Dedicated to my wife…

Read on to know what happens to men who marry in India


Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 16, 2008

My legal blog can be found at

***All my blogs are to help people fight against injustice. Most of the arsenal that I have is from a man’s side but I offer advice to genuine woman too***

This blog is dedicated to more than 56,000 married men who commit suicide annually in India.

The intention of this blog is twofold – to share with you experiences of my marriage, and to create awareness that there are ample number of cases where women are cunning and the men suffer.

In India, we always respect women. We respect women to such an extent that we believe that they can never be wrong (Abla Nari). With changing times, the society needs to start treating women as equals (today women have a lot of privileges).

I have myself been implicated in several dowry related criminal cases. Shruti has been staying separately since Feb 2006 but we are still very much legally married.

She even tried to claim maintenance by falsely claiming to be unemployed when she was employed with one of the largest Indian software companies.

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Girls beating a guy in D Y Patil college canteen

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on August 23, 2014

D Y Patil college canteen is just like any other public place in India – girls can get together and start to beat a guy….

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Love, Marriage & Sex in the city-498A

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 2, 2011


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The Story of Feminism… As Told By WOMEN

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on February 2, 2011



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Man gets divorce after fighting for 30 years

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on January 18, 2011

OCTOGENARIAN J. M. Kohli correctly anticipates the most obvious question related to his unique case – why divorce at 80?

“We never thought of ourselves as each other’s spouse We have been fighting from the beginning – she for money, I for separation,” he said. From his marriage on June 20, 1953, till the Delhi High Court’s final nod to his divorce from Kanta on January 13 this year, Kohli remembers having fought seven different court cases, three of which are still on in various courts, in the feud.

Kohli first filed for divorce in 1982, and a trial court granted it, but Kanta filed a petition against the ruling in the high court, claiming she had not been heard. Kohli regrets that the best years of his life – the nearly 30 years since he filed for divorce – were spent in rushing from one court to another, hearing to hearing.

And a lot has happened in between – an alleged attempt on his life, a brain haemorrhage, being abandoned by his family, untimely transfers to remote areas, unsubstantiated charges of corruption, obstacles to promotion and pension, lost parenthood and a missing marital life. What does a couple willing to part ways and start life afresh do when asked by the court to wait till it delivers its judgment?

A trial court takes four to five years to decide such matters, the high court, on the other hand, takes 10- 15 years, by when all plans to begin marital life anew fails. It is during this stressful time when a person feels the need for love and companionship of this necessity then,” Kohli’s counsel Geeta Luthra said.

Kanta’s counsel Rajat Navet also agreed that the case shouldn’t have dragged on for so long. ” We were just fighting the case to absolve my client of charges of cruelty to her husband. There was no other motive,” he said. Kanta chose not to comment. Kohli said the years he spent in abandonment – when his first wife allegedly threw him out of the house he had built – were the most stressful.

His frail frame quivering with anger, Kohli alleges that his wife took his money and the jewellery he had inherited and later accused him of demanding a dowry which she couldn’t prove, besides the charge of his alleged corruption.

“Kanta’s brother was a senior bureaucrat and made my life miserable. He kept me moving to remote areas like the Andaman and Nicobar Islands,” Kohli said. But Kohli’s connection with courts, it seems, is here to stay. ” I have to go to a court in Saket on the 20th, the next day I’ll be at the Delhi High Court for another case and on February 18, I have to be at the Tis Hazari courts,” he said.

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Harassed by in-laws husband commit suicide

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on January 2, 2011

कानपुर। यूपी में एक शख्स अपनी बीवी-बच्चों की गुमशुदगी के लिए दर-दर भटकता रहा। पुलिस से कई बार गुहार लगाई लेकिन उसे हर बार उसे बेइज्जत किया गया। थक हार कर अंत में उसने नए साल पर मौत को गले लगा लिया। कानपुर का ये शख्स अपने बीवी-बच्चे के अगवा हो जाने के बाद 2 महीने तक थानों के चक्कर लगाता रहा लेकिन पुलिस ने उसकी फरियाद तक नहीं सुनी। जब दुनिया नए साल का जश्न मना रही थी तो उस शख्स ने मौत को गले लगा लिया। लेकिन मरने से पहले उसने फूट-फूटकर अपनी पूरी दास्तान कैमरे के सामने दी।


कानपुर में एक मेडिकल कंपनी में मैनेजर पुनीत ने नए साल से पहले अपनी बेटी और बीवी को खोजने का संकल्प लिया था लेकिन एक साल बाद जब उसे नाकामी हाथ लगी तो उसने अपनी जान दे दी। नए साल के पहले ही दिन पुनीत की हर उम्मीद ने उसके आंसुओं के साथ ही दम तोड़ दिया और 6 साल पुरानी उसकी प्रेम कहानी का बेहद दर्दनाक अंत हो गया।


जी हां, दरअसल 6 साल पहले पुनीत ने प्रेम विवाह किया था। शादी से उसकी पत्नी रश्मी के घरवाले बेहद खफा थे। उसे धमकियां भी दी गईं लेकिन कुछ समय बाद सब ठीक हो गया। लेकिन पुनीत को यह पता ही नहीं ता कि उस रंजिश का बदला उससे 6 साल बाद कुछ इस तरह निकाला जाएगा।


पुनीत के मुताबिक 5 अक्टूबर को उसकी पत्नी रश्मी और बेटी हर रोज की तरह स्कूल गए थे। इसके बाद वे कभी घर लौटकर नहीं आए। पुनीत का कहना है कि उन्हें उसके ससुराल वालों ने अगवा कर लिया क्योंकि घटना से कुछ दिन पहले ही उसे ससुराल के लोगों ने धमकी भरा फोन किया था। लिहाजा घबराया हुआ वो पुलिस के पास पहुंचा लेकिन वहां भी उसे बस निराशा ही हाथ लगी।


इसके बाद पुनीत के लिए हालात बद से बदतर होते चले गए। पुनीत के मुताबिक ससुराल से उसे खुलेआम धमकी दी जाने लगी। मरने से पहले कैमरे पर पुनीत यही दोहराता रहा कि उसे कहीं से मदद नहीं मिली। कानपुर पुलिस ने मदद करने की बजाय उसे जलील किया और जब वो थक गया तो थक हारकर इस पिता और पती ने खुदकुशी कर ली।

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Father in law dies in prison

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on December 17, 2010

One more innocent (probably) person dies because of torture by the system and his daughter-in-law.

Tirunelveli, Tamil Nadu, Dec 17 : A 60-year-old prisoner, who was arrested on the charges of dowry harassment, died at Palayamkottai Central Prison, here today.

Police said Ravindran Barnard (64), hailing from Madurai, was arrested by Tuticorin Police on December 5 last on a dowry harassment complaint from his daughter-in-law Dr Agnus Latha (34), a medical practitioner.
He was lodged in Central Prison at Palayamkottai here.

Since then the health condition of Barnard had been deteriorating. He was admitted to the hospital inside the prison complex. He suffered a cardiac arrest and died this morning.

An investigation was underway, police added.

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Man fighting for harassed husbands fined 1L

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 27, 2010


As usual, no one listens to men in court. A social activist has been fined Rupees 1 Lac because he suggested that men be protected against the misuse. When will the sex starved Indian judiciary start to think beyond women?

Your honour – We men are also human beings. Just because women are tortured in your family does not mean the same  is happening everywhere in the country. I will pray to God that you die soon!


AHMEDABAD: The Gujarat HC on Thursday slapped a penalty of Rs 1 lakh on Dashrath Devda, president of Akhil Bharatiya Patni Atyachar Virodhi Sangh for protesting against alleged misuse of domestic violence laws. A division bench fined him for filing frivolous PIL and for wasting court’s time.

Devda had approached the HC by way of filing a PIL demanding judicial interference in the alleged misuse of protection laws for women. He was demanding a protection in legislation for men, who are according to him henpecked by their wives.

Devda has been claiming that women have abused the laws, which are in favour of them, but certain protection for men is also required against the misuse of the legislation. He filed this PIL, which came up for hearing before a division bench. When Devda began arguments as party-in-person, the court asked him to withdraw his PIL because his demand was to amend the legislation. Refusing to pay any attention to what the court was hinting at, Devda continued to argue how women in this country are worshipped, and no law is required for their protection. However, the chief justice repeatedly asked him to withdraw the PIL.

Ultimately, the court imposed a fine of Rs 1 lakh on Devda and asked him to pay the money to the Self Employed Women’s Association — an NGO working for women empowerment. The court has directed Devda to pay the amount of penalty within two months.

Devda and members of his association often stage demonstrations and take out rallies in the city in protest against the domestic violence laws. They also help men in court proceedings, who face charges of domestic violence from their spouses. In this PIL also, Devda tried to assert their views that different pieces of legislation favouring women are misused, and ultimate sufferers are the family members. The association has been protesting against anti-dowry law of Section 498A of IPC, alimony related provisions in Section 125 of CrPC and the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act.

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Bechara Mard….

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 17, 2010

Agar aurat par haat hutaye to zalim!
Agar aurat se pit jaaye to Buzdil !!

Aurat ko kisi ke saath dhekhkar ladai kar to Jelous !
Chup rahe to Begarat !!

Ghar se bahar rahe to awara !
Ghar me rahe to nakara !!

Bachcho ko dante to jalim !!
na dante to laparwah !!!

Aurat to naukari se roke to shaki mizaz !
naa roke to biwi ki kamai khaane vala khudhgarz insaan !!

MA ki mane to maa ka chamma !
Na mane to biwi ka gulam !!!

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Domestic Violence applies on husbands also

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 14, 2010

This film is in support of husbands whose suffering goes ‘UNHEARD’.


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Actress admits her dowry harassment allegations were false

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on September 23, 2010

Kolkata, Sept 23 (IBNS): Tollywood actress Swastika Mukherjee has confessed in a media conference that the dowry harassment allegations she made against her estranged husband were false, apparently bringing a closure to an episode that has been playing out amidst full media glare for ten years.

“I was young, I did not have enough sense back then and I did what my family, friends and peers advised me to do,” is how Swastika on Wednesday chose to explain why she falsely accused her husband singer Promit Sen of “subjecting her to cruelty” and “criminal breach of trust”.

Swastika’s shocking but predictable confession comes a day after she apparently submitted an affidavit at a city court admitting that the charges she made against her husband and her in-laws under Indian Penal Code 498A and 406 were “unfounded, false, baseless and speculative”.

Swastika and Promit, the youngest son of renowned Rabindrasangeet exponent Sagar Sen, were married in June 1998, when the actress was just 18. “Things started to go wrong around two years later when like a bolt from the blue my brother, our family and even me, who all lived in different places, were charged by her for dowry related crimes,” said Pritam Sen, Promit’s elder brother, who also attended the press conference.

“We went through hell for the past ten years. So many arrest warrants, all the expenses and the defamation aside, my brother is never going to get back the last ten years. He’s totally mentally devastated,” he added.

Though divorce was reportedly filed by Swastika in 2001, the cases are still under legal red tape.

Pritam said recently Swastika had issued a press release which after being published in the media made it seem as if the two parties had reached a compromise and were heading for divorce which was definitely not the case.

Hence Wednesday’s press conference was called by the actress “to come clean”. “I am deeply sorry for all that Promit and his family has had to go through. I hope he can move on,” said Swastika. “As far as the custody of our daughter Anwesha is concerned, lets see what plays out. She’s a ten-year-old girl and she too has a say in this,” she said.

When asked what drove her to suddenly make such an effort, she replied that it was not out of any pressure but just a “realisation”.

Sources, however, say this might be just a coup to get the divorce the 30-year-old actress, who is known for her ‘who cares’ attitude and has not exactly had the smoothest relationships over past few years, has been after for quite some time.

Pritam, however, said he and his family were pleased at Swastika’s confession.

He said, “I think we should give her the benefit of the doubt. Let’s see what this leads to. But we’ll not accept anything but a genuine apology.”

The Sen family is apparently not mulling pressing charges on the actress since they are “not vindictive people”, said Pritam.

The confession, apart from sending gossip mills in overdrive, also sheds light on the Indian Penal Code which leaves the door for such a heavy-handed charge wide open for misuse.

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