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Harassed by in-laws husband commit suicide

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on January 2, 2011

कानपुर। यूपी में एक शख्स अपनी बीवी-बच्चों की गुमशुदगी के लिए दर-दर भटकता रहा। पुलिस से कई बार गुहार लगाई लेकिन उसे हर बार उसे बेइज्जत किया गया। थक हार कर अंत में उसने नए साल पर मौत को गले लगा लिया। कानपुर का ये शख्स अपने बीवी-बच्चे के अगवा हो जाने के बाद 2 महीने तक थानों के चक्कर लगाता रहा लेकिन पुलिस ने उसकी फरियाद तक नहीं सुनी। जब दुनिया नए साल का जश्न मना रही थी तो उस शख्स ने मौत को गले लगा लिया। लेकिन मरने से पहले उसने फूट-फूटकर अपनी पूरी दास्तान कैमरे के सामने दी।


कानपुर में एक मेडिकल कंपनी में मैनेजर पुनीत ने नए साल से पहले अपनी बेटी और बीवी को खोजने का संकल्प लिया था लेकिन एक साल बाद जब उसे नाकामी हाथ लगी तो उसने अपनी जान दे दी। नए साल के पहले ही दिन पुनीत की हर उम्मीद ने उसके आंसुओं के साथ ही दम तोड़ दिया और 6 साल पुरानी उसकी प्रेम कहानी का बेहद दर्दनाक अंत हो गया।


जी हां, दरअसल 6 साल पहले पुनीत ने प्रेम विवाह किया था। शादी से उसकी पत्नी रश्मी के घरवाले बेहद खफा थे। उसे धमकियां भी दी गईं लेकिन कुछ समय बाद सब ठीक हो गया। लेकिन पुनीत को यह पता ही नहीं ता कि उस रंजिश का बदला उससे 6 साल बाद कुछ इस तरह निकाला जाएगा।


पुनीत के मुताबिक 5 अक्टूबर को उसकी पत्नी रश्मी और बेटी हर रोज की तरह स्कूल गए थे। इसके बाद वे कभी घर लौटकर नहीं आए। पुनीत का कहना है कि उन्हें उसके ससुराल वालों ने अगवा कर लिया क्योंकि घटना से कुछ दिन पहले ही उसे ससुराल के लोगों ने धमकी भरा फोन किया था। लिहाजा घबराया हुआ वो पुलिस के पास पहुंचा लेकिन वहां भी उसे बस निराशा ही हाथ लगी।


इसके बाद पुनीत के लिए हालात बद से बदतर होते चले गए। पुनीत के मुताबिक ससुराल से उसे खुलेआम धमकी दी जाने लगी। मरने से पहले कैमरे पर पुनीत यही दोहराता रहा कि उसे कहीं से मदद नहीं मिली। कानपुर पुलिस ने मदद करने की बजाय उसे जलील किया और जब वो थक गया तो थक हारकर इस पिता और पती ने खुदकुशी कर ली।

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Married men more prone to suicide: Study

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 27, 2010

Married men more prone to suicide: Study

February 27th, 2010

It’s not just women who go through trauma as a result of bad marriages. Men suffer just as much, but silently. Recent data made public by the National Crime Record Bureau (NCRB) points out that one married man in India is committing suicide every nine minutes. According to the survey, the cause may vary from personal problems and marital issues to economic pressures. It’s clear that many men are agonising internally over failed marriages.

Psychologist Sridevi S says it’s because men are not as expressive as women and bottle their feelings. “Women have been nurtured from the time they are young into believing that they can surmount problems. But on the other hand men are told not to cry and express emotions in public, so they suppress all their troubles until it overwhelms them and they feel they can’t take it any more.” She continues, “The sudden increase in suicidal tendencies among men is also because earlier women took care of all the family issues, but today, both husband and wife are working, they deal with it together. So men find it difficult to balance home as well as work.” The survey points out that compared to women, men are a greater suicide risk, with a male-female ratio of 64:36.

Suresh Ram, Convener, Save Indian Family movement, TN, says that this could be the result of pro-women Indian laws. “There are several laws in our country which protect women, while men have no such protection. Often women take advantage of it. There is this stereotype attached to men, that they should not cry or express their depression. Why is it,” he questions, “that when a man commits suicide he is called coward, while when a woman does so, they say she is driven to it-” he asks.

Actor Srikanth says,”Being a married man could be a little stressful today, but you must understand that there is a woman in your life who is also going through the same.”

http://www.deccanch tabloids/ married-men- more-prone- suicide-study- 634

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It’s a man’s world

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 23, 2010

Time and again, I have heard that it is a man’s world.

A man is murdered every 19 minutes as opposed to a woman every 66 minutes. The number of men committing suicide is twice the number of women committing suicide. At home, men are twice as likely to be driven to commit suicide as compared to women. Outside home, men are getting murdered three times as compared to women.

82% of the taxes collected by the Government are contributed by men and Rupees 11,400 Crore is spent annually on women’s welfare. Not even a single rupee has been spent on men’s welfare in the last 60 years the country has been independent. There is a ministry for women and a ministry for children. There are protection laws for almost everyone and everything – including women, soil, animals, fisheries, forest etc. The only entity inconspicuously missing from the large list is men.

Talking about protection, even the domestic violence laws of the nation are gender biased. Only a woman can seek relief from the court under the recently enacted domestic violence act.

On the complaint of women, even 2 month babies have been arrested by the police for causing extreme mental harassment to women.

In the court of law, men are presumed to be guilty unless proven innocent. And given the abysmally slow pace of legal proceedings, it takes decades before a man can prove his innocence.

Adultery is a crime for men while women can legally do it. What is more interesting is the fact that women can now claim alimony from their illicit partner as well. By the way, unlike countries like USA where alimony is only for long lasting marriages and for a specific period of time, in India women are entitled to life-long alimony payments even if the marriage lasted 1 day.

Indian courts, including the Supreme Court of India, routinely forgive women for contempt of court and perjury because of their gender.

Any un-natural death of a woman within 7 years of marriage sends her husband to jail automatically. The most common cause of an un-natural death is suicide; and we already discussed that men are twice as likely to commit suicide as compared to women.

1.12 males are born to every female. The ratio declines to 1.10 by the age of 15; to 1.06 in the age group 15 – 64; and 0.90 for the age group 65 and above. This seems to imply that girls are either genetically superior to boys OR they are protected and men are made to do all the hazardous tasks.

As a matter of fact, worldwide women live on an average 5 – 7 years longer as compared to men. Still, the importance given to women’s health is many times more as compared to men’s health.

Talking about women’s issue is in vogue but people ridicule when a person talks about men’s issues. Hence there are hardly any opinion articles written about men. I personally spoke to an editor of a well known Indian national newspaper and he said “I agree with you in principle but I will not be able to publish any of your views. They are anti-women and the women will sit outside my home on a hunger strike”.

So, people are scared of women, and perhaps because of valid reasons. Last year, women activists forced their way into a High Court and broke the wooden chair on which the judge used to sit because he delivered a judgment in the favor of a husband in a matrimonial dispute.

Talking about the courts, a few months back a Supreme Court judge, while deciding on a matrimonial dispute, clearly told the man “Do as your wife tells you. If she says look this side then you look this side. If she says look that side then look that side. We all have suffered”.

The president of India is a woman and the most powerful politician in the country is also a woman. And still they say it is a man’s world!

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One married man commits suicide every 9 min

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 22, 2010

Family problems, illness, love affairs, bankruptcy identified as top causes.

We need a Men’s welfare Ministry since theres no avenue to safe guard a Man’s rights presently, the society is conditioned to ignore and ridicule Men’s issues. Men’s issues are listed below for reader’s reference.

Men and boys are always expected to be and conditioned to become protectors and providers, and also routinely portrayed as

* Oppressors, aggressors, wife-beaters, dowry-seekers, bride-burners, sexual perverts, pimps, cheats, criminals, murderers, rapists, drug-peddlers, terrorists, etc. who ought to be restrained through inhuman, draconian laws;

* Idiots, pathetic, uncouth and inferior creatures who are constantly in need of rescue by their “superior” wives, girlfriends or female relatives who are set to overhaul them;

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Self-immolation bid ‘to teach in-laws a lesson’ backfires

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on December 7, 2009

Cops book woman for attempting suicide after they find no harassment
A woman who set herself ablaze after a quarrel with her in-laws has been booked for attempting suicide, as the police believe she did it only to get her way by dangling the sword of the domestic violence law over her husband’s parents.

Mary Sunitha (35), who was admitted to the Victoria hospital burns ward, told the police that she had set herself on fire because she was unable to bear the harassment she was subjected to by her in-laws.

At first the police thought it was another case of dowry harassment, but investigations by Assistant Sub Inspector Shanth Rajaiah made them change their opinion. Now Sunitha can be sentenced to a year’s imprisonment by the court for attempting suicide.

Denied expenses

The police said Sunitha used to spend most of her time outside the home, which had irked her in-laws. They said though Sunitha and her husband, Stephen Raj, worked with a private firm and earned well, she would give her in-laws not more than Rs 300 per month for their expenses.

The police said one day Sunitha’s father-in-law had had enough and decided to talk to her. He objected to her attitude towards the home and scolded her for spending her time outside.

Playing with fire

The police said Sunitha decided to “teach her in-laws a lesson” by attempting suicide as that meant they could be booked for domestic violence. The relevant law holds the in-laws responsible for pushing their son’s wife towards suicide in case they have subjected her to mental or physical harassment.

Sunitha doused herself with kerosene and set herself ablaze. Stephen Raj, with the help of neighbours, rushed her to a private hospital and later shifted her to Victoria, where she is said to be out of danger.

Assistant Sub Inspector Rajaiah of the Gangammana Gudi police station investigated the case, in the course of which he also recorded Sunitha’s statement, and concluded that taking the extreme step was unwarranted in the circumstances. The officer found Sunitha’s actions directed only towards putting members of the family in trouble.

After consulting his seniors, Rajaiah booked her for attempted suicide.

False cases on rise

A senior judicial officer, who did not want to be named, said of late a majority of dowry harassment and domestic violence cases were turning out to be abuse of the law by women who were using it as a tool to blackmail husbands or in-laws. “A rough estimate is that over 80 per cent of such cases are fake and result in acquittal of those accused of domestic violence,” said the judicial officer.

In the law book Attempt to suicide is treated in Sec 309 of IPC
Whoever attempts to commit suicide and does any act towards the commission of such offence, shall be punished with simple imprisonment for term which may extend to one year (or with fine, or with both).

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पत्नियों से ज्यादा पीड़ित पति

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 21, 2009

Commando Rajesh Vakaria from Nagpur is in news again.

Earlier it was the following video:

This time it is the following article:

अभी तक ज्यादातर महिलाओं पर अत्याचार के मामले सामने आते रहे हैं। इसे रोकने के लिए सशक्त कानून भी बनाए गए हैं। समय बदल रहा है। महिला सशक्तिकरण के जमाने में अब पति पत्नी से पीडि़त हैं। चाहे वे पत्नी के लगाए गए दहेज प्रताडऩा और घरेलू हिंसा के झूठे आरोप हों या फिर घर में आपसी कलह। पत्नी पीिड़ता कहां जाए? न कोई हमदर्दी न कोई सरकारी मदद। नतीजा? पीड़ित पतियों के आत्महत्या का अनुपात पीड़ित पत्नियों से दोगुना है.

इस तथ्य पर बाद में आते हैं लेकिन पहले आपको यह बताते हैं कि 19 नंवबर को तंग पति अंतरराष्ट्रीय पति दिवस के रूप में मनाते हैं। पार्टी करके। बैठक करके। फिल्म देखकर। कुछ पीड़ितों का समूहिक पिकनिक मनाकर एक दिन खुशियों को जी रहे हैं। अपने लिए शायद वैसा दिन पत्नी के साथ फिर कभी नहीं जी पाएंगे। हकीकत बदल रही है। यकीन मानिये जितनी हिंसा महिलाओं के साथ हो रही है, वैसी ही हिंसा पुरुषों के साथ हो रही है। दो वर्ग बन गए हैं। एक ओर जहां पति पत्नी को पीटता है, वहीं दूसरे वर्ग में पत्नी से पति पीडित होकर दिल में टीस लिए जिंदगी से हर आस छोड़ रहा है।

पहली बार त्रिनिदाद और टोबैगो में 1999 में 19 नवंबर को अंतरराष्ट्रीय पुरुष दिवस के रूप में मनाया गया। भारत में इसी शुरुआत 2007 से हुई। पत्नी से प्रताडि़त होने के मामले में देश का कोई शहर अछूता नहीं है। बस अंतर इतना है कि महिलाओं से जुड़ी हिंसा को मीडिया ज्यादा कवरेज देता है। पीड़ित पति शर्म संकोच से कहीं नही जाते हैं। करीब डेढ़ दशक पूर्व दिल्ली के विभिन्न इलाकों में कई जगह लिखा हुआ मिलता था – पत्नी सताएं तो हमे बताएं, मिले नहीं लिखें। अब वो तख्ती तो नहीं दिखती है, लेकिन पीड़ित बढ़ गए हैं.

आए दिन शादीशुदा पुरुषों की आत्महत्या के मामले प्रकाश में आते हैं। पर इसके पीछे की सच्चाई से बहुत कम ही लोग ही रू-ब-रू हो पाते हैं। कई बार इन कानूनों का दुरुपयोग कर पत्नी पति को प्रताड़ित करती है। इससे तंग आकर अनेक लोगों ने आत्महत्या की राह चुनी है।

वर्षों गुजर गए। पत्नी पीड़ितों के समूह ने संगठित होकर सरकार से लगातार संघर्ष कर देहज उत्पीडन के कानून 498-ए में बदलाव कर इस जमानती बनाने की मांग कर रहा है। बदलाव के लिए सरकार विचार कर रही है। संगठन अलग पुरुष कल्याण मंत्रालय की मांग कर रहे हैं। पुरुषों के पक्ष में दस्ताबेज जुगाड़ कर सरकार के पास ज्ञापन भेजकर लगातार दवाब बना रहे हैं। कई शहरों में पत्नी पीडि़तों का समूह कही चुपचाप तो कहीं खुलेआम बैठक करते हैं। एक-दूसरे की समस्या सुनते हैं और सहयोग करते हैं। जब नया पीड़ित आता है तो उनकी काउंसलिंग होती है जिससे कि वह आत्महत्या न कर सके।

पत्नी पीड़ित राजेश बखारिया दहेज उत्पीडऩ कानून के चक्कर में वर्षों से कोर्ट के चक्कर काटते-काटते इस अपने जैसे दूसरे पीड़ितों का दु:ख दर्द बांटते हैं। सहयोग करते हैं। कहते हैं कि अब तो नई नवेली दुलहन भी छोटी-छोटी बात पर दहेज विरोधी काननू का हवाला देकर घर-परिवार में वर्चस्व जमाने की कोशिश करती हैं। खेद की बात है कि जैसे ही पत्नी आरोप लगाती है और बात थाने तक पहुंचती है और मामला दर्ज होता है तो पति को जेल जाना पड़ता है। वह घोर अवसाद का शिकार हो जाता है। पत्नी की हरकतों से बेटे-भाई की जिंदगी में पडऩे वाली खलल से कई मां-बहनों का दिल टूटा है। युवा पति कोर्ट-कचहरी के चक्कर काटते-काटते अधेड़ हो रहे हैं। लिहाजा, इस चक्कर में पड़े अधिकतर लोग आत्महत्या को अंतिम विकल्प मान लेते हैं। क्योंकि जैसे ही पत्नी के अरोप पुलिस दर्ज करती है, नौकरी चाहे सरकारी हो या निजी चली जाती है।

श्रम और रोजगार मंत्रालय के वर्ष 2001-05 के जारी आंकड़ों के मुताबिक निजी और सार्वजनिक क्षेत्रों से करीब 14 लाख लोगों को अपनी नौकरी से हाथ धोना पड़ा। कई सर्वे व जांच में यह बात सामने आ चुकी है कि आईपीसी की धारा 498 ए का बड़े पैमाने पर दुरुपयोग हो रहा है। इसके तहत कई पतियों पर दहेज के लिए पत्नी को प्रताड़ित करने के झूठे अरोप लगे हैं। दो साल पूर्व लागू घरेलू हिंसा उन्नमूलन कानून 2005 से तो महिलाओं को और ताकत दे दी है। उच्चतम न्यायालय ने वर्ष 2006 में एक सिविल याचिका 583 में यह टिप्पणी की थी कि इस कानून को तैयार करते समय कई खामियां रह गई हैं। उन खामियों का फायदा उठा कर कई पत्नियां पति को धमका रही हैं। उन्होंने बताया कि आंकड़े देखें तो औसतन जहां हर 19 मिनट में देश में किसी व्यक्ति की हत्या होती है, वहीं हर 10 मिनट में एक विवाहित व्यक्ति आत्महत्या करता है। वर्ष 2005-07 के आंकड़ों के मुताबिक दहेज उत्पीडऩ मामले में कानून की धारा 498-ए, के तहत 1,39,058 मामले दर्ज हुए।

पत्नी पीड़ितों की एक संस्था सेव इंडिया फैमिली फउंडेशन पत्नी पीड़ितों को काउंसलिंग से मामले सुलझाने की कोशिश करता है। फाउंडेशन सरकार पर लगातार स्वतंत्र रूप से पुरुष कल्याण मंत्रालय बनाने की मांग कर रहा है। श्री बखारिया का कहना है कि यदि पत्नी किसी भी कारण से आत्महत्या करती है तो पुलिस तुरंत केस दर्ज कर आरोपियों को हवालात में ले लेती है। घर घरेलू कलह से तंग आकर पति आत्महत्या करता है तो पत्नी से पूछताछ तक नहीं होती है। पत्नी के प्रताड़ित करने के अधिकतर मामले साल 2000 से तेजी से बढ़े हैं। इसका प्रमुख जिम्मेदार टीवी पर प्रसारित होने वाले कुछ धारावाहिक हैं जिनकी अनाप-शनाप कहानी में नकारात्मक छवि वाली महिला पात्रों ने समाज में गलत असर छोड़ा है। लड़कों वालों में वधु पक्ष के परिवार के अनावश्यक हस्तक्षेप बढ़ा है जिससे महिलाओं में अहम आ जाता है।

देश में आत्महत्या के मामले वर्ष 2005-07
विवाहित पुरुष    विवाहित महिलाएं
1,65,528      88,128

आत्महत्या का अनुपात प्रतिशत
विवाहित पुरुष    विवाहित महिलाएं
65.25           34.75

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Police inspector commits suicide bec of wife torture

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 21, 2009

PSI shoots himself dead with service revolver

NOTICE THE BIAS: It is known that the suicide happened because of the torture from wife, and the police is still probing the matter further. If it was a wife who died for any reason, her husband would have been arrested automatically!
AMRAVATI: A police sub inspector, presently posted at Akola Control Room, shot himself with his service revolver in the wee hours of Thursday at Amravati.
According to information from the police department, the deceased PSI has been identified as Amol Datir (42), a resident of Jagriti Colony in Amravati. He had been posted to Akola Control Room some time back. PSI Datir was an intelligent officer, his fellow officers have said. He had completed his MSc and then passed the MPSC exam in the first attempt in 1995.
On Wednesday night, at around 1.50am, Datir shot himself with his service revolver and died on the spot. Sources said that he had a dispute with his wife, who had lodged a complaint against him in 2006 at Akola police station. After this complaint, offences had been registered against PSI Datir under 498 section of IPC. It is also learnt that his wife had filed a case against him and demanded alimony from him. The hearing in this case was scheduled on Thursday.
Datir had been under tremendous tension after his wife lodged the complaint against him, as she had also levelled allegations against Datir’s family members also. Sources also said that Datir had been suffering from peptic ulcer since many days and had been on leave for the last three months. It is conjectured that Datir took the extreme step due to tremendous pressure on him.
Gadge Nagar police have registered offences under relevant sections of IPC and are probing the matter further.

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Treated cruelly by wife, techie ends life

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 5, 2009

One more ends his life like 56,000 do every year.

Yes you read it correctly – more than 56,000 married men end their lives every year.

Allegedly hounded by a greedy and cruel wife, who was fully supported by her parents, a 32-year-old techie ended his life by consuming a full bottle of anti-depressant tablets here on Monday.

Shubhankar Katyayan was married to Nandini, 27, also a software engineer, for the past two years. Their marriage was registered and solemnised here. Although the two hailed from Jamshedpur in Jharkhand, they had been working in Bangalore after their arranged marriage.

The couple had taken up a rented house at Rajajinagar. They worked for different multinational software companies. Before Shubhankar left for the United Kingdom on a company assignment early this year, he was happy to learn that Nandini was pregnant.

Soon thereafter, Nandini also left for an overseas assignment.

She returned to India a couple of months later and left for Jamshedpur to live with her parents. Shubhankar and Nandini were in touch over e-mail. But, differences cropped up when he failed to return to be at her side during delivery.

But, Shubhankar managed to take leave and returned to Jamshedpur to see his newly born son, Purunjay. Recounting the events prior to Shubhankar’s death, a close relative told Deccan Herald: “Soon after returning to Jamshedpur, Nandini and her parents began ill-treating him.” Shubhankar allegedly fell at their feet, begging to let him see his child.

Though later he was allowed to see their son, his in-laws convinced him to return to Bangalore on the assurance that Nandini would follow soon. He found to his consternation that his in-laws had taken a separate house for Nandini on rent on Gangadhar Chettiar Road under Commercial Street police station limits.

Since their marriage was floundering, the couple decided to settle for a mutually agreed upon divorce.

Shubhankar’s lawyer Anand said the divorce petition (MC1732/09) was filed on June 24, 2009. In the judicial separation petition posted for hearing on January 1, 2010, Nandini had claimed Purunjay’s custody and return of all gifts she received at her wedding.

On July 14, Nandini’s mother Anmana Jha lodged a complaint with the Commercial Street police, alleging that Shubhankar, demanding dowry, had assaulted and attempted to kill her daughter. A number of criminal cases were also lodged against him. He was arrested and produced at the magistrate’s court on July 19. The magistrate directed the police to investigate the matter, and he was sent to Parappana Aghrahara Central jail. Anand said Shubhankar was virtually a broken man in jail and had undergone treatment. Last Saturday, he consumed a bottle of anti-depressant tablets. The authorities rushed him to Victoria Hospital in a critical condition where he died. The authorities refused to hand over the body till Nandini gave her consent. Finding her house locked, the police allowed the release of the body.

A day after the body was taken to Jamshedpur for cremation, Shubhankar was granted bail. His parents, Sunkantha and Narmada Devi and his younger brother, Diwakar, were granted anticipatory bail. When this correspondent met Nandini at her residence on Tuesday night, she said she would not comment on the issue without consulting her advocate.

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