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A man’s rights in India

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 25, 2010

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All the rights that a man has in India are listed above.

Can’t see anything? That is because there are no rights for men in India.

Only women have rights and these rights have been given to them by men only.

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Men’s Rights Organizations Strengthen in Hong Kong

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on December 10, 2009

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Association to protect Mothers-in-law launched in AP

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 15, 2009

http://www.merinews.com/article/association-to-protect-mothers-in-law-launched-in-ap/15786341.shtml

MOTHERS-IN-LAW in our country are being severely discriminated against, neglected and subjected to all forms of domestic abuse over the last decade. Unless provisions are made to protect mothers-in-law from discrimination, domestic violence, and legal harassment, and unless steps are taken to ensure their welfare during their post-menopausal years, we will witness serious deterioration in the health conditions of aging women in the country, and reduction in their life span.

Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association (APMPA) is the first ever social forum created to protect the rights and interests of mothers-in-law in Andhra Pradesh. APMPA is the Andhra Pradesh chapter of All India Mothers-in-law Protection Forum which was launched on 6 September 2009 in Bangalore, followed by the launch of local chapters in Delhi, Nagpur and Lucknow.

APMPA will work towards the protection and welfare of women in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and legal counseling. It will also urge the government to reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence laws and demand equal protection for mothers-in-law from domestic violence.
The helpline numbers of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association is 9704683163, 9753605415. Mothers-in-law facing harassment can contact at these numbers.
Mothers-in-law have historically been portrayed as evil and bloodthirsty by media and popular culture. However, it is a scientifically and also statistically established fact that mothers-in-law are unnecessarily maligned and subjected to discrimination by the society.
The National Family Health Survey (NFHS) has conclusively established that a woman in the age group of 15-49 years of age faces 8 times more violence from her own mother compared to her mother-in-law. 13.7% women have faced violence from their own mother as compared to 1.7% women who have faced from their mothers-in-law.
Recent Research has shown that “daughters-in-law are programmed to hate mothers-in-law”. This is one of the most important causes of the stereotyping of mothers-in-law in the society.
Mothers -in-law in India face severe abuse in the forms of :
Physical harassment including assault, locking up the mother-in-law in a room, denying food and medication etc.
Mental harassment including taunts, allegations, caustic comments, threatening to file police cases, disallowing communication with her son, grandchildren, defaming her and her family etc.
Verbal harassment including name calling, insulting, abusing, etc.
Economic abuse including extorting her money and wealth, throwing her out of her own house and forcibly occupying the house, etc.
Legal harassment including inciting the police to threaten her, filing false cases under Dowry Prohibition Act, IPC Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, and other related sections, sending her to jail or forcing her to run around the court for years together.
Driving mothers-in-law to commit suicide.
The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Family Health and Welfare only counts women between the ages of 15-49 as women. Mothers-in-law who fall in the age bracket above 49 do not count as women, and their health and welfare is not a matter of concern for the Government of India.
While there are close to 15 laws that provide protection to daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law do not have any societal support or legal protection from any form of discrimination or abuse.
In the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man.
Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment.
Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.
Several elderly women, falsely accused under IPC Section 498A (for the only crime of mothering sons and getting the sons married) approached the National Commission for Women, seeking justice. These women have long heart-rending accounts of how they are being harassed by their daughters-in-law. The NCW’s short, yet prompt and candid response to these mothers was, “Your matter does not fall under the mandate of the Commission”.
Similarly, in June 2009, a 45 year old mother-in-law was arrested in a dowry harassment case filed by her daughter-in-law. The poor lady was allegedly gang-raped in police custody, in Bhopal. The news, which was reported in leading newspapers, went completely unnoticed by the NCW or any other women’s organization that harp about fighting atrocities against women. No panel was set up. No probe was initiated and no action has been taken against this brutality perpetrated against a mother-in-law.
On 8 October 2009, a news report described the gut-wrenching tale of a 75-year-old mother-in-law, Jiwan Devi, who is another victim of societal and legal bias against mothers-in-law. Holding back her tears, here is what she said to the journalist who visited her:
“What is the point?…I and my sons were in jail for four years before we were acquitted. And my grandchildren were at the mercy of our neighbours and distant relatives. Why?… My granddaughter is 19. While all her friends are in college, she is still in class 11. This happened only because there was no one to take care of them while we were in jail. They were also in deep shock”’
There are thousands of Jiwan Devis in this country, whose lives have been destroyed, just for having given life to sons. These are the women whose woes do not fall under the agenda of the Ministry for Women and Child Development, the National Commission for Women, or any other related women’s organization, and they have nowhere to go to seek help and support for problems specifically affecting them.

APMPA will work towards the protection and welfare of women in distress by creating awareness, giving them moral support and legal counseling. It will also urge the government to reform the present “wife-centric” domestic violence laws and demand equal protection for mothers-in-law from domestic violence.

The helpline numbers of the Andhra Pradesh Mothers-in-law Protection Association is 9704683163, 9753605415. Mothers-in-law facing harassment can contact at these numbers.

Mothers-in-law have historically been portrayed as evil and bloodthirsty by media and popular culture. However, it is a scientifically and also statistically established fact that mothers-in-law are unnecessarily maligned and subjected to discrimination by the society.

The National Family Health Survey (NFHS) has conclusively established that a woman in the age group of 15-49 years of age faces 8 times more violence from her own mother compared to her mother-in-law. 13.7% women have faced violence from their own mother as compared to 1.7% women who have faced from their mothers-in-law.

Recent Research has shown that “daughters-in-law are programmed to hate mothers-in-law”. This is one of the most important causes of the stereotyping of mothers-in-law in the society.

Mothers -in-law in India face severe abuse in the forms of :

  • Physical harassment including assault, locking up the mother-in-law in a room, denying food and medication etc.
  • Mental harassment including taunts, allegations, caustic comments, threatening to file police cases, disallowing communication with her son, grandchildren, defaming her and her family etc.
  • Verbal harassment including name calling, insulting, abusing, etc.
  • Economic abuse including extorting her money and wealth, throwing her out of her own house and forcibly occupying the house, etc.
  • Legal harassment including inciting the police to threaten her, filing false cases under Dowry Prohibition Act, IPC Section 498A, Domestic Violence Act, and other related sections, sending her to jail or forcing her to run around the court for years together.
  • Driving mothers-in-law to commit suicide.

The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Family Health and Welfare only counts women between the ages of 15-49 as women. Mothers-in-law who fall in the age bracket above 49 do not count as women, and their health and welfare is not a matter of concern for the Government of India.

While there are close to 15 laws that provide protection to daughters-in-law, mothers-in-law do not have any societal support or legal protection from any form of discrimination or abuse.

In the last four years, over 1,23,497 women, most of them being mothers-in-law, have been arrested under IPC Section 498A alone, without evidence or investigation, not for committing any crime under law, but only because they were related to a man.

Noted women’s rights activist Madhu Kishwar acknowledged that IPC Section 498A is heavily misused, and that a significant proportion of individuals who approach “Manushi” these days are mothers-in-law and husbands who are falsely accused of marital cruelty and dowry harassment.

Renowned IPS officer Kiran Bedi admitted that many poor and illiterate mothers-in-law, who are falsely charged under anti-dowry laws, are languishing in prison every year.

Several elderly women, falsely accused under IPC Section 498A (for the only crime of mothering sons and getting the sons married) approached the National Commission for Women, seeking justice. These women have long heart-rending accounts of how they are being harassed by their daughters-in-law. The NCW’s short, yet prompt and candid response to these mothers was, “Your matter does not fall under the mandate of the Commission”.

Similarly, in June 2009, a 45 year old mother-in-law was arrested in a dowry harassment case filed by her daughter-in-law. The poor lady was allegedly gang-raped in police custody, in Bhopal. The news, which was reported in leading newspapers, went completely unnoticed by the NCW or any other women’s organization that harp about fighting atrocities against women. No panel was set up. No probe was initiated and no action has been taken against this brutality perpetrated against a mother-in-law.

On 8 October 2009, a news report described the gut-wrenching tale of a 75-year-old mother-in-law, Jiwan Devi, who is another victim of societal and legal bias against mothers-in-law. Holding back her tears, here is what she said to the journalist who visited her:

“What is the point?…I and my sons were in jail for four years before we were acquitted. And my grandchildren were at the mercy of our neighbours and distant relatives. Why?… My granddaughter is 19. While all her friends are in college, she is still in class 11. This happened only because there was no one to take care of them while we were in jail. They were also in deep shock”’

There are thousands of Jiwan Devis in this country, whose lives have been destroyed, just for having given life to sons. These are the women whose woes do not fall under the agenda of the Ministry for Women and Child Development, the National Commission for Women, or any other related women’s organization, and they have nowhere to go to seek help and support for problems specifically affecting them.

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Longest running Court Case, India: 175 yrs

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 9, 2008

175 years later, West Bengal case goes on and on
9 Nov 2008, 0445 hrs IST, Neelam Raaj, TNN

KOLKATA: The wheels of Indian justice grind slowly, but there are times when they don’t move at all — as has happened with the record-breaking case of an erstwhile Bengali royal family’s proverty. The matter,
which is now in the Calcutta High Court, has been pending for 175 years, making it perhaps the country’s longest-running case.

The property belonged to Raja Rajkrishna Deb, a 17th-century landlord of Bengal’s Shovabazar royal family. Now, the Raja’s descendents — some 200 of them — are demanding it.

The stakes are high — some seven mansions in north Kolkata, nearly 100,000 acres of land in what is now Bangladesh, large tracts of land in at least three districts of West Bengal, and half of erstwhile Sutanati, one of the three villages that make up modern Kolkata.

But all this is still in the hands of a court-appointed receiver. “We are kings in name only. There is no money even to take care of the temples and do puja,” a descendent of the raja told TOI. Incidentally, the Shovabazar Durga Puja is an institution in Kolkata.

The problems began when Raja Rajkrishna Deb died in 1823, bequeathing his estate to his seven surviving sons. But the sons started selling off property to fund their luxurious lifestyles.

The matter first came to court in 1833, when an executor of Rajkrishna Deb’s will lodged a case to try to stop the sale. After pondering the case for 22 years, the judges appointed a British lawyer to oversee
the property and the case dragged on.

Now the heirs want it back but legal experts say it won’t be easy for the high court to take a decision on a case file that’s been gathering dust for nearly two centuries. National and state boundaries have
since changed and a substantial portion of the land once owned by Raja Rajkrishna Deb is now in Bangladesh.

http://timesofindia .indiatimes. com/175_years_ later_West_ Bengal_case_ goes_on_and_on/ articleshow/ 3690564.cms

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Sorry Shruti, DV act is not available for you :(

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 9, 2008

My wife has filed all cases that are possible by a wife against her husband (including dowry cases).

I was expecting that a Domestic Violence case will come soon too (and I am sure that she was hoping so too), but now courts have ruled that DV act does not have a retrospective effect. Sorry Shruti my love 😦

New Delhi: An attempt by a woman, who got married 25 years ago, to seek relief from a Delhi court under the Domestic Violence Act for alleged harassment by her husband and in-laws in 1997 has fallen flat.
The court rejected her plea saying that the Protection of Women from the Domestic Violence Act cannot be applied to an incident of harassment with occurred 11 years ago as the woman-friendly legislation
cannot be applied with retrospective effect. “All the allegations of domestic violence and harassment pertain to the period prior to the year 1997, much before the present Act came into force on 2005. The Act also does not have a retrospective effect,” the court said. PTI

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/Woman_denied_relief_under_Domestic_Violence_Act/rssarticleshow/3686541.cms

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Wife + family booked for husband’s suicide

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 6, 2008

NAGPUR: Five days after Vitthal Dodke, a resident of the Ayodhya Nagar, committed suicide, Sakkardara police have registered offences against six  persons, including his wife, for allegedly abetting the man to end his life. Police have already dispatched units to arrest the accused, but till Wednesday evening, none had been taken into custody.

Behind the scenes, one may say that it was due to the efforts put in by members of the Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF), an organisation consisting mostly of men tortured by their wives, which did the trick. Otherwise, the police had not registered offence against anyone despite the fact that Dodke had mentioned in his suicide note that his wife had driven him to commit suicide.

Offences under section 306 of the IPC have been registered against six accused identified as Dodke’s wife Saroj, her family members Ashok Kshirsagar, Prakash Kshirsagar, their father Natthuji Kshirsagar and his wife, as well as one Ramkrishna Pimpalkar. The offences were registered late on Wednesday evening.

However, despite this, members of the SIFF, led by Rajesh Wakharia, organised a demonstration outside the Sakkardara police station on Wednesday morning, to protest the inordinate delay by the cops to register offence against the accused. The situation was diffused after the policemen informed them that they had already sent squads to bring in the accused.

Dodke had committed suicide by hanging himself at his home. His body had been discovered at on October 31. During primary investigations, police recovered a suicide note in which Dodke had said that his wife was pressurising him to have his parental house transferred in her name, and had been threatening to lodge false complaints at the local police station and have him and his family arrested if he did not comply with her demands.

Incidentally, this is the third case in a year in the city of a woman being booked by the police for allegedly driving her husband to suicide. In a similar incident in Ajni a few months ago, a city corporator and her family had been booked by the police after being accused of abetting her husband to commit suicide.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Cities/Cops_book_wife_for_mans_suicide/articleshow/3679179.cms

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Me and my wife are together for at least 17 years more :)

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 4, 2008

Supreme court denies divorce even after 17 years of legal battles

Live with a dead marriage, if God so wills, says SC
19 Aug 2008, 0247 hrs IST,TNN

NEW DELHI: A man, separated from wife for last 17 years and repeatedly refused divorce by courts, was on Monday told by the Supreme Court that he may have to live with the rest of his life with a dead marriage as it appears that God willed it that way.

“If this is the will of God,” said a Bench comprising Justices B N Agrawal, G S Singhvi and J M Panchal dismissing a petition by Narinder Kumar Verma seeking divorce on the ground that the burden of a dead marriage imposed on him was violating his right to life guaranteed under Article 21 of the Constitution.

The Bench said it was helpless as Verma’s petition seeking divorce was rejected followed by dismissal of his review and curative petitions, which meant that the order of the apex court declining him divorce has attained finality.

Appearing for the petitioner, senior advocate S B Sanyal said the question before the apex court was not to go afresh into the rejection of the appeal, review and curative, but to consider whether a person be tied down to a dead marriage and not allowed to make a fresh beginning.

Explaining the fall-out of continuing a dead marriage, Sanyal said if the husband, who was taking care of his two daughters for nearly two decades, dies, then the wife would also take a share of his property without even contributing a bit into the grooming of the children.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/India/Live_with_a_dead_marriage_if_God_so_wills_says_SC/articleshow/3378807.cms

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Women lure IT pros for a date to rob them

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 29, 2008

They lured men seeking a date, robbed them
29 Oct 2008, 0354 hrs IST, TNN

BANGALORE: A gang which robbed and assaulted young professionals looking for hot dates is in the
police net.

Two women, who were part of the band, would lure IT professionals and real estate businessmen on the promise of a date and lead them to secluded places, where other members of the gang lay in wait to rob
them. The victims were assaulted with choppers and wooden clubs, before being robbed of their valuables and vehicles.

The Sampigehalli police have arrested Suhail (24), Fairoz (21), Sadiq (23) of DJ Halli, Mohammed Nayaz (44) and his wife Nafeesa Bhanu (36) of Yelahanka and Pinky alias Parvati (21) of West Bengal for the crimes. Tanvir (22), said to be kingpin of the operation, is absconding.

The gang had recently kidnapped two minor girls from West Bengal to deploy them for their operations. The girls, identified as Deena (14) and Thumba (16), were rescued by the police and brought to
Yeshwanthpur railway station three days ago. They are now being sent back home.

Detailing the modus operandi of the gang, the police said Tanvir, who used to provide computer services to apartments, had obtained mobile numbers of several outstation students who had completed studies in
Bangalore and returned home. He would buy these sim cards and pass it on to Pinky.

Armed with these sim numbers, Pinky would call up young professionals — based on another database that she had — introduce herself as one of the students and invite them for a date. The victims would then be
escorted by an assistant to a place where she waited. She would then lead them to secluded spots where Suhail, Fairoz, Sadiq and Nayaz preyed upon them.

Tracking a series of such cases, a team headed by DCP Basavaraj Malagathi cracked the case, based on tower locations from which the calls were made.

http://timesofindia .indiatimes. com/Cities/ They_lured_ men_seeking_ a_date_robbed_them/ articleshow/ 3649601.cms

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Woman fined Rs 50K for filing frivolous petition

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 26, 2008

NEW DELHI: An exemplary cost of Rs 50,000 was slapped on a woman on Thursday by the Delhi HC which took exception to her tactics to stall divorce.

proceedings filed against her by her husband on grounds of desertion. HC was irked by her move to file a frivolous petition to delay the divorce proceedings initiated by her husband in a family court.

“I find that this petition is frivolous and is liable to be dismissed with an exemplary cost…” said Justice Shiv Narayan Dhingra in a judgement while dismissing a petition filed by Sujata Aggarwal challenging a family court decision to reject her application for adjournment in 2007.

“Every kind of excuse available on the earth had been put forward for seeking adjournments and all tactics had been adopted to delay the proceedings,” HC observed and referred to the lower court order that had stated that Sujata had taken several adjournments since 2001 to delay the proceeding in the divorce case filed by her husband Ravi Shankar Aggarwal in 1998.

Justice Dhingra also said, neither the wife nor her counsel appeared before the family court in August 2001 to receive the alimony paid by her husband, thereby strenghtening suspicion that their intention was only to delay proceedings.

“The ground on which the husband sought divorce is desertion. Sujata had an option to lead her evidence to show that she had not deserted and fault lied on the side of the husband. Instead of leading evidence and appearing in the court she had just seen to it that the case does not proceed,” the Court said.

On March 3, 2007, the family court had dismissed an application filed by Sujata for an adjournment in the 1998 case for divorce sought by her husband on the ground of desertion by his wife. After allowing several applications filed by Sujata and granting adjournments several times since 2001 on one or other grounds taken by the wife, the family court had dismissed her plea for further adjournment.

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Delhi/Woman_fined_Rs_50K_for_filing_frivolous_petition/articleshow/3605191.cms

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House wife slept with 18 yr old,still accused him with rape

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 25, 2008

A homemaker accused her 18-year-old servant of rape and stabbed him to death, but a narco test now reveals the shocking truth that she had been sleeping with him for five years.

Rajni (name changed) stabbed her 18-year-old servant with a kitchen knife, claiming he was trying to rape her.

When the 36-year-old Mumbai homemaker was brought to Bangalore for a narco test, she stunned investigators by revealing that she had been sleeping with the boy for five years, since he was 13.

Rajni is the wife of a bar owner, and had developed physical intimacy with Anand (18), who hails from Bihar.

Anand had worked in Rajni’s house as a domestic help for 10 years, and also used to help out in the bar. He had been given a room in the couple’s apartment.

In April 2007, Rajni was sleeping in her room with her two-and-a-half-year-old child. Her story was that Anand had barged in and tried to rape her after threatening her with a knife.

“Fearing he would injure my child, I snatched the knife and stabbed him,” she first told the police. She said she had shouted for help to her husband and her brother-in-law. The latter lives on the second floor of the apartment.

They dragged Anand to the corridor and thrashed him. A profusely bleeding Anand was taken to hospital where he was declared brought dead, she said. Neighbours who witnessed the beating turned hostile in court.

Though Rajni pleaded that she had killed Anand in self-defence, the court directed the police to subject her to a narco test.

During the test, Rajni not only explained how she had stabbed Anand, but also gave details of their illicit relationship.

She confessed she had lost interest after a while, and and had started turning down his pleas for sex.

On the fateful day, Anand went to her for sex, but she refused since she was trying to put the baby to sleep.

Anand got agitated and threatened her with a table knife, she said during the narco. “I had no option but to defend myself and my child and jumped on him to snatch the knife,” she explained. “I stabbed him thrice on his abdomen and later dragged his body to the corridor and informed my husband and brother-in-law.”

Rajini also admitted she had to concoct the story of a rape attempt to conceal her relationship with him.
“I started beating him. My husband and brother-in-law joined me. They were so angry they beat Anand who was already profusely bleeding,” she said.

I have no option but to defend myself and my child from him and jumped on him to snatch the knife, she explained. I stabbed him thrice on his abdomen and later dragged his body to the corridor and informed my husband and brother-in-law, she said.

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