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Women lure IT pros for a date to rob them

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 29, 2008

They lured men seeking a date, robbed them
29 Oct 2008, 0354 hrs IST, TNN

BANGALORE: A gang which robbed and assaulted young professionals looking for hot dates is in the
police net.

Two women, who were part of the band, would lure IT professionals and real estate businessmen on the promise of a date and lead them to secluded places, where other members of the gang lay in wait to rob
them. The victims were assaulted with choppers and wooden clubs, before being robbed of their valuables and vehicles.

The Sampigehalli police have arrested Suhail (24), Fairoz (21), Sadiq (23) of DJ Halli, Mohammed Nayaz (44) and his wife Nafeesa Bhanu (36) of Yelahanka and Pinky alias Parvati (21) of West Bengal for the crimes. Tanvir (22), said to be kingpin of the operation, is absconding.

The gang had recently kidnapped two minor girls from West Bengal to deploy them for their operations. The girls, identified as Deena (14) and Thumba (16), were rescued by the police and brought to
Yeshwanthpur railway station three days ago. They are now being sent back home.

Detailing the modus operandi of the gang, the police said Tanvir, who used to provide computer services to apartments, had obtained mobile numbers of several outstation students who had completed studies in
Bangalore and returned home. He would buy these sim cards and pass it on to Pinky.

Armed with these sim numbers, Pinky would call up young professionals — based on another database that she had — introduce herself as one of the students and invite them for a date. The victims would then be
escorted by an assistant to a place where she waited. She would then lead them to secluded spots where Suhail, Fairoz, Sadiq and Nayaz preyed upon them.

Tracking a series of such cases, a team headed by DCP Basavaraj Malagathi cracked the case, based on tower locations from which the calls were made.

http://timesofindia .indiatimes. com/Cities/ They_lured_ men_seeking_ a_date_robbed_them/ articleshow/ 3649601.cms

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Woman fined Rs 50K for filing frivolous petition

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 26, 2008

NEW DELHI: An exemplary cost of Rs 50,000 was slapped on a woman on Thursday by the Delhi HC which took exception to her tactics to stall divorce.

proceedings filed against her by her husband on grounds of desertion. HC was irked by her move to file a frivolous petition to delay the divorce proceedings initiated by her husband in a family court.

“I find that this petition is frivolous and is liable to be dismissed with an exemplary cost…” said Justice Shiv Narayan Dhingra in a judgement while dismissing a petition filed by Sujata Aggarwal challenging a family court decision to reject her application for adjournment in 2007.

“Every kind of excuse available on the earth had been put forward for seeking adjournments and all tactics had been adopted to delay the proceedings,” HC observed and referred to the lower court order that had stated that Sujata had taken several adjournments since 2001 to delay the proceeding in the divorce case filed by her husband Ravi Shankar Aggarwal in 1998.

Justice Dhingra also said, neither the wife nor her counsel appeared before the family court in August 2001 to receive the alimony paid by her husband, thereby strenghtening suspicion that their intention was only to delay proceedings.

“The ground on which the husband sought divorce is desertion. Sujata had an option to lead her evidence to show that she had not deserted and fault lied on the side of the husband. Instead of leading evidence and appearing in the court she had just seen to it that the case does not proceed,” the Court said.

On March 3, 2007, the family court had dismissed an application filed by Sujata for an adjournment in the 1998 case for divorce sought by her husband on the ground of desertion by his wife. After allowing several applications filed by Sujata and granting adjournments several times since 2001 on one or other grounds taken by the wife, the family court had dismissed her plea for further adjournment.

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Why men are never depressed…

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 26, 2008

Men Are Happier — What do you expect
from such simple creatures?
Your last name stays put.
The garage is all yours.
Wedding plans take care of themselves.
Chocolate is just another snack. You can be President.
You can never be pregnant.
You can wear a white T-shirt to a water park.
You can wear NO shirt to a water park.
Car mechanics tell you the
The world is your urinal.
You never have to drive to another gas station restroom because this
one is just too icky.
You don’t have to stop and think of which way to turn a nut on a
bolt. Same work, more pay.
Wrinkles add character.
Wedding dress $5000. Tux rental-$100.
People never stare at your
chest when you’re talking to them. New shoes don’t cut, blister, or
mangle your feet .
One mood all the time.
Phone conversations are over in 30 seconds flat.
You know stuff about tanks.
A five-day vacation requires only one suitcase.
You can open all your own jars.
You get extra credit for the slightest act of thoughtfulness.
If someone forgets to invite you, he or she can still be your friend.
Your underwear is $8.95 for a three-pack.
Three pairs of shoes are more than enough.
You almost never have strap problems in public.
You are unable to see wrinkles in your clothes.
Everything on your face stays its original color.
The same hairstyle lasts for years, maybe decades.
You only have to shave your face and neck.
You can play with toys all your life. One wallet and one pair of
shoes — one color for all seasons.
You can wear shorts no matter how your legs look.
You can “do” your nails with
a pocket knife.
You have freedom of choice concerning growing a mustache.
You can do Christmas shopping for 25 relatives on December 24 in 25

No wonder men are happier…

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House wife slept with 18 yr old,still accused him with rape

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 25, 2008

A homemaker accused her 18-year-old servant of rape and stabbed him to death, but a narco test now reveals the shocking truth that she had been sleeping with him for five years.

Rajni (name changed) stabbed her 18-year-old servant with a kitchen knife, claiming he was trying to rape her.

When the 36-year-old Mumbai homemaker was brought to Bangalore for a narco test, she stunned investigators by revealing that she had been sleeping with the boy for five years, since he was 13.

Rajni is the wife of a bar owner, and had developed physical intimacy with Anand (18), who hails from Bihar.

Anand had worked in Rajni’s house as a domestic help for 10 years, and also used to help out in the bar. He had been given a room in the couple’s apartment.

In April 2007, Rajni was sleeping in her room with her two-and-a-half-year-old child. Her story was that Anand had barged in and tried to rape her after threatening her with a knife.

“Fearing he would injure my child, I snatched the knife and stabbed him,” she first told the police. She said she had shouted for help to her husband and her brother-in-law. The latter lives on the second floor of the apartment.

They dragged Anand to the corridor and thrashed him. A profusely bleeding Anand was taken to hospital where he was declared brought dead, she said. Neighbours who witnessed the beating turned hostile in court.

Though Rajni pleaded that she had killed Anand in self-defence, the court directed the police to subject her to a narco test.

During the test, Rajni not only explained how she had stabbed Anand, but also gave details of their illicit relationship.

She confessed she had lost interest after a while, and and had started turning down his pleas for sex.

On the fateful day, Anand went to her for sex, but she refused since she was trying to put the baby to sleep.

Anand got agitated and threatened her with a table knife, she said during the narco. “I had no option but to defend myself and my child and jumped on him to snatch the knife,” she explained. “I stabbed him thrice on his abdomen and later dragged his body to the corridor and informed my husband and brother-in-law.”

Rajini also admitted she had to concoct the story of a rape attempt to conceal her relationship with him.
“I started beating him. My husband and brother-in-law joined me. They were so angry they beat Anand who was already profusely bleeding,” she said.

I have no option but to defend myself and my child from him and jumped on him to snatch the knife, she explained. I stabbed him thrice on his abdomen and later dragged his body to the corridor and informed my husband and brother-in-law, she said.

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Indian women are not committed to work

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 22, 2008

75% of those coming late are women and all women leave before time !!! Think twice before hiring any women in your organizations…

Special Correspondent
CHENNAI: There needs to be a change in the attitude of both institutions and women themselves to ensure gender equality in the senior management of higher education.

That is the message being driven home at the UGC workshop on capacity-building in higher education management being held at Anna University this week.

“Though more women have entered the profession as faculty over the past decade, most of them are at the lower levels, with a few in senior academic, administration or management positions,” said Karuna
Chanana, resource person for the workshop and a member of the UGC’s National Consultative Committee on the issue.

“Institutions don’t provide enough opportunities, but many women are also not motivated enough, feeling restricted by their dual career, with responsibilities in the home.”

When Anna University Vice-Chancellor P. Mannar Jawahar visited one of his university departments at 9:30 a.m. last week, he found that eight faculty members had still not turned up, though the working hours had
begun an hour earlier. Six of the eight were women. Half an hour before college ended at 4:30 p.m., all women faculty members in another department had gone home. “Women must be committed to their work, not constantly think of home concerns while in office…”

Dr. Chanana returned the ball to the university’s court, saying it was the responsibility of heads of department to ensure discipline among all faculty.

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Pre Nuptial agreements are valid in India

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 22, 2008

In India, Prenuptial Agreements are governed by Contract laws and not Marriage Laws.

Lawyers estimate that almost 20 per cent of marriages that take place in the metros, especially in Mumbai and Delhi, involve some form of prenup. “Couples opting for prenups are not just financially unequal couples or wealthy couples, but even those who simply want to avoid the financial entanglement and trauma that follows a divorce,” says Anand.

“The problem, however, is that Indian courts have not totally recognised the validity of prenuptial agreements,” says Indranil Bose, partner (litigation) ,Fox Mandal Little, a Delhi-based law firm. The Indian law defines what marriage is and agreements such as these do not fall into that definition. So they are not deemed valid.

“In India, prenuptial agreements are not governed by the Indian marriage laws, but by the existing contract laws,” says Duggal.

“Under Section 10 of the Indian Contracts Act,prenuptial agreements have as much sanctity as any other contract, oral or written; just because litigation has not begun in this area does not mean that it has to be treated any differently, and that it cannot be enforced.

Courts do take cognisance of a prenuptial agreement if both parties have mutually agreed, are competent to contract, and the prenuptial agreement clearly states the fair division of property, personal possessions and financial assets of the parties,” he argues.

“A big advantage of a prenup is that it forces couples to have that all-important financial discussion before marriage,” says Anand.

She adds that issues that can be efficiently dealt with in a prenup range from divorce settlements, if the case arises, and the prevention of disputes regarding joint accounts to the custody issues of the children after the dissolution of a marriage. “Another important benefit of the prenup is that it offers protection from the spouse’s debts, if any.”

For couples about to take the plunge, it is perhaps wiser to go in for a prenuptial agreement that clearly outlines a fair division of property, personal possessions and financial assets, than fight over a favourite piece of furniture or pet in the process of dissolving the marriage.

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Crime against women increasing in Arunachal

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 22, 2008

My country is a strange country, 168 cases of crime against women makes news but 1,15,645 innocent women being arrested is not noticed by anyone!

Itanagar, Oct 22 : Arunachal Pradesh, with an estimated population of over eleven lakh, recorded 168 incidents of crime against women since 2006 as per the record of Indian National Crime Record Bureau based on a study conducted during 2006 on crime against women in India.

The data included 37 cases of rape, 51 incidents of kidnapping, one dowry death and 14 incidents of cruelty towards women by husbands and relatives. During the period, women also reported 63 cases of molestation and two of sexual harassment.

The statistics, which was placed during a day-long consultation programme on ‘Domestic Violence Act and related legal procedures among women and law enforcement agencies in India’, organised by the Centre for Social Research (CSR), Delhi along with Arunachal Pradesh Women’s Welfare Society (APWWS), offer a glimpse of the types of violence against women perpetrated in the state.

The participants at the workshop deliberated upon issues relating to Law and Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA), the present status of implementation of the Act in Arunachal Pradesh and the role of police, judiciary, civil society organisations and media as stakeholders.

It is important to note that the crimes that came to the attention of the Indian National Crime Records Bureau most likely underestimate the actual number of the crimes committed against women since many women feel uncomfortable reporting crimes of domestic nature.

”The delay in the implementation of the PWDVA in the state is the main reason for increasing crime against women,” commented Dr Rajana Kumari, Director of CSR while speaking on the occasion.

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Top IAS officer commits suicide because of wife

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 21, 2008

On November 2, 2010: The below post was based on what was published in the newspapers and shown on TV. After Mr. Chhatwal’s daughter shared his suicide note with me, I no not have any doubt that the drastic step taken by him was in no way related to his married life.

I understand that my post has caused a lot of agony and resentment to Chhatwal family and I sincerely apologize for the same.

Let us all learn from this incident how careless media is – and not to trust blindly everything that is published in the newspapers.

———————–On October 21, 2008, I had written:

Yesterday one senior bureaucrat was arrested in dowry case.

Today one more committed suicide because of family reasons (Prima facie only two reasons seem probable – either the wife was having an affair with the next door neighbor or was threatening the bureaucrat with false dowry cases).

CHANDIGARH: One of Punjab’s top IAS officers, principal secretary A S Chhatwal, on Monday committed suicide by hanging himself from a ceiling fan in  his Chandigarh home.

Chhatwal, a 1986 batch Punjab cadre officer, was found hanging in his Sector 39 official residence by his wife and was brought to PGI hospital by her and the family’s next-door neighbour Chandigarh finance secretary Sanjay Kumar.

Chandigarh SSP S S Srivastava told reporters a suicide note found at Chhatwal’s house said the officer was depressed, probably because of family reasons.

Doctors said Chhatwal was put on life support systems for a while before he died. Chhatwal had figured in Vigilance Bureau inquiries in the Ludhiana City Center scam involving former CM Amarinder Singh since the officer was the chief administrator of Punjab Urban Development Authority when the alleged irregularities took place.

Apart from being principal secretary, Chhatwal was serving as secretary, science and technology and non-conventional energy and commissioner of NRI affairs.

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Delhi, UP reports highest number of sexual harassment cases

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 20, 2008

60 cases of sexual harassment cases in 3 years make news headlines, but no one is bothered about 1,15,645 women who were arrested under IPC 498A without any investigation.

According to National Crime Record Bureau(NCRB): In year 2006 alone; 31,253 women were arrested under Section 498a (

In India, anything that happens to young and attractive women is news; and anything that happens to old mothers is a joke?

Mon, Oct 20 02:01 PM
New Delhi, Oct 20 (PTI) Delhi has joined Uttar Pradesh in reporting
the largest number of cases of women being sexual harassed at work
places. The National Commission for Women (NCW) has 60 cases of sexual
harassment at work places in the capital over the last three years,
while Uttar Pradesh has registered 77 such cases, the Lok Sabha was
informed today.

Thirty-six cases of sexual harassment at work places were registered
by the NCW in Rajasthan, 21 in Haryana and 20 each in Madhya Pradesh
and Maharashtra, Women and Child Development Minister Renuka Chowdhary
said in a written reply. The cases were registered over a period of
three years from 2006-08.

No cases were registered in smaller states like Puducherry, Daman and
Diu, Dadra and Nagar Haveli and only one in Chhattisgarh and Goa. The
state of Jammu and Kashmir also registered no such cases.

Chowdhary said the Government was planning to introduce a bill titled
“Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace, 2006”, drafted by the NCW.
“The bill was being introduced after a wide range of consultations, ”
she added. PTI. 20/20081020/ 1416/tnl- delhi-up- reports-
highest-number- of-s.html

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How to (mis)use 498a: Guide for the litigating wives

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 20, 2008

Section 498A, of Indian Penal Code, is a boom for modern Indian women. It comes very handy for women to fulfill their materialistic desires. A quick guide to the empowered women of India on how to use 498A to unleash ‘legal terrorism’.

WHAT’S THE use of being empowered, if you are unable to cause harassment, pain and suffering to the husband and his family to the point of suicide? If this is your objective, IPC section 498A can come in handy for you. This not only makes sure that you cause trauma, harassment and pain to your husband’s family, but also you get paid in full for it in due course. So gear up women, here is a crash course in 498A.

Here is the modus operandi of a false 498A. It’s actually easier than ordering a pizza and will cause assured harassment for the husband’s family, the other benefits may include:

  1. Display of strength and scaring the husband’s family into submission;
  2. Chances of a quick and easy extortion or as it is called, a ’compromise’. This booty will then be shared by the colluding relatives and the wife, according to their level of involvement and quantum of assistance;
  3. Imagining a case in which the husband, scared of jail time, will leave his family and be his wife’s slave.
  4. Getting the moral support of NCW (National Commission for Women)and WCD (the ministry of women and child development), that see wealth distribution, from husbands to wives, as a way to encourage women buying more stuff and bringing foreign direct investment in women’s products.

The 498A consists of three basic phases and you need to have unique skills to master them;

  1. Complaint (letter writing skills and vocabulary words, which invoke sympathy, hunger, harassment etc)
  2. Police arrest (always wished you acted and get aid for it, here is your chance, you need to cry, wail and shout and also get paid in full for it). Who knows you might as well get picked for an Ekta Kapoor serial.
  3. Compromise (the sweetest of all, counting the money and making sure it gets deposited in full).

Modus Operandi

  1. Leave your husband on the pretext of visiting your mother, pregnancy or caring for your ailing father.
  2. Look for the most opportune moment:
  • For Husbands living in India Fridays are the best time and if Monday is also holiday nothing like it. In fact girls can look for the this time and then go to their mother’s place first and then plan out.
  • For NRI’s the best time is when they are visiting their family in India. This way he will not be able to return and will loose his peace, money and career immediately.
  • Once the date and time has been decided, its time to take the plunge. Don’t worry noone can touch you misusing this section. Remember the all powerful Indian Police and judiciary is with you along with the NCW and WCD, who will in due course come up with more laws for your benefit.

A very important part of this process is drafting the complaint.

  1. First the easy way. Visit any local lawyer. The cheapest ones will also suffice as these days all have preformatted 498A allegation forms, just fill in your name, address and list of people to accuse and behold!!! You can have your own personalized 498A complaint. Some girls who are creative can also choose to study the preformatted complaint and then write one of their own. This will help bringing out the writer in you. Remember, just like there is no extra charge to include the names of your family member for credit cards, there is no extra charge for causing additional harassment to any number of relatives of your husband. Some women have also included husband’s friends as a bonanza. So go on and include all those whom you ever despised in this list. Whomever you include make sure you always include the women and children of the husbands family as they are his weak spot. Whatever you write, make sure the below 3 allegations are in as without this the police will be reluctant to register your complaint even with bribes.
  • Not given food and water for 7 days and kept me locked in a dark room.
  • Beating me each day right from the wedding night. Even the doctors will tell you that the most violent of criminals will rather have sex with a woman on the first night than beat her, but the India Police, NCW and WCD does not believe so and will believe whatever you say. If you can create false medical certificate there is nothing like it. But this is not all that important as the police will believe whatever you say anyways.
  • Already paid Rs 10 lakhs at engagement. Make sure you include whatever you ever wished for but did not get to buy in the stridhan list as the police will make the husband buy and ‘return’ those articles even if you have never given those. See how simple the WCD ministry has made it for you to fulfill your materialistic desires. So this is time to get the articles of your wildest desires. At least if you write 10 you might get one, so whats the harm in writing as many as possible.

2. Whew !!! Your complaint draft is final and you have a gleaming copy of a spanking new 498A. You should be proud that you will soon be joining the 498A women’s list who have made a martyr of their Husbands family to get their desires fulfilled. You have crossed a big hurdle in your life. Now the Money just wants to come to you. The next steps are pretty simple and routine and should be cake walk for the empowered women like you.

3. Visit the local police station with some relatives. Most of the girls take their father and brother, but the police do not mind if you take your paramour (ex-lover) especially if he is supposed to benefit from the expected settlement and you both have already booked your new flat and are looking to pay the first installment.

4. Be ready to wail and have moist eyes as these infuriate the police officers in India against the husband. If you have Mahila thana, that’s the best place to go, as these women police officers have known to create havoc on the Husband’s family. Pay a token advance bribe to police and see the speed at which they start the manhunt for the Husbands family and his aged parents and sisters faster than hunt for Osama. You need not even pay the rest of the bribe as it will be collected in full from the Husband’s family. Make sure to file the case as far off as possible even if the alleged incidents in your complaint did not occur there. This will add icing on the cake as the Husbands family will have the additional pain of fighting the case in a different state and city. You, by now, will not be able to stop praising the WCD and NCW for this law and wanting more laws like these to hit the stands. How much thought they must have put into this law to make sure you get away Scot free. GO 498A !!! Hip Hip Hurray !!!

5. So the husband is arrested. Congratulations!!!. Now you have shown them what you are made of, bravo my girl, bravo. But hey, this is milking time, and as cows have a specific period for milking, for husbands and it is when they or the women of his family are behind bars. You need to be quick and fast as a fox. Make sure that he is not released and the bail gets denied. Immediately put the amount for “Compromise”, make sure you quote an astronomical amount as it’s always bargained down. If he agrees CONGRATULATIONS again, you are a millionaire after writing a complaint letter. Book authors do not make so much money as you have made by writing a letter. You have just paid the amount for your very flat in full and it is tax free. This is apart from the other tax-free money you can claim in terms of alimony. I will talk about it in another book “Alimony and Maintenance for dummies”.

6. If you are denied any compromise money, there is always another chance; the metropolitan magistrate will bargain for you to close the case. Try your luck there as well.

I wish you all the best in your 498A gold rush.

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