be applied considering the facts and circumstances of each case while framing the charges, the ASJ said upholding the findings of the lower court.
The ASJ said that the courts were empowered to differ with the findings of probe agencies if they found lacunae in their investigation.
“The court is not expected to act as the Post Office to the decision of investigating agency. When there is some suspicion but not grave suspicion, it is empowered to discharge the accused if the circumstances so warrant,” he saidA Delhi court has expressed concern over growing propensity to rope in innocent persons as accused in cases relating to cruelty against married women and sought a vigilant approach from lower courts in prosecuting relatives of the accused husband.
“A tendency has emerged to rope in family members of the husband in cases of Section 498A (cruelty against women), of the IPC. Concrete allegations with regard to the date, the place, the manner, the act of cruelty should be present in the evidence in order to frame charge,” Additional Sessions Judge (ASJ) S K Sarvaria said.
Upholding an order of a magistrate who discharged the husband and his family members in a harassment case lodged by his estranged wife, the ASJ said, “Because of the present propensity to rope in innocent persons, the trial courts have to be vigilant while framing charges for offence of cruelty.
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The prosecution had challenged the lower court’s order discharging five accused from the charges of subjecting complainant Kiran to cruelty in 2002 here.
After filing of the chargesheet, the Magistrate had discharged them of the charges saying it did not find concrete evidence to proceed with the case.
The “judicial mind” needed to be applied considering the facts and circumstances of each case while framing the charges, the ASJ said upholding the findings of the lower court.
The ASJ said that the courts were empowered to differ with the findings of probe agencies if they found lacunae in their investigation.
“The court is not expected to act as the Post Office to the decision of investigating agency. When there is some suspicion but not grave suspicion, it is empowered to discharge the accused if the circumstances so warrant,” he said.

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No Arrest in dowry harassment matters!

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 17, 2009

http://epaper.hindustandainik.com/artMailDisp.aspx?article=17_10_2009_013_006&typ=1&Archtype=&pub=324

  • No arrest in matters where the maximum punishment is less than 7 years
  • Law commission gave report to home minister
  • No need to review the provisions of stay

The path is clear for implementation of Cr.P.C. amendments that have mandated no arrest of the accused in cases leading to less than 7 years of imprisonment. Law commission, along with tightening the grip on police officials, has recommended the continual of recent amendements. The commission said it is un-necessary to ponder on the other section – 309. Staying the proceedings or not is a matter of court’s jurisprudence.

Under the new provisions 41-A, the police will not arrest the accused for crimes that are punishable with less than 7 years. In stead, the police can issue a notice ‘informing’ them that they should appear at the police station for investigations.

The commission said that the word ‘may’ should be changed to ‘will’ in the provisions. This implies that sending the notice to the accused should be made mandatory. Commission said this is to ensure that police officials do not benefit the accused under any political pressure or by unfair dealings. The commission also said that if the addressee of the notice hides own identity, then this can be a basis for arrest.

In the report, chief of the commission Justice A R Laxman clarified that the decision not to arrest the accused is equivalent to judicial directives. If a police official mis-uses powers, then he would be liable for contempt of court in addition to the departmental disciplinary action.

AMENDED SECTION 41-A: police will not arrest person accused with offenses punishable with less than 7 years. In stead, a notice will be issued to them. Only on a failure to follow notice can an arrest happen with the orders of a magistrate. Crimes like eve teasing, attempt to loot, and dowry torture will come out of the ambit of arrest. Till now, an arrest used to happen immediately after the registration of F.I.R. because offenses with more than 3 years punishment were cognizable.

Intention: stopping arrest in un-necessary and false cases. Also to reduce the crowd in jails

Opposition: Criminals will lose the fear of law

AMENDED SECTION 309: not to stay the case in the absence of lawyer

Intention: To reduce the burden of cases and controlling the tendency to delay proceedings for a long time

Opposition: lawyers said, this is against the natural principles of law. Accused will suffer because of this.

Dahej Pratadna Mamlon mein Giraftari Nahi

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Wife kills drunkard husband

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 16, 2009

Look at how media justifies wife killing of husband.

Because the husband was a drunkard, it is ok to kill him?

Who knows whether he was actually a drunkard or not?

Will media praise the bravery of husband also if he kills a wife bec she is a drunkard?

http://www.telegrap hindia.com/ 1091016/jsp/ nation/story_ 11622254. jsp
>
> Erode (PTI): A woman killed her husband by setting him on fire, police
> said. Palanisamy, 50, used to drink and beat up Senniammal. Last Saturday,
> Senniammal poured kerosene on her husband and set him ablaze after a
> quarrel. She then dumped the body in a garbage bin and covered it with mud.
> But she later confessed to the panchayat pradhan out of fear, the police
> said.

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Association to protect Mothers-in-law launched in AP

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 15, 2009

http://www.merinews.com/article/association-to-protect-mothers-in-law-launched-in-ap/15786341.shtml

MOTHERS-IN-LAW in our country are being severely discriminated against, neglected and subjected to all forms of domestic abuse over the last decade. Unless provisions are made to protect mothers-in-law from discrimination, domestic violence, and legal harassment, and unless steps are taken to ensure their welfare during their post-menopausal years, we will witness serious deterioration in the health conditions of aging women in the country, and reduction in their life span.

Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA) is the first ever social forum created to protect the rights and interests of mothers-in-law in Andhra Pradesh. APMPA is the Andhra Pradesh chapter of All India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum which was launched on 6 September 2009 in Bangalore, followed by the launch of local chapters in Delhi, Nagpur and Lucknow.

APMPA will work towards the protection and welfare of women in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and legal counseling. It will also urge the government to reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence laws and demand equal protection for mothers-in-law from domestic violence.
The helpline numbers of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association is 9704683163, 9753605415. Mothers-in-law facing harassment can contact at these numbers.
Mothers-in-law have historically been portrayed as evil and bloodthirsty by media and popular culture. However, it is a scientifically and also statistically established fact that mothers-in-law are unnecessarily maligned and subjected to discrimination by the society.
The National Family Health Survey (NFHS) has conclusively established that a woman in the age group of 15-49 years of age faces 8 times more violence from her own mother compared to her mother-in-law. 13.7% women have faced violence from their own mother as compared to 1.7% women who have faced from their mothers-in-law.
Recent Research has shown that “daughters-in-law are programmed to hate mothers-in-law”. This is one of the most important causes of the stereotyping of mothers-in-law in the society.
Mothers -in-law in India face severe abuse in the forms of :
Physical harassment including assault, locking up the mother-in-law in a room, denying food and medication etc.
Mental harassment including taunts, allegations, caustic comments, threatening to file police cases, disallowing communication with her son, grandchildren, defaming her and her family etc.
Verbal harassment including name calling, insulting, abusing, etc.
Economic abuse including extorting her money and wealth, throwing her out of her own house and forcibly occupying the house, etc.
Legal harassment including inciting the police to threaten her, filing false cases under Dowry Prohibition Act, IPC Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, and other related sections, sending her to jail or forcing her to run around the court for years together.
Driving mothers-in-law to commit suicide.
The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Family Health and Welfare only counts women between the ages of 15-49 as women. Mothers-in-law who fall in the age bracket above 49 do not count as women, and their health and welfare is not a matter of concern for the Government of India.
While there are close to 15 laws that provide protection to daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law do not have any societal support or legal protection from any form of discrimination or abuse.
In the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man.
Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment.
Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.
Several elderly women, falsely accused under IPC Section 498A (for the only crime of mothering sons and getting the sons married) approached the National Commission for Women, seeking justice. These women have long heart-rending accounts of how they are being harassed by their daughters-in-law. The NCW’s short, yet prompt and candid response to these mothers was, “Your matter does not fall under the mandate of the Commission”.
Similarly, in June 2009, a 45 year old mother-in-law was arrested in a dowry harassment case filed by her daughter-in-law. The poor lady was allegedly gang-raped in police custody, in Bhopal. The news, which was reported in leading newspapers, went completely unnoticed by the NCW or any other women’s organization that harp about fighting atrocities against women. No panel was set up. No probe was initiated and no action has been taken against this brutality perpetrated against a mother-in-law.
On 8 October 2009, a news report described the gut-wrenching tale of a 75-year-old mother-in-law, Jiwan Devi, who is another victim of societal and legal bias against mothers-in-law. Holding back her tears, here is what she said to the journalist who visited her:
“What is the point?…I and my sons were in jail for four years before we were acquitted. And my grandchildren were at the mercy of our neighbours and distant relatives. Why?… My granddaughter is 19. While all her friends are in college, she is still in class 11. This happened only because there was no one to take care of them while we were in jail. They were also in deep shock”’
There are thousands of Jiwan Devis in this country, whose lives have been destroyed, just for having given life to sons. These are the women whose woes do not fall under the agenda of the Ministry for Women and Child Development, the National Commission for Women, or any other related women’s organization, and they have nowhere to go to seek help and support for problems specifically affecting them.

APMPA will work towards the protection and welfare of women in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and legal counseling. It will also urge the government to reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence laws and demand equal protection for mothers-in-law from domestic violence.

The helpline numbers of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association is 9704683163, 9753605415. Mothers-in-law facing harassment can contact at these numbers.

Mothers-in-law have historically been portrayed as evil and bloodthirsty by media and popular culture. However, it is a scientifically and also statistically established fact that mothers-in-law are unnecessarily maligned and subjected to discrimination by the society.

The National Family Health Survey (NFHS) has conclusively established that a woman in the age group of 15-49 years of age faces 8 times more violence from her own mother compared to her mother-in-law. 13.7% women have faced violence from their own mother as compared to 1.7% women who have faced from their mothers-in-law.

Recent Research has shown that “daughters-in-law are programmed to hate mothers-in-law”. This is one of the most important causes of the stereotyping of mothers-in-law in the society.

Mothers -in-law in India face severe abuse in the forms of :

  • Physical harassment including assault, locking up the mother-in-law in a room, denying food and medication etc.
  • Mental harassment including taunts, allegations, caustic comments, threatening to file police cases, disallowing communication with her son, grandchildren, defaming her and her family etc.
  • Verbal harassment including name calling, insulting, abusing, etc.
  • Economic abuse including extorting her money and wealth, throwing her out of her own house and forcibly occupying the house, etc.
  • Legal harassment including inciting the police to threaten her, filing false cases under Dowry Prohibition Act, IPC Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, and other related sections, sending her to jail or forcing her to run around the court for years together.
  • Driving mothers-in-law to commit suicide.

The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Family Health and Welfare only counts women between the ages of 15-49 as women. Mothers-in-law who fall in the age bracket above 49 do not count as women, and their health and welfare is not a matter of concern for the Government of India.

While there are close to 15 laws that provide protection to daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law do not have any societal support or legal protection from any form of discrimination or abuse.

In the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man.

Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment.

Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.

Several elderly women, falsely accused under IPC Section 498A (for the only crime of mothering sons and getting the sons married) approached the National Commission for Women, seeking justice. These women have long heart-rending accounts of how they are being harassed by their daughters-in-law. The NCW’s short, yet prompt and candid response to these mothers was, “Your matter does not fall under the mandate of the Commission”.

Similarly, in June 2009, a 45 year old mother-in-law was arrested in a dowry harassment case filed by her daughter-in-law. The poor lady was allegedly gang-raped in police custody, in Bhopal. The news, which was reported in leading newspapers, went completely unnoticed by the NCW or any other women’s organization that harp about fighting atrocities against women. No panel was set up. No probe was initiated and no action has been taken against this brutality perpetrated against a mother-in-law.

On 8 October 2009, a news report described the gut-wrenching tale of a 75-year-old mother-in-law, Jiwan Devi, who is another victim of societal and legal bias against mothers-in-law. Holding back her tears, here is what she said to the journalist who visited her:

“What is the point?…I and my sons were in jail for four years before we were acquitted. And my grandchildren were at the mercy of our neighbours and distant relatives. Why?… My granddaughter is 19. While all her friends are in college, she is still in class 11. This happened only because there was no one to take care of them while we were in jail. They were also in deep shock”’

There are thousands of Jiwan Devis in this country, whose lives have been destroyed, just for having given life to sons. These are the women whose woes do not fall under the agenda of the Ministry for Women and Child Development, the National Commission for Women, or any other related women’s organization, and they have nowhere to go to seek help and support for problems specifically affecting them.

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Close Down NCW – The hotbed of Male Hatred

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 14, 2009

To, <Date>
Her Excellency,
The President of India,
Sub: Objections to NCW’s proposed recommendation to amend Section 125 , 127 of the Code of Criminal Procedure dealing with maintenance to wife , children and parents
Honorable President,
I, a citizen of India speak on behalf of me and my entire family when I say that we are profoundly shocked and flabbergasted at the recent recommendations made by The National Commission of Women (NCW) and other participating members in a conference organized by the NCW on Alimony and Maintenance laws in National Law School Bangalore. The recommendations are articulated below with the name of the person who recommended the same.
NCW Recommendations
It will henceforth become the “duty” of a man to provide maintenance to his wife and children irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means
Definition of a wife needs to changed to include women who have lived with a man in a relation of marriage
A son would have to maintain his widowed mother.
Recommendations of HR Bharadwaj
The moment a woman marries a man she is entitled to 50% share in her husbands property .There may be some issues with minorities but it should be applicable to many
Recommendations of Justice Malimath
He favors an amendment in maintenance laws to that will require husbands to fill in details of his financial status , thus making him liable to prosecution in case of filing false cases.
Analysis of the Recommendations’
It will henceforth become the “duty” of a man to provide maintenance to his wife and children irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means
The current Indian maintenance laws themselves are so biased that men regularly petition the court for selling their body organs in order to pay maintenance. This senseless recommendation of the NCW just wants to legalize the sale of organs and body parts of husbands so that now the husband will be bound to pay maintenance irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means. Very soon Indian men will have to sell their blood to pay ‘Blood-Money’ to their wives. For the NCW all the duties of the earth belong only to the husband and there exists no ‘defined’ ‘duty’ for the wife. The wife according to the NCW manual has only ‘rights’ and no ‘duties’. The NCW has never recommended or suggested any duties and responsibilities that the wife has to follow that entitles her to maintenance or defines the quantum of maintenance. The mere fact that conduct of woman in a marriage has no bearing on the maintenance is currently being taken advantage of in CrPC 125 and HMA 24 where women who inspite of being vicious and cruel file maintenance cases against their husbands who are forced to pay while the enjoys the fruits of her husbands labor . The NCW wants to make marriage a business for women of India who will now marry knowing that no matter what they do and how they treat their husbands they are guaranteed to get ‘Blood-Money’ in the form of the maintenance , thanks to the amendment created by the NCW that ensures life long parasitism.
Definition of a wife needs to changed to include women who have lived with a man in a relation of marriage
The NCW itself is filled with members who are divorcees or unmarried women almost all of whom are radical feminists. So understandably these women cannot be expected to understand the sanctity of a marriage. The NCW have crossed the legal boundaries of shamelessness with this recommendation. By redefining the term of wife it is openly promoting adultery and legalizing live-in relationships in the society. This recommendation is nothing but an attempt by the NCW to promote unscrupulous women to extract money from men by claiming to be their wives since they lived with a man with Mutual consent. Such a proposal in itself is a direct insult of the sacrosanct social institution called marriage and to those devout and faithful wives who are committed to their husbands. Granting equal privileges as wives to a live – in partner directly degrades the status of marriage in the society which is a solemnized vow in presence of family elders whereas there is no commitment factor in a live – in relationship. And suggesting maintenance for live – in partners is luring more women to enter into multiple relationships and demand maintenance from each partner. This is a direct attempt to degrade and demean the existing status of women in the society. Ironically this statement is coming from NCW, supposed to be working for upliftment of women in the society.
A son would have to maintain his widowed mother
The NCW here again tried to burden only men with responsibility of women. In cases where widows have both a son and a daughter it must be the equal responsibility of the daughter as that of the son to look after their widowed mother. If the widow just has a daughter then the daughter must be legally liable to take the complete responsibility of her mother. However the NCW manual does not propose any thing other than burdening men with the responsibility of women, so the NCW stooped short of defining the responsibilities that a daughter must have towards her mother and family in general .and just mentioned the responsibility of the son.
The moment a woman marries a man she is entitled to 50% share in her husbands property .There may be some issues with minorities but it should be applicable to many
This recommendation is laughable at the best and it is really sad and suspiring that this came from the ex law minister of the country H S Bharadwaj. The law minister by making this statement just demonstrated his lack of understanding of the condition of husbands in India and his ignorance about the ways in which wives are torturing men with laws like 498A, Domestic violence and maintenance laws. This law minister just paid lip service to men’s issues during his tenure and his now openly supporting the NCW with such senseless recommendations. Does the current Karnataka Governor want to make marriage a property grabbing tool, where women would marry just to grab the husband’s property ? No where in the world does such a law exist where a wife, the moment she marries the husband would becomes entitled to 50% of the husband’s property. Men would stop marrying immediately should such an amendment be created and women would start chain marrying to get 50% of each husbands property in each case.
Amendment in maintenance laws to that will require husbands to fill in details of his financial status , thus making him liable to prosecution in case of filing false cases
Justice Malimath is now following the proverb “If you can’t beat them join them”. No one took his recommendations on 498A seriously so he has now decided to support the radical feminist of the NCW and makes senseless recommendations like the one above. If husbands are made to sign details of financial status , the wives also must be made to sign details of qualifications, work experience and salary details before the marriage itself, so that they can be summarily denied maintenance if they are qualified and can earn an own living . Why does Justice Malimath not propose an amendment to create a Prenuptial agreement between the husband and wife before the marriage itself where either parties would clearly define their assets that they come with and should the marriage break up what will be the assets that the parties will depart with . The rate at which marriages are breaking up in India makes prenuptial agreements the need of the hour to safeguard the wealth of husbands as well as wives. However Justice Malimath also seems to refer the NCW Bible and propose an amendment just for husbands to declare assets while wives no matter how qualified and capable or rich by inheritance from her family would not have to declare their assets during a maintenance case.
NCW’s past record on recommendations
The NCW attracts a lot media attention by making nonsensical and wild recommendations with the sole intention of making life miserable for men. Below are some of the recent recommendations of the NCW on other issues and their brief analysis.
NCW went ahead and published that in 70 % of cases women are denied maintenance on grounds of adultery. SIFF activists when filed for data to support the claim made by NCW, through an application under Rights to Information Act, 2005, NCW in its reply categorically denied maintaining any such data. It was a white lie published by NCW and a delirious attempt by NCW to fudge statistics and present an otherwise picture to realize vendetta best known to it. Such a body severely lacking integrity and accountability does not deserve such a position.
NCW Chairperson claimed in the media that 498A is abused by women due to ignorance.
· Any married woman dying anytime through out her marriage must be treated as a dowry death .This was done with the clear intention to increase the dowry death numbers so that that can be used as a fudged statistic.
· NCW recommended the removal of adultery by wife as a clause for divorce. In India women as it is cannot be convicted for adultery. According to NCW recommendations men must not be able to get a divorce even if their wives leave them and maintain sexual relations with other men.
· NCW recommended that giving Dowry must not be considered as a crime .Taking Dowry taking will remain a crime for men however, giving dowry will not be considered a crime for women and their families.
The Future of this National Commission for Women
The ‘National Commission for Women’ which had transformed into ‘National Commission for Wives’ has today transformed itself into the ‘National Commission against Men in the background. NCW, originally designed to be an astute body working for the genuine causes of women has today miserably failed in its duties to protect the rights of women and safeguard the same as the arrest data published by the National Crime Records Bureau shows that more than 1, 23,000 women have been arrested in the last four years for complaints under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code.. The organization has completely lost credibility in all aspects and today relies on fudged numbers to promote its cause of family destruction. The organization has today been reduced to just a haven for radical feminists who propose virtually anything that will lead to further destruction of the Indian family system. The organization has totally lost direction and purpose and has become burden on the tax payers of the country, 82% of who are men. Most of the organization’s recommendations are outrageous and totally unfair to men in general. The organization never speaks about misuse of the law by women and never recommends ways to arrest misuse and has today become an engine to draft more biased anti men laws. The organization needs to be shuttered at the earliest.
I < Name > henceforth request the Indian Government not to channel any percentage of my tax money to fund an organization like the NCW whose sole motivation is to promote “Family terrorism”
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To,                                                                                                                                 <Date>

Her Excellency,

The President of India,

Sub: Objections to NCW’s proposed recommendation to amend Section 125 , 127 of the Code of Criminal Procedure dealing with maintenance to wife , children and parents

Honorable President,

I, a citizen of India speak on behalf of me and my entire family when I say that we are profoundly shocked and flabbergasted at the recent recommendations made by The National Commission of Women (NCW) and other participating members in a conference organized by the NCW on Alimony and Maintenance laws in National Law School Bangalore. The recommendations are articulated below with the name of the person who recommended the same.

NCW Recommendations

  • It will henceforth become the “duty” of a man to provide maintenance to his wife and children irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means
  • Definition of a wife needs to changed to include women who have lived with a man in a relation of marriage
  • A son would have to maintain his widowed mother.

Recommendations of HR Bharadwaj

  • The moment a woman marries a man she is entitled to 50% share in her husbands property .There may be some issues with minorities but it should be applicable to many

Recommendations of Justice Malimath

He favors an amendment in maintenance laws to that will require husbands to fill in details of his financial status , thus making him liable to prosecution in case of filing false cases.

Analysis of the Recommendations’

It will henceforth become the “duty” of a man to provide maintenance to his wife and children irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means

The current Indian maintenance laws themselves are so biased that men regularly petition the court for selling their body organs in order to pay maintenance. This senseless recommendation of the NCW just wants to legalize the sale of organs and body parts of husbands so that now the husband will be bound to pay maintenance irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means. Very soon Indian men will have to sell their blood to pay ‘Blood-Money’ to their wives. For the NCW all the duties of the earth belong only to the husband and there exists no ‘defined’ ‘duty’ for the wife. The wife according to the NCW manual has only ‘rights’ and no ‘duties’. The NCW has never recommended or suggested any duties and responsibilities that the wife has to follow that entitles her to maintenance or defines the quantum of maintenance. The mere fact that conduct of woman in a marriage has no bearing on the maintenance is currently being taken advantage of in CrPC 125 and HMA 24 where women who inspite of being vicious and cruel file maintenance cases against their husbands who are forced to pay while the enjoys the fruits of her husbands labor . The NCW wants to make marriage a business for women of India who will now marry knowing that no matter what they do and how they treat their husbands they are guaranteed to get ‘Blood-Money’ in the form of the maintenance , thanks to the amendment created by the NCW that ensures life long parasitism.

Definition of a wife needs to changed to include women who have lived with a man in a relation of marriage

The NCW itself is filled with members who are divorcees or unmarried women almost all of whom are radical feminists. So understandably these women cannot be expected to understand the sanctity of a marriage. The NCW have crossed the legal boundaries of shamelessness with this recommendation. By redefining the term of wife it is openly promoting adultery and legalizing live-in relationships in the society. This recommendation is nothing but an attempt by the NCW to promote unscrupulous women to extract money from men by claiming to be their wives since they lived with a man with Mutual consent. Such a proposal in itself is a direct insult of the sacrosanct social institution called marriage and to those devout and faithful wives who are committed to their husbands. Granting equal privileges as wives to a live – in partner directly degrades the status of marriage in the society which is a solemnized vow in presence of family elders whereas there is no commitment factor in a live – in relationship. And suggesting maintenance for live – in partners is luring more women to enter into multiple relationships and demand maintenance from each partner. This is a direct attempt to degrade and demean the existing status of women in the society. Ironically this statement is coming from NCW, supposed to be working for upliftment of women in the society.

A son would have to maintain his widowed mother

The NCW here again tried to burden only men with responsibility of women. In cases where widows have both a son and a daughter it must be the equal responsibility of the daughter as that of the son to look after their widowed mother. If the widow just has a daughter then the daughter must be legally liable to take the complete responsibility of her mother. However the NCW manual does not propose any thing other than burdening men with the responsibility of women, so the NCW stooped short of defining the responsibilities that a daughter must have towards her mother and family in general .and just mentioned the responsibility of the son.

  • The moment a woman marries a man she is entitled to 50% share in her husbands property .There may be some issues with minorities but it should be applicable to many

This recommendation is laughable at the best and it is really sad and suspiring that this came from the ex law minister of the country H S Bharadwaj. The law minister by making this statement just demonstrated his lack of understanding of the condition of husbands in India and his ignorance about the ways in which wives are torturing men with laws like 498A, Domestic violence and maintenance laws. This law minister just paid lip service to men’s issues during his tenure and his now openly supporting the NCW with such senseless recommendations. Does the current Karnataka Governor want to make marriage a property grabbing tool, where women would marry just to grab the husband’s property ? No where in the world does such a law exist where a wife, the moment she marries the husband would becomes entitled to 50% of the husband’s property. Men would stop marrying immediately should such an amendment be created and women would start chain marrying to get 50% of each husbands property in each case.

Amendment in maintenance laws to that will require husbands to fill in details of his financial status , thus making him liable to prosecution in case of filing false cases

Justice Malimath is now following the proverb “If you can’t beat them join them”. No one took his recommendations on 498A seriously so he has now decided to support the radical feminist of the NCW and makes senseless recommendations like the one above. If husbands are made to sign details of financial status , the wives also must be made to sign details of qualifications, work experience and salary details before the marriage itself, so that they can be summarily denied maintenance if they are qualified and can earn an own living . Why does Justice Malimath not propose an amendment to create a Prenuptial agreement between the husband and wife before the marriage itself where either parties would clearly define their assets that they come with and should the marriage break up what will be the assets that the parties will depart with . The rate at which marriages are breaking up in India makes prenuptial agreements the need of the hour to safeguard the wealth of husbands as well as wives. However Justice Malimath also seems to refer the NCW Bible and propose an amendment just for husbands to declare assets while wives no matter how qualified and capable or rich by inheritance from her family would not have to declare their assets during a maintenance case.

NCW’s past record on recommendations

The NCW attracts a lot media attention by making nonsensical and wild recommendations with the sole intention of making life miserable for men. Below are some of the recent recommendations of the NCW on other issues and their brief analysis.

NCW went ahead and published that in 70 % of cases women are denied maintenance on grounds of adultery. SIFF activists when filed for data to support the claim made by NCW, through an application under Rights to Information Act, 2005, NCW in its reply categorically denied maintaining any such data. It was a white lie published by NCW and a delirious attempt by NCW to fudge statistics and present an otherwise picture to realize vendetta best known to it. Such a body severely lacking integrity and accountability does not deserve such a position.

NCW Chairperson claimed in the media that 498A is abused by women due to ignorance.

· Any married woman dying anytime through out her marriage must be treated as a dowry death .This was done with the clear intention to increase the dowry death numbers so that that can be used as a fudged statistic.

· NCW recommended the removal of adultery by wife as a clause for divorce. In India women as it is cannot be convicted for adultery. According to NCW recommendations men must not be able to get a divorce even if their wives leave them and maintain sexual relations with other men.

· NCW recommended that giving Dowry must not be considered as a crime .Taking Dowry taking will remain a crime for men however, giving dowry will not be considered a crime for women and their families.

The Future of this National Commission for Women

The ‘National Commission for Women’ which had transformed into ‘National Commission for Wives’ has today transformed itself into the ‘National Commission against Men‘ in the background. NCW, originally designed to be an astute body working for the genuine causes of women has today miserably failed in its duties to protect the rights of women and safeguard the same as the arrest data published by the National Crime Records Bureau shows that more than 1, 23,000 women have been arrested in the last four years for complaints under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code.. The organization has completely lost credibility in all aspects and today relies on fudged numbers to promote its cause of family destruction. The organization has today been reduced to just a haven for radical feminists who propose virtually anything that will lead to further destruction of the Indian family system. The organization has totally lost direction and purpose and has become burden on the tax payers of the country, 82% of who are men. Most of the organization’s recommendations are outrageous and totally unfair to men in general. The organization never speaks about misuse of the law by women and never recommends ways to arrest misuse and has today become an engine to draft more biased anti men laws. The organization needs to be shuttered at the earliest.

I < Name > henceforth request the Indian Government not to channel any percentage of my tax money to fund an organization like the NCW whose sole motivation is to promote “Family terrorism”

<Name >

<Signature>

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Helpline for victims of Dowry Act misuse

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 13, 2009

http://www.tribuneindia.com/2009/20091012/punjab.htm#8
A group of activists, claiming to be victims of the misuse of the Dowry Act have started a helpline to assist other victims against what they call ‘‘legal terrorism”.

There has been a debate and arguments against the misuse or overuse of the Dowry Act in the recent past, but now this group has come out on the streets and launched a campaign seeking amendments in the Act that was being ‘‘misused to terrorise innocent husbands, their mothers, sisters and even children.’’

The activists of the Swatantra Aawaaz Welfare organisation under their campaign-Adhoora Sach Jaano (know the true side also) have got together and launched a massive programme to help the victims of misuse of Dowry.

Available on 24-hour helpline-96463-89140 and 93169-29321, the activists have already started helping the victims of the Dowry Act, who never demanded dowry but were implicated, as their marriages could not be a success. ‘‘As many as 1.25 lakh women of all ages (from elderly to teenagers) were put behind bars after couples could not strike chords. What was their fault? We are aiming to help all similar victims come out of this crisis. They suffer without any of their fault as they are also booked by the women who want to teach a lesson to their in-laws family, ’’ said Gaurav Saini, a Mohali-based activist.

Stating that already 1 lakh youths from all over India, including activists of 50 NGOs and 40 chapters of the Save Indian Family Foundation have got together, Gaurav said they were campaigning massively and demanding that the Section 489-A should be made bailable and a non-cognisable offense. Besides, they also demanded that the Domestic Violence Act too should be made gender-neutral.

He said they were counselling many victims, who were suffering from mental ailments after their sisters, mothers and other female relatives were made to remain in jail amidst criminals.

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Amend domestic violence act to plug its misuse against men, demands NGO

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 13, 2009

http://www.indianexpress.com/news/amend-domestic-violence-act-to-plug-its-misuse-against-men-demands-ngo/527991/

Swatantra Awaz Welfare Organization, a non-government organisation, has demanded amendments in Domestic Violence Act. The NGO along with All-India Rational Activists will organise a protest dharna in Chandigarh on October 25, on the anniversary of inception of Domestic Violence Act.

Disclosing this here today, Amandeep Singh, president of Swatantra Awaz Welfare Organisation, said, “Due to lack of social support and legal protection, many male victims of domestic abuse are taking their lives everyday. False cases are severely hampering personal and professional lives of the most productive section of the Indian population. The so-called “women protection” laws are in fact causing more harm than good to women. In every false case, at least two women, a mother-in-law and a sister-in-law are accused. Minor girls, pregnant women, married and unmarried sisters, ailing mothers and even aged grandmothers have been sent behind the bars based on mere allegations and subjected to long-drawn trials before being declared innocent. Even children are not being spared from the suffering. In case of marital disputes, children are denied access to their fathers, causing great pain to the fathers and children.”

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