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Man alleging misuse of dowry act performs ‘shraadh’ for self

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on April 10, 2010

LUCKNOW: Former state government employee and a resident of the Old City, Pandit RamShankar performed a shraadh ceremony on Friday that was ‘different’. Shankar performed the ceremony for the ‘departed soul’ of Akhil Dubey, a Lucknow-based pharma executive. But here’s the catch. Dubey, alive and kicking, was part of the ceremony. As for why he felt the need for performing the ‘shraadh’ — Dubey was commemorating his ‘death’ as a common man, on the same day, exactly one year ago.

Here’s what prompted such extreme action. After tying the knot on November 2008, Dubey alleges that he discovered that his wife was already married and also had a child. Shocked on making the discovery, he attempted to “resolve” the issue but met with little success.

“Two months later, when I moved divorce proceedings against her, she slapped a case of dowry harassment against me under section 498 A of the Indian Penal Code,” says Dubey. Under this section, on April 9, 2009, an FIR was registered against Dubey. “That day marked my death as a common man. In the eyes of the world, I became branded as a criminal,” adds Dubey.

And to commemorate his ‘criminal status’ one year on, the ‘shraadh’ ceremony respectfully remembered Dubey for the ‘decent and common man’ that he used to be.

As for the sanctity of such religious rites, Shankar defends the act saying the Indian scriptures allow a living person to perform his ‘shraadh’. “The ‘Garud Puran’ allows people to do their own ‘pind daan’ while they are alive. Especially those who do not have children and cannot perform the rites after their death. Similarly, the ceremonies for the 10th and 13th day can also be performed in advance,” says Pandit Ram Shankar.

The unique event was organised by a Lucknow-based NGO, Pati Parivar Kalyan Samiti (PPKS), a group of “afflicted” husbands who have been protesting the misuse of section 498 A of the IPC by women.

According to this section of the IPC, if the husband or his relative subjects a woman to cruelty, he shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to three years and is also liable to pay a fine. The offence is cognizable, non-compoundable and non-bailable. Interestingly, the protest against the misuse of the law by women has been gaining ground across the country. Seeking to be absolved from the status of ‘criminals’ and to voice their protest, over 2,000 members of PPKS Lucknow, routinely, bail out other aggrieved husbands and also instruct them on how to get out of the procedural tangles involved in the issue.

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एक ऐसी बारात, दुल्हे के हाथ में हथकड़ी

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 21, 2009

In Lucknow, there was a marriage procession, where all men were dressed as groom with handcuffs….. and many women who were accompanying them were also handcuffed. India is great !

लखनऊ, 19
नवम्बर, (जागरण संवाददाता) : शहर में आज एक ऐसी बारात निकली जिसमें पकड़ी व सेहरा बांधे अधिकांश दुल्हे थे और उनकी हाथों में लगी थी हथकड़ी। साथ में
महिलाएं भी थीं। इनमें से भी कुछ के हाथ में हथकड़ी थी।
चौकिये नहीं! महिलाओं द्वारा कानूनी प्राविधानों का किये जा रहे दुरुपयोग
की बढ़ती संख्या के प्रति सरकार का ध्यान आकर्षित करने के लिए पति-परिवार
कल्याण समिति के बैनर तले निकली अनोखी बारात का यह दृश्य था। कलेक्ट्रेट से निकली यह बारात परिवारिक न्यायालय होते हुए विधान भवन धरना स्थल पर
पहुंचा। इस मौके पर पति-परिवार कल्याण समिति ने पुरूष आयोग, पुरूष विकास
मंत्रालय तथा पुरूषों की सुरक्षा व न्याय प्राप्ति के लिए कोई कानून बनाने
की मांग की। समिति के सचिव बृजेश अवस्थी का कहना है कि महिलाओं के लिए
बनाये गये कई कानून ऐसे हैं, जो पूर्णतया एकतरफा हैं। उन्होंने कहा कि
नेशनल क्राइम ब्यूरो के आंकड़े पर नजर डालें तो प्रत्येक वर्ष विवाहित
महिलाओं की तुलना में पुरुषों की अप्राकृतिक मृत्यु दोगुने से भी ज्यादा
हुई है।


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Donate blood before wife sucks it all

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on November 1, 2009

Would you rather donate blood OR let your wife suck it all out of your body?

Please join me in the blood camp organized by FATHERS in Lucknow on Children’s day.

A child’s letter to his father:

“Please don’t call me fatherless and my father as childless……

We both exist & living for each-other. We both are waiting for court uncle’s orders to get united……………… I NEED both parents.

Almost all children like me, who are caught in matrimonial disputes, are suffering as “shared parenting” is not practiced in our country.

Nobody including court uncle understands that a child needs both parents.”

Hundreds of Fathers and like minded people have decided to donate their blood for the welfare and long life of their children ……..

On Children day (November 14, 2009)

At Blood Bank, KGMC, Lucknow (UP)

From 10 AM to 2 PM

”One Father is better than 100 teachers…….”

Contact: Lucknow: 09450139307/9305323243, Rae-Bareli: 9455540355 and Delhi: 09999107314

Supported by: CRISP (Bangalore), Pati-Pariwar Kalyan Samiti (Lucknow), All India Forgotten Women (Hyderabad), GHRS (New Delhi), Save Family Foundation (New Delhi), Save Indian Family Foundation (Bangalore), AIMPF (Bangalore), India Family Foundation (Mumbai).

We children may be small, but our rights as a child are BIG and court  uncle will also understand one day……………

“Save our rights to save the nation”

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