I LOVE SHRUTI VERMA

My legal blog can be found at http://iitbiimb498a.wordpress.com/

This blog is dedicated to more than 56,000 married men who commit suicide annually in India.

The intention of this blog is twofold – to share with you experiences of my marriage, and to create awareness that there are ample number of cases where women are cunning and the men suffer.

In India, we always respect women. We respect women to such an extent that we believe that they can never be wrong (Abla Nari). With changing times, the society needs to start treating women as equals (today women have a lot of privileges).

I have myself been implicated in several dowry related criminal cases. Shruti has been staying separately since Feb 2006 but we are still very much legally married.

She even tried to claim maintenance by falsely claiming to be unemployed when she was employed with one of the largest Indian software companies.

498a v/s 302

Courtesy: Shekhar

1.302 you are the only accused 498A you along with parents, friends, neighbor, pets etc etc are in the accused list.

2.In 302 if you acquitted in false cases then you are a free man.In 498A if you acquitted in false cases you have to pay maintenance (courtesy CrPc 125 ,24 HMA,DV) Alimony etc etc.

3.In 302 you don´t have to worry for your Hose, Car, Flat bank balance etc etc. In 498 A you have to worry for all these (courtesy DV Act)

4.In 302 your council has a less chance to take you for a ride In 498A you are totally depend in your council and he can take you for ride.

5.In 302 if you arrested you will treated as a “someone” in jail and after that there is many other carrier option like politics, Mafia,Don etc etc In 498A you will treated as a 2nd class citizen in jail. No lucrative carrier option likes above.

6.After 302 bail/acquittal you can spend time with your children.In 498A you are not able to even see your children.List goes on and on.

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Big Bang v/s Staggered Approach

Every commando who fights back will reach this stage at some point in time. He will have so much ammunition that he will start to wonder whether to use all of that together (big bang) or use them at regular intervals of time (staggered approach).

Some of the points that he should consider are the following:

1. There is a significant time lag between when you initiate action from your side and when some activity actually happens.

E.g. You might file a complaint with a public authority (police, court, health department) today but it might easily be a few months before they initiate any official action on it.

2. Do not under-estimate your opponent. Big bang approach works well if you are able to break your opponent completely with the big bang, but if the opponent survives then the survivor is much more strong than what he was before.

If the opponent is strong (egoistic), then it is more appropriate to break him down gradually.

3. Keep in mind the future ‘pipeline’ of ammunition. E.g. Defamation and damages are ‘Contingent ammution’ today. They will become real once you have some public authority’s order in your favor. So, if your pipeline is strong, then you can afford to use all your present ammunition today, because next quarter and 2 quarters from today you are expecting new ammunition.

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Woman held for husband’s murder

CHENNAI: Police on Sunday made a breakthrough in the man missing case of Ashok Kumar of Bazaar Nagar in Avadi when they arrested his wife Sweety Rekha (19).

Suburban police sources said she drugged Ashok last November and strangled him to death with the help of her lover Asim (25) and accomplices Vinod (19) and Thalip Basha (21).

The men, who were also arrested on Sunday, transported his body and dumped it in a forest area in Chittoor district.

The motive behind the murder was to eliminate Ashok who was a hindrance to the relationship Asim and Rekha had, sources added.

All the four were later remanded to custody and sent to Puzhal prison.

http://www.hindu.com/2010/01/04/stories/2010010458380300.htm

Woman kidnaps baby to aid her second marriage

BANGALORE: All is fair in love and war, goes the adage. Gouramma, a 28-year-old married woman in another relationship, lived up to it literally: she
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The drama unfolded like this: Nandini Layout police received a complaint on December 28 from Narayanappa, a grocery shop owner and resident of Shankarapuram, that his 11-month-old son Kiran was missing and Gouramma, a family friend who had come to their house a day ago, couldn’t be traced.
Narayanappa earlier was a neighbour of Gouramma in Yeshwantpur. On December 27, his family invited her to their home. Gouramma and the boy went missing the next afternoon. Gouramma was married to Narayana Reddy, a coconut vendor in Bellandur, and the couple had a 11-year-old boy who was staying with his grandparents in Yeshwantpur.

During investigation, it came to light that all was not well between Gouramma and her husband and the couple stayed separately often. She had an affair with Shivamani, a law student from Tamil Nadu, who was studying in a Bangalore college for the last two-and-a-half years.

According to DCP North H S Revanna, Gouramma had even gone to his hometown, Ambattur in Chennai, to meet his parents one-and-a-half years ago. She told them that she was pregnant and wanted to get married to Shivamani. Gouramma avoided meeting Shivamani for the last year but continued to insist she was pregnant. Shivamani had gone back to his hometown by then.
On December 28, after taking 11-month-old Kiran with her, she went to Ambattur to meet Shivamani’s parents, claiming it was his child and demanded that he marry her. The family, after much coaxing, fixed their marriage date for January 5.

Meanwhile, Nandini Layout police who had tracked her, went to Ambattur and arrested her and rescued Kiran. A kidnap case has been registered against Gouramma.

Girl repents filing Dowry case

Pregnant women cant get death sentence

In continuation of it’s biased pro-women attitude, the judiciary has come up with something new now -

“If a pregnant woman is given the death sentence, the High Court would automatically commute it to life.”

The Govt of India should also include specific clauses as to the following:

1. Pregnancy would mean pregnancy at the time of ‘execution’ – so a women need not be pregnant at the time she committed the crime. But she can get pregnant once she is fearing getting caught.

Oh, actually – something even better – Why only pregnant women? Does the responsibility of a mother end once the baby is delivered? Not really.

Although in reality, fathers take all the responsibility after the kid is born, but theoretically mothers should share equal responsibilities.

So, actually all mothers (whether pregnant of kids already delivered) should not be given any punishment.

Yes, that sounds reasonable now, but WAIT – how is that different from what is happening today? Today also, women are not punished in India.

Present situation: All mothers are women. Women are not punished in India. So mothers are not punished in India.

So this proposed change is not a change, it is already being practiced.

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http://www.indianexpress.com/news/in-new-year-gift-for-india-victims-get-a-voice-the-right-to-appeal-judgments/561778/2

LKG kids torture and assault a woman to death

This happens only in India.

What IPC? Cops set to

arrest kids for killing

‘bhabhi’

SASARAM: Can Class I and LKG kids torture and assault a woman to death? Or, to be more liberal, can children of this age collude with their grown-up kin to execute a killing in their household? Indian Penal Code (IPC)’s Section 82 says: “Nothing is an offence which is done by a child under seven years of age.” But either Kaimur police have not read the rule book or they care a damn about it.

In yet another instance of sham police investigations making ridiculous conclusions in criminal cases, Chaniya Khatun, 6, and her sister Soni Khatun, 5, along with six other family members have been held guilty by police of having killed an 18-year-old woman.

With Kaimur superintendent of police P K Srivastava agreeing to the Bhabhua DSP Sanjay Kumar’s supervision note and ordering the arrest of the accused, the eight, including the two girls, are likely to be arrested “any moment now”. “I have already procured a warrant of arrest against the eight accused,” said R K Singh, station house officer of Sonhan police station.

It was the Sonhan PS which lodged an FIR in the case on September 2 this year after the court of Bhabhua chief judicial magistrate (CJM) forwarded a complaint case to it for investigation. In his complaint, filed in the CJM’s court on August 18, one Shah Mohammad of Khair village alleged that his 18-year-old daughter Akhtari Begum, who was married to one Md Tajuddin of Pawandi village in Rohtas district, was killed by her husband and in-laws on July 26 for dowry. As it happens in such cases, all the in-laws were named as accused.

On September 24, Bhabhua DSP Kumar along with the investigating officer visited Pawandi and supervised the case. He also interrogated the minor sisters and arrested the girl’s father-in-law. His supervision note concluded that the accusation appeared to be true as those named accused had tortured and assaulted Akhtari to death for dowry. Akhtari was the wife of the brother of Chaniya and Soni, who study in a primary school.

Srivastava just okayed the DSP’s findings and ordered the arrest of the accused. In case they elude police, their property will be attached, he further ordered.

Ironically, Srivastava on Monday evening told TOI: “Aisi galtiya hote rahti hai (Such mistakes keep happening)” if the children are named accused and witnesses also corroborate the accusation. When told about IPC and asked about police wisdom, he said: “We will do something about it now.”

A senior lawyer and member of the Bihar Bar Council described the police action as illegal. “Nor only does it border on incredulity, but it also reveals an insensitive face of the state police,” said Akhauri Mangala Charan Srivastav.

No this is not a one-off case of its kind. Earlier this month, this newspaper reported how an SP found the accusation true against all the members of a family in a case of kidnapping that never took place. So, all of them, including an octogenarian, were jailed for months.

In another case, an alleged murderer fooled police into arresting two innocent persons for the crime he had committed.

Taking cognizance of the two cases of “violation of rights of innocent persons by police” the State Human Rights Commission has sought a reply from director-general of police Anand Shankar.

By the way, this still does not beat the previous record of police for arresting a 57 DAYS old baby for dowry torture. See the video at http://wp.me/plC3a-3E

Marriage versus prostitution

This idea came to my mind, because a reader of my blog commented that “Men marry attractive body and women marry bank balances”. (It is comment number 5 at http://wp.me/plC3a-a9)

I went and searched for the definition of prostitution: The act or practice of engaging in promiscuous sexual relations especially for money.

I searched for prostitution first, not because prostitutes interest me more than wives (if there is any difference between the two), but because I knew finding the definition of prostitution is going to be relatively easy task.

A general definition of marriage is that it is a legal and social contract between two individuals that gives legitimacy to sexual relations.

So, both serve one main purpose, the purpose of physical pleasure. Now, let us evaluate the 2 ‘professions’ on the following 3 parameters – variety, switching costs, and quality.

Parameter	Marriage	Prostitution
Variety	Very low Adultery is a crime for men under IPC 497, while women can do it legally. IPC 497 applies only to men.	As desired You can go to different service providers as per your desires. You are not bound by any ‘contract’ called marriage.
Switching Costs (Switching from one woman to the other)	Very high In order to switch wives, you would need to divorce the first one, and divorce is an expensive affair.	Minimal There is no cost involved in switching commercial sex workers
Customer Service Quality	Low The service provider doesn’t care whether the consumer is satisfied or not, he will still have to pay for her whether he continues to use the service or not.	High Repeat business is a customer’s choice.

Hence, marriage is equivalent to prostitution in the following manner:

1. You might get sex in marriage

I am using the word ‘might’ because you can not have sex against your               spouse’s wishes. So if you are lucky, then you will get sex.

2. You are obliged to maintain the woman financially

But marriage is different from prostitution in the following:

1. You have to pay for her irrespective of whether you get anything from her in return or not.

2. If you sleep with someone else, that is illegal.

To summarize:

Men do not even get from their wives what they get from prostitutes. Even if the wives were as good, then also marriage can at best be described as long-term prostitution unless the women of this nation start to take equal responsibilities of running the household.

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Wife’s mentally disturbed condition not enough to prove husband’s cruelty

Mumbai: A soured marriage and the resultant disturbed mental condition of a woman who committed suicide were not sufficient reasons to infer that the husband subjected her to cruelty, the Bombay high court ruled earlier this month.

Setting aside the two-year imprisonment sentence handed out to Kamalkishore Agrawal, 48, by a sessions court, the Nagpur bench of the high court held that, “though it appears that the victim and the applicant had marital discord running over a long period of time which, even according to the applicant, led to mental degradation of the victim, that in itself cannot justify the conclusion that the victim was subjected to such mental or physical cruelty by the applicant, that it drove her to death.”

Agrawal, a businessman, and Seema were married on February 24, 1992. After their marriage, “as caste and custom so permitted,” Agrawal’s adoptive parents also resided with the couple in their home in Akola. The couple had a daughter in 1993. However, since there were differences between the couple and Agrawal’s adoptive parents, they moved out of the house and started living separately from 1997.

On March 12, 1998, Seema set herself on fire and succumbed to burn injuries. A police complaint was lodged by her brother, Kailash, who had stated in his statement that Seema had written letters to him, which said that she was being subjected to cruelty in her marital home and it was not possible for her to live there any longer.

Agrawal’s counsel, however, told the court that there was no “causal connection” between the letters and Seema’s suicide as the last letter written by her was in 1996, while the incident took place in 1998. Moreover, he added, some of the letters were not addressed to Kailash and it was questionable how he was in possession of them.

The additional public prosecutor, however, said that the letters were in Seema’s handwriting and how they came into Kailash’s possession was irrelevant. She further stated that Agrawal in his defense had said that Seema had become so weak mentally that she either sent the letters to the wrong addresses or handed them over to the wrong people. “This written statement of defense categorically shows that the accused admits that the victim was mentally sick. If that was so, as a husband, it was necessary for the applicant to find out as to why his wife slipped into that stage,” the prosecution argued.

Agrawal had contended that Seema suspected she was being subjected to black magic and refused to take any medicines from him. He told the court that he was torn between his wife and his adoptive parents.

The sessions court acquitted Agrawal and his adoptive parents from the charge of culpable homicide not amounting to murder but convicted Agrawal under Section 498A (cruelty) of the IPC.

Justice RC Chavan, however, said, “suspicion, howsoever strong, cannot replace proof.” He said with the evidence on record it was not possible to conclusively say that the husband had treated his wife with cruelty, which led her to commit suicide and quashed the conviction and sentence handed out to Agrawal.

http://www.dnaindia.com/mumbai/report_wife-s-mentally-disturbed-condition-not-enough-to-prove-husband-s-cruelty-says-high-court_1327888

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Allow Daughters to take responsibility legally

Seeing the news article, Moms held for bid to swap babies, I noticed one interesting thing, “One of the women, who has two daughters, wanted a male child while the other, who has a son, wanted a girl”.

One might argue that it is such attitude that leads to “Female Feticide”, however, “Reality is seldom the same as perception”, like the perception that women are the oppressed lot and the reality that men commit more suicides.

Similarly, in the area of female feticide, it is a perception that it happens because a daughter is a burden and people tend to have sons, however, that is not the reality.

If we note carefully Section 125 of the Code of Criminal Procedure (CrPC) allows parents to seek maintenance from sons only and not from daughters. Thus, no parent can legally enforce a daughter to take care of them in old age, even if the daughter wants to and the couple has no son.

It is but obvious that anyone would vouch for a son, after all, who would want a child who cannot be enforced legally to take responsibility when expected. It is not that people have some extra love for sons; it is just that the society wants a DISPOSABLE MALE to discharge all the duties and responsibilities.

If daughters are allowed to take responsibility legally, not only will the problem of female feticide be addressed effectively, men will also get “Freedom of Choices”, currently lacking in their gender role in the society.

Women’s activist, instead of suggesting effective solutions for addressing the problem of the skewed gender ratio, indulged in rhetoric and large-scale male bashing. They used the issue of skewed gender ratio as a journey to achieve the destination of biased, gender obsessed, and unconstitutional anti-male laws to castrate men and in turn led to a society where all laws are protecting women while men are committing suicides in skyrocketing numbers burdened in a society that does not accept them and only expects from them and at the same time no improvement in the skewed gender ratio as well.

It clearly tells us that women’s activists have miserable failed in their projected objective and the only way to solve the crisis is to allow women to take responsibility legally.

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