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Man forced to marry girlfriend

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on August 14, 2010

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Young NRI men in UK being forced into marriage

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on July 2, 2010

http://in.news.yahoo.com/48/20100701/1247/twl-young-nri-men-in-uk-being-forced-int_1.html

British officials have been dealing with several cases of young Indian-origin women being forced into marriages against their will, but recent cases show a sharp increase of men facing such ordeals.

Britain has set up a Forced Marriage Unit (FMU) that deals with cases of British citizens being forcibly taken to the Indian sub-continent and married against their will for cultural, immigration or family reasons.

The unit has rescued several young women, but it is estimated that most cases go unreported. Latest figures show that during the last year, the unit registered a 65 per cent rise in the number of calls from men.

The unit received the most calls from men linked to Pakistan, followed by India and Bangladesh. It also received calls from British men with links to the Middle East, Africa and eastern Europe.

A spokesman said: “The calls we receive are the tip of the iceberg. It now seems likely that men account for one in five of all the forced marriages that take place to British citizens.”

In June, the FMU took a call from a young man in Leicester whose family had allegedly locked him in his bedroom after discovering that he was gay.

He told the FMU that his family were downstairs, discussing whether to take him to India and either kill him, abandon him there or marry him off.

Last year, the FMU gave advice and support to 1,682 men and women regarding suspected forced marriage.

More than 220 calls and emails involved male victims, up from 134 in 2008. As of the end of May this year, there have been 88 calls from men for help.

Foreign Office Minister Jeremy Browne said: “Boys and men who are forced into marriage find it harder to ask for help than women, but we are urging males affected by forced marriage to speak out and seek the help that is available to them.”

He added: “Of course, women make up the majority of forced marriage victims, and over 1,400 reports of women facing this abuse were dealt with by the FMU last year.

But people often don’t realise that men can be victims of forced marriage too.”

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Woman kidnaps baby to aid her second marriage

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on January 4, 2010

BANGALORE: All is fair in love and war, goes the adage. Gouramma, a 28-year-old married woman in another relationship, lived up to it literally: she
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The drama unfolded like this: Nandini Layout police received a complaint on December 28 from Narayanappa, a grocery shop owner and resident of Shankarapuram, that his 11-month-old son Kiran was missing and Gouramma, a family friend who had come to their house a day ago, couldn’t be traced.
Narayanappa earlier was a neighbour of Gouramma in Yeshwantpur. On December 27, his family invited her to their home. Gouramma and the boy went missing the next afternoon. Gouramma was married to Narayana Reddy, a coconut vendor in Bellandur, and the couple had a 11-year-old boy who was staying with his grandparents in Yeshwantpur.

During investigation, it came to light that all was not well between Gouramma and her husband and the couple stayed separately often. She had an affair with Shivamani, a law student from Tamil Nadu, who was studying in a Bangalore college for the last two-and-a-half years.

According to DCP North H S Revanna, Gouramma had even gone to his hometown, Ambattur in Chennai, to meet his parents one-and-a-half years ago. She told them that she was pregnant and wanted to get married to Shivamani. Gouramma avoided meeting Shivamani for the last year but continued to insist she was pregnant. Shivamani had gone back to his hometown by then.
On December 28, after taking 11-month-old Kiran with her, she went to Ambattur to meet Shivamani’s parents, claiming it was his child and demanded that he marry her. The family, after much coaxing, fixed their marriage date for January 5.

Meanwhile, Nandini Layout police who had tracked her, went to Ambattur and arrested her and rescued Kiran. A kidnap case has been registered against Gouramma.

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Marriage versus prostitution

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on December 27, 2009

This idea came to my mind, because a reader of my blog commented that “Men marry attractive body and women marry bank balances”. (It is comment number 5 at http://wp.me/plC3a-a9)

I went and searched for the definition of prostitution: The act or practice of engaging in promiscuous sexual relations especially for money.

I searched for prostitution first, not because prostitutes interest me more than wives (if there is any difference between the two), but because I knew finding the definition of prostitution is going to be relatively easy task.

A general definition of marriage is that it is a legal and social contract between two individuals that gives legitimacy to sexual relations.

So, both serve one main purpose, the purpose of physical pleasure. Now, let us evaluate the 2 ‘professions’ on the following 3 parameters – variety, switching costs, and quality.

Parameter Marriage Prostitution
Variety Very low

Adultery is a crime for men under IPC 497, while women can do it legally. IPC 497 applies only to men.

As desired

You can go to different service providers as per your desires. You are not bound by any ‘contract’ called marriage.

Switching Costs

(Switching from one woman to the other)

Very high

In order to switch wives, you would need to divorce the first one, and divorce is an expensive affair.

Minimal

There is no cost involved in switching commercial sex workers

Customer Service Quality Low

The service provider doesn’t care whether the consumer is satisfied or not, he will still have to pay for her whether he continues to use the service or not.

High

Repeat business is a customer’s choice.

Hence, marriage is equivalent to prostitution in the following manner:

  1. You might get sex in marriage

I am using the word ‘might’ because you can not have sex against your               spouse’s wishes. So if you are lucky, then you will get sex.

2. You are obliged to maintain the woman financially

But marriage is different from prostitution in the following:

  1. You have to pay for her irrespective of whether you get anything from her in return or not.

2. If you sleep with someone else, that is illegal.

To summarize:

Men do not even get from their wives what they get from prostitutes. Even if the wives were as good, then also marriage can at best be described as long-term prostitution unless the women of this nation start to take equal responsibilities of running the household.

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Men, Math and Marriage

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on December 22, 2009

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SKorea scraps decades-old sex law targeting men

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 26, 2009

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/rest-of-world/SKorea-scraps-decades-old-sex-law-targeting-men/articleshow/5271779.cms

SEOUL: South Korea’s Constitutional Court struck down a decades-old law Thursday that had punished men for making false promises of marriage to engage in sexual relations with women.
The nine-member court ruled in a 6-3 verdict that the law infringed upon women’s dignity and privacy and didn’t reflect the current social trend on sex and individualism.

The ruling said the law treated women like “infants,” and went against the government’s “constitutional obligation to aim for the equality of men and women.”

Despite the ruling, South Korea remains deeply conservative and is still influenced by a Confucian heritage after decades of Western influence. Last year, the Constitutional Court upheld a law against adultery, rejecting complaints the law is outdated and constitutes an invasion of privacy. Those convicted under the anti-adultery law face prison sentences of up to two years.

The law tossed out Thursday had punished South Korean men who deceived their girlfriends into having sex with up to a two-year prison term and a fine of more than $4,000. Enacted in 1953, the law only held men liable for false promises of marriage.

“The government should refrain from interfering in men’s sexual activities of tempting women in an unharmful manner,” the verdict said.

Korean Womenlink, a major women’s rights group in Seoul, said it welcomed the court’s verdict.

“It had not been a law that protected women’s human rights but a law that protected women’s chastity,” Korean Womenlink said in a statement.

The court acted on petitions filed by two South Korean men who were convicted of violating the law in recent years.

Court spokesman Noh Hee-bum said the verdict means that the law was immediately abolished and all South Korean men penalized under the law could be acquitted of earlier convictions and receive state compensation if they file for a retrial.

The number of South Korean men indicted under the law had been gradually decreasing, with 42 indicted in 2006 compared with 269 in 1981, according to a court release.

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एक ऐसी बारात, दुल्हे के हाथ में हथकड़ी

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 21, 2009

In Lucknow, there was a marriage procession, where all men were dressed as groom with handcuffs….. and many women who were accompanying them were also handcuffed. India is great !

http://in.jagran.yahoo.com/epaper/index.php?location=37&edition=2009-11-20&pageno=6

लखनऊ, 19
नवम्बर, (जागरण संवाददाता) : शहर में आज एक ऐसी बारात निकली जिसमें पकड़ी व सेहरा बांधे अधिकांश दुल्हे थे और उनकी हाथों में लगी थी हथकड़ी। साथ में
महिलाएं भी थीं। इनमें से भी कुछ के हाथ में हथकड़ी थी।
चौकिये नहीं! महिलाओं द्वारा कानूनी प्राविधानों का किये जा रहे दुरुपयोग
की बढ़ती संख्या के प्रति सरकार का ध्यान आकर्षित करने के लिए पति-परिवार
कल्याण समिति के बैनर तले निकली अनोखी बारात का यह दृश्य था। कलेक्ट्रेट से निकली यह बारात परिवारिक न्यायालय होते हुए विधान भवन धरना स्थल पर
पहुंचा। इस मौके पर पति-परिवार कल्याण समिति ने पुरूष आयोग, पुरूष विकास
मंत्रालय तथा पुरूषों की सुरक्षा व न्याय प्राप्ति के लिए कोई कानून बनाने
की मांग की। समिति के सचिव बृजेश अवस्थी का कहना है कि महिलाओं के लिए
बनाये गये कई कानून ऐसे हैं, जो पूर्णतया एकतरफा हैं। उन्होंने कहा कि
नेशनल क्राइम ब्यूरो के आंकड़े पर नजर डालें तो प्रत्येक वर्ष विवाहित
महिलाओं की तुलना में पुरुषों की अप्राकृतिक मृत्यु दोगुने से भी ज्यादा
हुई है।

 

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Cruel marriage law being misused, so don’t rush to arrest: Centre to states

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 3, 2009


New Delhi: For years, there has been loud debate and even orders from courts to do away with or, at least, amend Section 498 A of the Indian Penal Code (IPC), which deals with the offence of matrimonial cruelty. This clause is considered to be rampantly abused, with several examples of husbands and their families being arrested without a preliminary inquiry on allegations of harassing their wives for a range of reasons, including dowry.
Now the Ministry of Home Affairs has written to all state governments, advising them that arrest for an alleged offence under Section 498A should be the “last resort,” not the first step.

In a communication sent to the Chief Secretaries and DGPs of all states and the Administrations of the Union Territories on October 13, the MHA has cited misuse of the clause.

“In some cases, every member of the husband’s family has been arrested, irrespective of whether they had a role in inflicting cruelty on the married woman or not. In some cases, the provisions have been used to settle personal scores. Cases have been reported where momentary anger has resulted in invocation of Section 498A, which resulted in the arrest of the members of the family shutting down any possibility of reconciliation in future and total collapse of the marriage. Even where there is a divorce proceeding, the case under Section 498A continues to persist because of the offence being non-compoundable,” the letter says.

Section 498A, incorporated in the IPC in 1983, provides for adequate punishment for any cruelty inflicted on a married woman by her husband and his relatives. The maximum punishment under the Section is three years and/or fine.

The MHA letter, incidentally, says that in light of judicial pronouncements, an attempt was made earlier to find a via media by amending Section 498A to make the offence compoundable. “However, this could not be pursued because of the opposition from women organisations,” the letter says.

Incidentally, in its judgment in Savitri Devi vs Ramesh Chand and others in 2002, the Delhi High Court observed: “…the misuse of the provisions of Section 498A…is hitting at the very foundation of marriage itself and has proved to be not so good for the health of the society at large.”

This was echoed by the Supreme Court in Sushil Kumar Sharma versus Union of India and Others. “The object of Section 498A is to prevent dowry menace. But…many instances have come to light where the complaints are not bonafide and…filed with oblique motive. It may become necessary for the legislature to find out ways how the makers of frivolous complaints or allegations can be appropriately dealt with.”

In 2003, the Justice Malimath Committee, submitted a report to the MHA on reforms in the Criminal Justice System, recommended that the Section be made bailable and compoundable to give a chance to the spouses to come together.

 

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Close Down NCW – The hotbed of Male Hatred

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 14, 2009

To, <Date>
Her Excellency,
The President of India,
Sub: Objections to NCW’s proposed recommendation to amend Section 125 , 127 of the Code of Criminal Procedure dealing with maintenance to wife , children and parents
Honorable President,
I, a citizen of India speak on behalf of me and my entire family when I say that we are profoundly shocked and flabbergasted at the recent recommendations made by The National Commission of Women (NCW) and other participating members in a conference organized by the NCW on Alimony and Maintenance laws in National Law School Bangalore. The recommendations are articulated below with the name of the person who recommended the same.
NCW Recommendations
It will henceforth become the “duty” of a man to provide maintenance to his wife and children irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means
Definition of a wife needs to changed to include women who have lived with a man in a relation of marriage
A son would have to maintain his widowed mother.
Recommendations of HR Bharadwaj
The moment a woman marries a man she is entitled to 50% share in her husbands property .There may be some issues with minorities but it should be applicable to many
Recommendations of Justice Malimath
He favors an amendment in maintenance laws to that will require husbands to fill in details of his financial status , thus making him liable to prosecution in case of filing false cases.
Analysis of the Recommendations’
It will henceforth become the “duty” of a man to provide maintenance to his wife and children irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means
The current Indian maintenance laws themselves are so biased that men regularly petition the court for selling their body organs in order to pay maintenance. This senseless recommendation of the NCW just wants to legalize the sale of organs and body parts of husbands so that now the husband will be bound to pay maintenance irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means. Very soon Indian men will have to sell their blood to pay ‘Blood-Money’ to their wives. For the NCW all the duties of the earth belong only to the husband and there exists no ‘defined’ ‘duty’ for the wife. The wife according to the NCW manual has only ‘rights’ and no ‘duties’. The NCW has never recommended or suggested any duties and responsibilities that the wife has to follow that entitles her to maintenance or defines the quantum of maintenance. The mere fact that conduct of woman in a marriage has no bearing on the maintenance is currently being taken advantage of in CrPC 125 and HMA 24 where women who inspite of being vicious and cruel file maintenance cases against their husbands who are forced to pay while the enjoys the fruits of her husbands labor . The NCW wants to make marriage a business for women of India who will now marry knowing that no matter what they do and how they treat their husbands they are guaranteed to get ‘Blood-Money’ in the form of the maintenance , thanks to the amendment created by the NCW that ensures life long parasitism.
Definition of a wife needs to changed to include women who have lived with a man in a relation of marriage
The NCW itself is filled with members who are divorcees or unmarried women almost all of whom are radical feminists. So understandably these women cannot be expected to understand the sanctity of a marriage. The NCW have crossed the legal boundaries of shamelessness with this recommendation. By redefining the term of wife it is openly promoting adultery and legalizing live-in relationships in the society. This recommendation is nothing but an attempt by the NCW to promote unscrupulous women to extract money from men by claiming to be their wives since they lived with a man with Mutual consent. Such a proposal in itself is a direct insult of the sacrosanct social institution called marriage and to those devout and faithful wives who are committed to their husbands. Granting equal privileges as wives to a live – in partner directly degrades the status of marriage in the society which is a solemnized vow in presence of family elders whereas there is no commitment factor in a live – in relationship. And suggesting maintenance for live – in partners is luring more women to enter into multiple relationships and demand maintenance from each partner. This is a direct attempt to degrade and demean the existing status of women in the society. Ironically this statement is coming from NCW, supposed to be working for upliftment of women in the society.
A son would have to maintain his widowed mother
The NCW here again tried to burden only men with responsibility of women. In cases where widows have both a son and a daughter it must be the equal responsibility of the daughter as that of the son to look after their widowed mother. If the widow just has a daughter then the daughter must be legally liable to take the complete responsibility of her mother. However the NCW manual does not propose any thing other than burdening men with the responsibility of women, so the NCW stooped short of defining the responsibilities that a daughter must have towards her mother and family in general .and just mentioned the responsibility of the son.
The moment a woman marries a man she is entitled to 50% share in her husbands property .There may be some issues with minorities but it should be applicable to many
This recommendation is laughable at the best and it is really sad and suspiring that this came from the ex law minister of the country H S Bharadwaj. The law minister by making this statement just demonstrated his lack of understanding of the condition of husbands in India and his ignorance about the ways in which wives are torturing men with laws like 498A, Domestic violence and maintenance laws. This law minister just paid lip service to men’s issues during his tenure and his now openly supporting the NCW with such senseless recommendations. Does the current Karnataka Governor want to make marriage a property grabbing tool, where women would marry just to grab the husband’s property ? No where in the world does such a law exist where a wife, the moment she marries the husband would becomes entitled to 50% of the husband’s property. Men would stop marrying immediately should such an amendment be created and women would start chain marrying to get 50% of each husbands property in each case.
Amendment in maintenance laws to that will require husbands to fill in details of his financial status , thus making him liable to prosecution in case of filing false cases
Justice Malimath is now following the proverb “If you can’t beat them join them”. No one took his recommendations on 498A seriously so he has now decided to support the radical feminist of the NCW and makes senseless recommendations like the one above. If husbands are made to sign details of financial status , the wives also must be made to sign details of qualifications, work experience and salary details before the marriage itself, so that they can be summarily denied maintenance if they are qualified and can earn an own living . Why does Justice Malimath not propose an amendment to create a Prenuptial agreement between the husband and wife before the marriage itself where either parties would clearly define their assets that they come with and should the marriage break up what will be the assets that the parties will depart with . The rate at which marriages are breaking up in India makes prenuptial agreements the need of the hour to safeguard the wealth of husbands as well as wives. However Justice Malimath also seems to refer the NCW Bible and propose an amendment just for husbands to declare assets while wives no matter how qualified and capable or rich by inheritance from her family would not have to declare their assets during a maintenance case.
NCW’s past record on recommendations
The NCW attracts a lot media attention by making nonsensical and wild recommendations with the sole intention of making life miserable for men. Below are some of the recent recommendations of the NCW on other issues and their brief analysis.
NCW went ahead and published that in 70 % of cases women are denied maintenance on grounds of adultery. SIFF activists when filed for data to support the claim made by NCW, through an application under Rights to Information Act, 2005, NCW in its reply categorically denied maintaining any such data. It was a white lie published by NCW and a delirious attempt by NCW to fudge statistics and present an otherwise picture to realize vendetta best known to it. Such a body severely lacking integrity and accountability does not deserve such a position.
NCW Chairperson claimed in the media that 498A is abused by women due to ignorance.
· Any married woman dying anytime through out her marriage must be treated as a dowry death .This was done with the clear intention to increase the dowry death numbers so that that can be used as a fudged statistic.
· NCW recommended the removal of adultery by wife as a clause for divorce. In India women as it is cannot be convicted for adultery. According to NCW recommendations men must not be able to get a divorce even if their wives leave them and maintain sexual relations with other men.
· NCW recommended that giving Dowry must not be considered as a crime .Taking Dowry taking will remain a crime for men however, giving dowry will not be considered a crime for women and their families.
The Future of this National Commission for Women
The ‘National Commission for Women’ which had transformed into ‘National Commission for Wives’ has today transformed itself into the ‘National Commission against Men in the background. NCW, originally designed to be an astute body working for the genuine causes of women has today miserably failed in its duties to protect the rights of women and safeguard the same as the arrest data published by the National Crime Records Bureau shows that more than 1, 23,000 women have been arrested in the last four years for complaints under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code.. The organization has completely lost credibility in all aspects and today relies on fudged numbers to promote its cause of family destruction. The organization has today been reduced to just a haven for radical feminists who propose virtually anything that will lead to further destruction of the Indian family system. The organization has totally lost direction and purpose and has become burden on the tax payers of the country, 82% of who are men. Most of the organization’s recommendations are outrageous and totally unfair to men in general. The organization never speaks about misuse of the law by women and never recommends ways to arrest misuse and has today become an engine to draft more biased anti men laws. The organization needs to be shuttered at the earliest.
I < Name > henceforth request the Indian Government not to channel any percentage of my tax money to fund an organization like the NCW whose sole motivation is to promote “Family terrorism”
<Name >
<Signature>

To,                                                                                                                                 <Date>

Her Excellency,

The President of India,

Sub: Objections to NCW’s proposed recommendation to amend Section 125 , 127 of the Code of Criminal Procedure dealing with maintenance to wife , children and parents

Honorable President,

I, a citizen of India speak on behalf of me and my entire family when I say that we are profoundly shocked and flabbergasted at the recent recommendations made by The National Commission of Women (NCW) and other participating members in a conference organized by the NCW on Alimony and Maintenance laws in National Law School Bangalore. The recommendations are articulated below with the name of the person who recommended the same.

NCW Recommendations

  • It will henceforth become the “duty” of a man to provide maintenance to his wife and children irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means
  • Definition of a wife needs to changed to include women who have lived with a man in a relation of marriage
  • A son would have to maintain his widowed mother.

Recommendations of HR Bharadwaj

  • The moment a woman marries a man she is entitled to 50% share in her husbands property .There may be some issues with minorities but it should be applicable to many

Recommendations of Justice Malimath

He favors an amendment in maintenance laws to that will require husbands to fill in details of his financial status , thus making him liable to prosecution in case of filing false cases.

Analysis of the Recommendations’

It will henceforth become the “duty” of a man to provide maintenance to his wife and children irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means

The current Indian maintenance laws themselves are so biased that men regularly petition the court for selling their body organs in order to pay maintenance. This senseless recommendation of the NCW just wants to legalize the sale of organs and body parts of husbands so that now the husband will be bound to pay maintenance irrespective of the fact if he has sufficient means. Very soon Indian men will have to sell their blood to pay ‘Blood-Money’ to their wives. For the NCW all the duties of the earth belong only to the husband and there exists no ‘defined’ ‘duty’ for the wife. The wife according to the NCW manual has only ‘rights’ and no ‘duties’. The NCW has never recommended or suggested any duties and responsibilities that the wife has to follow that entitles her to maintenance or defines the quantum of maintenance. The mere fact that conduct of woman in a marriage has no bearing on the maintenance is currently being taken advantage of in CrPC 125 and HMA 24 where women who inspite of being vicious and cruel file maintenance cases against their husbands who are forced to pay while the enjoys the fruits of her husbands labor . The NCW wants to make marriage a business for women of India who will now marry knowing that no matter what they do and how they treat their husbands they are guaranteed to get ‘Blood-Money’ in the form of the maintenance , thanks to the amendment created by the NCW that ensures life long parasitism.

Definition of a wife needs to changed to include women who have lived with a man in a relation of marriage

The NCW itself is filled with members who are divorcees or unmarried women almost all of whom are radical feminists. So understandably these women cannot be expected to understand the sanctity of a marriage. The NCW have crossed the legal boundaries of shamelessness with this recommendation. By redefining the term of wife it is openly promoting adultery and legalizing live-in relationships in the society. This recommendation is nothing but an attempt by the NCW to promote unscrupulous women to extract money from men by claiming to be their wives since they lived with a man with Mutual consent. Such a proposal in itself is a direct insult of the sacrosanct social institution called marriage and to those devout and faithful wives who are committed to their husbands. Granting equal privileges as wives to a live – in partner directly degrades the status of marriage in the society which is a solemnized vow in presence of family elders whereas there is no commitment factor in a live – in relationship. And suggesting maintenance for live – in partners is luring more women to enter into multiple relationships and demand maintenance from each partner. This is a direct attempt to degrade and demean the existing status of women in the society. Ironically this statement is coming from NCW, supposed to be working for upliftment of women in the society.

A son would have to maintain his widowed mother

The NCW here again tried to burden only men with responsibility of women. In cases where widows have both a son and a daughter it must be the equal responsibility of the daughter as that of the son to look after their widowed mother. If the widow just has a daughter then the daughter must be legally liable to take the complete responsibility of her mother. However the NCW manual does not propose any thing other than burdening men with the responsibility of women, so the NCW stooped short of defining the responsibilities that a daughter must have towards her mother and family in general .and just mentioned the responsibility of the son.

  • The moment a woman marries a man she is entitled to 50% share in her husbands property .There may be some issues with minorities but it should be applicable to many

This recommendation is laughable at the best and it is really sad and suspiring that this came from the ex law minister of the country H S Bharadwaj. The law minister by making this statement just demonstrated his lack of understanding of the condition of husbands in India and his ignorance about the ways in which wives are torturing men with laws like 498A, Domestic violence and maintenance laws. This law minister just paid lip service to men’s issues during his tenure and his now openly supporting the NCW with such senseless recommendations. Does the current Karnataka Governor want to make marriage a property grabbing tool, where women would marry just to grab the husband’s property ? No where in the world does such a law exist where a wife, the moment she marries the husband would becomes entitled to 50% of the husband’s property. Men would stop marrying immediately should such an amendment be created and women would start chain marrying to get 50% of each husbands property in each case.

Amendment in maintenance laws to that will require husbands to fill in details of his financial status , thus making him liable to prosecution in case of filing false cases

Justice Malimath is now following the proverb “If you can’t beat them join them”. No one took his recommendations on 498A seriously so he has now decided to support the radical feminist of the NCW and makes senseless recommendations like the one above. If husbands are made to sign details of financial status , the wives also must be made to sign details of qualifications, work experience and salary details before the marriage itself, so that they can be summarily denied maintenance if they are qualified and can earn an own living . Why does Justice Malimath not propose an amendment to create a Prenuptial agreement between the husband and wife before the marriage itself where either parties would clearly define their assets that they come with and should the marriage break up what will be the assets that the parties will depart with . The rate at which marriages are breaking up in India makes prenuptial agreements the need of the hour to safeguard the wealth of husbands as well as wives. However Justice Malimath also seems to refer the NCW Bible and propose an amendment just for husbands to declare assets while wives no matter how qualified and capable or rich by inheritance from her family would not have to declare their assets during a maintenance case.

NCW’s past record on recommendations

The NCW attracts a lot media attention by making nonsensical and wild recommendations with the sole intention of making life miserable for men. Below are some of the recent recommendations of the NCW on other issues and their brief analysis.

NCW went ahead and published that in 70 % of cases women are denied maintenance on grounds of adultery. SIFF activists when filed for data to support the claim made by NCW, through an application under Rights to Information Act, 2005, NCW in its reply categorically denied maintaining any such data. It was a white lie published by NCW and a delirious attempt by NCW to fudge statistics and present an otherwise picture to realize vendetta best known to it. Such a body severely lacking integrity and accountability does not deserve such a position.

NCW Chairperson claimed in the media that 498A is abused by women due to ignorance.

· Any married woman dying anytime through out her marriage must be treated as a dowry death .This was done with the clear intention to increase the dowry death numbers so that that can be used as a fudged statistic.

· NCW recommended the removal of adultery by wife as a clause for divorce. In India women as it is cannot be convicted for adultery. According to NCW recommendations men must not be able to get a divorce even if their wives leave them and maintain sexual relations with other men.

· NCW recommended that giving Dowry must not be considered as a crime .Taking Dowry taking will remain a crime for men however, giving dowry will not be considered a crime for women and their families.

The Future of this National Commission for Women

The ‘National Commission for Women’ which had transformed into ‘National Commission for Wives’ has today transformed itself into the ‘National Commission against Men‘ in the background. NCW, originally designed to be an astute body working for the genuine causes of women has today miserably failed in its duties to protect the rights of women and safeguard the same as the arrest data published by the National Crime Records Bureau shows that more than 1, 23,000 women have been arrested in the last four years for complaints under Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code.. The organization has completely lost credibility in all aspects and today relies on fudged numbers to promote its cause of family destruction. The organization has today been reduced to just a haven for radical feminists who propose virtually anything that will lead to further destruction of the Indian family system. The organization has totally lost direction and purpose and has become burden on the tax payers of the country, 82% of who are men. Most of the organization’s recommendations are outrageous and totally unfair to men in general. The organization never speaks about misuse of the law by women and never recommends ways to arrest misuse and has today become an engine to draft more biased anti men laws. The organization needs to be shuttered at the earliest.

I < Name > henceforth request the Indian Government not to channel any percentage of my tax money to fund an organization like the NCW whose sole motivation is to promote “Family terrorism”

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209 men kidnapped for marriage in India

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 11, 2009

Men are so afraid of marriage that they are being kidnapped to be forced into marriage

New Delhi It may sound curious but a latest government survey shows 209 men were kidnapped in the country last year to force them into wedlock. This figure includes three men above the age of 50 years and two below the age of ten years.Interestingly, Bihar is the only big state where more men are kidnapped than women, according to the ‘Crime in India — 2007’ report prepared by National Crime Records Bureau.

According to the report, 1268 men were kidnapped from Bihar while figures for women were six less than that. Out of a total of 27,561 kidnapping cases, 12,856 were related to marriage in which 12,874 people were abducted.

Marriage was the main cause of kidnapping and abduction of women which accounted for 61.2 per cent (12,655) of the 20,690 victims from the fairer sex while ransom was the main cause of kidnapping of men representing 8.1 per cent cases (596 out of 7,340).

Among the women, the report said, the largest number of victims of kidnapping for marriage were from the age group of 18-30 years accounting for 7,930 followed by 15-18 years with 2,521.

Five men in the age-group of 18-30 years were among 417 people who were kidnapped for prostitution, with 264 women between 18 and 30 years leading the list of victims.

A total of 28,030 persons were kidnapped or abducted last year registering an increase of 15.4 per cent than the previous year.

More than double number of females (20,690) were kidnapped compared to men (7,340) accounting for 73.8 per cent, the NCRB report said.

Interestingly, not a single case of kidnapping was registered across the country for selling body or body parts while 15 cases of kidnapping for begging were reported.

The highest incidence of kidnapping was reported from Uttar Pradesh which accounted for 16.2 per cent (4,478 cases) followed by Bihar (2,530).

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