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Wanted: Gender-neutral laws

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on August 16, 2010

If women like Uma Challa had their way, they would change all gender-biased laws that exist in India today, including Section 498A of the IPC or the dowry law.

The draft Bill on Protection of Women against Sexual Harassment at the Workplace may be ready, but some women actually think it is heavily biased against men. If women like Uma Challa had their way, they would change all gender-biased laws that exist in India today, including Section 498A of the IPC or the dowry law. Challa argues that the dowry law is being misused by many women to harass their husbands and in-laws.

Hyderabad-based Challa launched a forum called All India Forgotten Women, under the aegis of Save Indian Family Foundation (SIFF) in 2005, in response to the “large-scale arrests of women falsely accused under Section 498A IPC”.

The draft Bill on sexual harassment at the workplace, she says, does not have provisions to protect men from similar harassment at the workplace and it thus undermines the Indian Constitution, which states that men and women have the same right to equality and life.

“The Bill and its architects undermine the basic truth that sexual harassment is neither about sex nor gender. It is about power, and a woman in power can be every bit as abusive as a man,” Challa says.

“The Bill requires that committees for redressing grievances consist of persons `committed to the cause of women’. If committees are filled with individuals committed to the cause of women and not to the cause of truth, law and justice, is it hard to foretell the fate of males in an institution or in society as a whole,” she asks.

Challa, who is also president of The All India Men’s Welfare Association, says the Bill contains provisions for `conciliation’ and `settlement’ between the `aggrieved’ woman and the respondent. If `conciliation’ happens and `settlement’ is arrived at, no further inquiry will be conducted. If, however, the terms and conditions of `conciliation’ and `settlement’ are not met by the accused, an inquiry will be conducted.

“When sexual harassment at the workplace is considered a grievous crime which warrants a special and stringent law, what is the purpose of having a `conciliation’ and `settlement’ plan? In what way is this law different from the dowry law, which is being used as a weapon of extortion,” she asks.

She says countries around the world, including the USA, the UK and all member countries of the European Union, have gender-neutral sexual harassment prevention laws. “Even Pakistan, which passed a similar Bill in January 2010, embraced the principle of gender neutrality,” she adds.

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Father’s day protest 19 June 2010

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on June 20, 2010

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We don’t need dowry, cry harassed husbands

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 20, 2009


Friday, 20 November 2009 08:55
On International Men’s Day, married men demand end of  torture from women, who misuse law to their advantage.
In a role reversal of sorts, approximately 300 married men pleaded an end to torture by their wives on International Men’s Day yesterday.
The harassed husbands carried banners against the misuse of dowry by their wives, as they participated in a rally organised by the Protect India Family Foundation, Indian Family Foundation and the Child’s Right and Family Welfare, from Mulund to Azad Maidan.
“We are professionals, who don’t need dowry, but are still harassed,” said Dipak Nachankar, who has not met his granddaughter for two years.
He added, “Our rights are violated by women, who take advantage of Section 498(a) of the IPC.

HAPLESS: The harassed husbands at a rally from Mulund to Azad Maidan yesterday.

Moreover, there are some who pay maintenance and are yet not allowed to see their children. What kind of justice is this?”

Surinder Kaur (60) weeps as she recounts meeting her grandson at the Bandra family court.

“Goldie (10) didn’t look at me and refused my gifts. He called his father uncle” said Kaur, whose son separated from his wife in September.

The group submitted a memorandum to Mantralaya and the family court listing a series of points, including a demand to introduce a suo motu punishment in the IPC for the misuse of any law, irrespective of the gender.

1.2 lakh

The number of harassed husbands who have committed suicide in the last four years across India

Rs 4,500 Cr

The amount lost every year due  to arrests in dowry harassment cases

Did you know?

Men pay 82 per cent of India’s taxes

Section 489(a)

According to Section 498(a) of the Indian Penal Code, whoever, being the husband or the relative of the husband of a woman, subjects the woman to cruelty shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to three years and shall also be liable to fine.

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Donate blood before wife sucks it all

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 1, 2009

Would you rather donate blood OR let your wife suck it all out of your body?

Please join me in the blood camp organized by FATHERS in Lucknow on Children’s day.

A child’s letter to his father:

“Please don’t call me fatherless and my father as childless……

We both exist & living for each-other. We both are waiting for court uncle’s orders to get united……………… I NEED both parents.

Almost all children like me, who are caught in matrimonial disputes, are suffering as “shared parenting” is not practiced in our country.

Nobody including court uncle understands that a child needs both parents.”

Hundreds of Fathers and like minded people have decided to donate their blood for the welfare and long life of their children ……..

On Children day (November 14, 2009)

At Blood Bank, KGMC, Lucknow (UP)

From 10 AM to 2 PM

”One Father is better than 100 teachers…….”

Contact: Lucknow: 09450139307/9305323243, Rae-Bareli: 9455540355 and Delhi: 09999107314

Supported by: CRISP (Bangalore), Pati-Pariwar Kalyan Samiti (Lucknow), All India Forgotten Women (Hyderabad), GHRS (New Delhi), Save Family Foundation (New Delhi), Save Indian Family Foundation (Bangalore), AIMPF (Bangalore), India Family Foundation (Mumbai).

We children may be small, but our rights as a child are BIG and court  uncle will also understand one day……………

“Save our rights to save the nation”

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पत्नी पीड़ितों ने मनाया अहिंसा दिवस

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 11, 2009

नागपुर इस बार इंटरनैशनल डे ऑफ नॉन वॉयलंस यानी विश्व अहिंसा दिवस संतरानगरी नागपुर के पत्नी पीड़ितों ने अलग ढंग से मनाया है। यह पहला मौका है जब बीवियों के सताए पतियों ने 2 अक्टूबर को घरेलू हिंसा जागरुकता महीना मनाने की शुरुआत किया है। सेव इंडिया फैमिली फाउंडेशन नागपुर के प्रमुख राजेश बखारिया ने बताया कि इसके जरिए वे घरेलू हिंसा कानून के दुरुपयोग के खिलाफ अपनी आवाज बुलंद कर रहे हैं।

ज्ञात हो कि 2 अक्टूबर से केंद्रीय महिला और बाल विकास मंत्रालय महिलाओं के खिलाफ हिंसा के निवारण के लिए नैशनल कैंपेन शुरू किया है। वहीं पुरुषों की शिकायत है कि पत्नियों को घरेलू हिंसा से बचाने के लिए घरेलू हिंसा कानून समेत कुल 1भ् सिविल और क्रिमिनल कानून हैं, लेकिन पतियों, बच्चों और पति के परिवार को बचाने के लिए एक भी कानून नहीं है। पीड़ित पतियों ने अक्टूबर का महीना ही इसलिए चुना, क्योंकि 2006 में अक्टूबर के महीने में ही डोमेस्टिक वॉयलंस ऐक्ट पास हुआ था। श्री बखारिया ने बताया कि उनका संगठन इस अभियान के तहत देश भर में अपना विरोध जताएगा। एक महीने चलने वाले इस शांतिपूर्ण विरोध में नागपुर के अलावा बेंगलुरु, पुणे, हैदराबाद और दिल्ली में कई कार्यक्रम होंगे। उन्होंने बताया कि आम जनता के अलावा उन लोगों को जागरूक किया जाएगा जो शादी कर रहे हैं, लेकिन घरेलू हिंसा कानून के दुष्परिणामों के बारे में जानकारी नहीं है। उन्होंने बताया कि वे विवाह बंधन में बंधने वाले युवाओं को बताएंगे कि वे इस कानून के शिकार न बने सकें।

एसआईएफएफ के फाउंडर सदस्य गुरुदर्शन सिंह ने बताया कि मानवाधिकार के वैश्विक घोषणा के अनुसार कानून की नजर में किसी भी आरोपी को यह अधिकार है कि वह तब तक निर्दोष माना जाए, जब तक दोषी साबित नहीं हो जाता। लेकिन घरेलू हिंसा कानून में हमारा कानून यह मानता है कि जब तक आरोपी निर्दोष साबित नहीं होता, तब तक वह दोषी है। यह निष्पक्ष ट्रायल के यूनिवर्सल सिद्धांत के खिलाफ है। हर साल 4 हजार निर्दोष वरिष्ठ नागरिक और 350 बच्चों समेत करीब एक लाख निर्दोष लोग भारतीय दंड संहिता की धारा 498 ए के तहत बिना सबूत और जांच के गिरफ्तार होते हैं।

मानवाधिकार के वैश्विक घोषणा के मुताबिक कानून की नजर में सब बराबर हैं और बिना किसी भेदभाव के कानून में समान संरक्षण के अधिकारी हैं। साथ ही, संविधान के अनुच्छेद 14 के अनुसार भारत की सीमा के भीतर राष्ट्रय, किसी व्यक्ति को कानून में बराबर के अधिकार और कानून में बराबर संरक्षण के अधिकार से मना नहीं कर सकता। लेकिन घरेलू हिंसा कानून पुरुषों को किसी भी तरह का संरक्षण देने से साफ मना करता है। हर साल 56 हजार से ज्यादा शादीशुदा पुरुष मौखिक, भावनात्मक, आर्थिक और शारीरिक और कानूनी प्रताड़ना के शिकार हो रहे हैं। कानूनी प्रताड़ना के कारण कई लोग आत्महत्या भी करते हैं। पुरुषों के संरक्षण की कोई बात नहीं कर रहा है।

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