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All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA)

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 12, 2009

Launch of “All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA)”

11 October 2009

Venue: Public Gardens, Opposite Jubilee Hall
Hyderabad, India

Why do we need an “All India Men’s Welfare Association”?

Welfare of boys and men has been seriously neglected in India over the last two decades. While proudly championing the cause of women’s rights and women’s empowerment, the government and society tacitly approved the propagation of anti-male sentiments, condoned the resultant diminution in value of men’s lives and supported blatant violation of men’s rights through discriminatory laws and policies. The growing apathy of the government and society towards the sufferings of men has necessitated the formation of an All India Men’s Welfare Association.

It has to be noted that while men still perform some of the most risky and challenging jobs in the society, and while the Government of India collects 82% of its tax revenue from men, not a single rupee has been allocated in the name of men’s welfare in the country’s budget in the last 60 years.

The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Health and Family Welfare, does not consider men’s health and welfare important. Enormous focus on women and children, and the mention of men only in relation to how they should contribute to the health and welfare of women and children, clearly indicates the apathy of the Government towards men.

The homepage of the Animal Welfare Board of India (AWBI) cites Vardhamana Mahavira, the sage of total non-violence, who said, “All beings are fond of themselves, they like pleasure, they hate pain, they shun destruction, they like life and want to live long. To all, life is dear; hence their life should be protected.” While Mahavira’s teachings seem to have inspired the Indian Government to assign a separate ministry to look after issues of Animal Welfare through AWBI, the same Government did not see any necessity to establish a Ministry for Men’s Welfare.

Several laws have been passed in the last 60 years in the name of protection of women and their empowerment. However, there are no laws to protect boys and men from any form of abuse or harassment within and outside the home. Men are being subjected to severe discrimination under law, and their basic human rights are being violated every day in the name of more and more legal provisions that claim to empower and protect women.

Thousands of men are becoming victims of “legal terrorism” unleashed through laws like Indian Penal Code Section 498A, Protection of Women Against Domestic Violence Act, adultery laws, laws against rape and sexual harassment, and even divorce, maintenance and child custody laws.

While society is applauding more and more women getting educated, entering the job market and challenging their traditional roles within the family and society, men are still being shackled to their traditional duties of protecting and providing for women, children and the aged.

The growing disregard and hatred against men in our society is forcing more than 56,000 Indian men to end their lives every year. According to statistics obtained from the National Crime Records Bureau, every year, twice as many married men, compared to women, commit suicides unable to withstand verbal, emotional, economic and physical abuse and legal harassment. Deaths of these men make for the brief stories we often read in newspapers stating that a certain man “killed himself due to family issues or financial problems”. While every death of a young married woman is converted into a case of dowry death leading to immediate arrest of the husband and in-laws, accompanied by media-hype, male-bashing and breast-beating, large-scale suicides of men do not cause any outrage in the society.

Domestic and social harmony will prevail only when women AND men are ensured their rightful, honorable place within and outside the home. In addition, when we ensure true gender equality under law, litigations will be reduced, legal terrorism and extortion through misuse of the law will be eliminated, and our human and financial resources can be employed for betterment of the society and the country.

The aim of AIMWA is to work towards providing protection for men and boys against gender discrimination, domestic violence, sexual harassment and other forms of abuse. The organization will also focus on related issues like physical and mental health of men, and the need for social changes, policy reforms and legal solutions to men’s problems.

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25 Responses to “All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA)”

  1. Ken Kendall said

    This is so important. In America, fathers and husbands have been so devalued.

    I write a blog about marriage and specifically how men can better love their wives. I think you will like it. I hope you will take a look when you have a chance.

    http://whatsheneedsfromyou.wordpress.com

    Thanks,

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      Ken, you are so very right when you say ‘In America, fathers and husbands have been so very devalued’.

      I fully empathize with what has happened in your nation.

      In fact, it is the US feminists that have shown the way to Indian feminists. And various US Feminist organizations are funding feminism in India.

      Thanks for the link to your blog. I can assure that you will see my participation there soon.

      In future – I am planning to add a section on my blog -‘similar blogs’/ ‘similar blog worldwide’/ ‘more blogs about similar issues’ or something like that. I am hoping that I can take the liberty of adding your blog to that list.

      Regards,

  2. if possible, pl.reply by mail,
    thanx

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      What is the context?

      If you are a victim looking for advice, then please ask questions here only.

      If you are a press reporter wanting to educate your readers about the torture of men in the name of gender equality, then please tell me your location and I would put you in touch with local activists who can assist you.

      Regards

      • preeti said

        i am not avictim but such a case happend with my relative and i want advice

      • iluvshrutiverma said

        You are not a victim today – but you never know what happens tomorrow. India has become such an unsafe place for common man.

        I am glad that you are taking interest in current issues. I look forward to hearing more from you on the blog.

        Also, you / relative is more than welcome to seek specific legal/ marital advice.

  3. preeti said

    i want to know how you help those mens who are seffering from false alligation of dory harresment

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      I teach them how to be a sports man – about how they should focus on the game rather than worrying about the end result all the time.

      I advice them to fight the legal battle legally and emotional battle emotionally.

      Although most stories are similar – the cases that are filed, the reasons of why the cases were filed, the intentions of the wives, the intentions of the husband etc etc are very very similar, BUT the sequence and circumstances in which the cases were filed changes the counter strategy.

  4. preeti said

    i want to know how do you give advice

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      If you are asking about the medium through which I give advice: blog is one way in which I give advice.

      I also personally attend at least 1 meeting every week where advice is given to fellow victims so that they can learn from our experiences. And you would be surprised as to how soon they learn things. Most of the people that come to me are basically logical and educated people, just that they need someone to help them kick-start. (So far, I have attended in-person meeting at 13 different cities)

  5. Sagar said

    Hello,

    I have recently become the victim of Domestic violation law (Damages & Compensation). I am still in shock and depressed. I want legal aid and definitely support to hold myself and my family from shattering.

    I am in USA and just received the notice couple of days ago. The demand is ridiculous and it is a clear case of extortion. I am confused. Please help with information that I can call and talk to in USA or India and get some legal help.

  6. harsh said

    this is very good initiative dear i appreciate your effort

  7. Manish said

    I am a victim of section 498 my wife complaint against me and my parents my case is still in mahila samjhaish kendra and soon we are going to jail cause she is not ready compromise to live with me

  8. like this page on facebook to get daily updates on facebook https://www.facebook.com/pages/Aimwa-All-India-Mens-Welfare-Association/505613519455866 to get daily updates of various men welfare activities around india…

    Give us some push to reach more people.. thank you…

  9. Fight to make 498A into bailable otherwise make 306ipc legal for men

  10. naman said

    last month after the horrific gang rape,a large number of “politicians” and “babas” commented in a very insensitive way which was not received very well by a large number of people in india including me and it was followed by a large number of “feminists” hitting the news room and asking for apologies and accusing males as insensitive.

    BUT-THE IMPORTANT POINT TO NOTE IS THAT
    this month “WOMEN WELFARE MINISTRY” passed “WORKPLACE HARAASMENT BILL”without including “MEN” into it.some of the provisions are so stupid and biased that they are fully introduced to torture men as follows
    1.NO “RIGHT TO INFORMATION ” SO THAT FALSE CASES DO NOT GET DISCLOSED TO THE PUBLIC.
    2.CASES WILL BE MONITORED BY “NGO’S” WHO ARE ALREADY UNDER SCANNER FOR TORTURING MEN UNDER FALSE CASES.
    3.PROVISION OF MONEY
    but when the ministry was asked about this——They replied that their work is to only ensure the “safety of women”
    NOW MY QUESTION IS–ARE THESE SO CALLED “FEMINIST ” DIFFERENT FROM THOSE “POLITICIANS AND BABAS” AND DO THESE FEMINIST GROUPS ALSO NEED TO GO THROUGH A TRAINING OF “GENDER SENSITISATION”

  11. naman said

    I am extremely sorry if my comments are being perceived in a different way

    My purpose was to point out that when laws like these are being grafted then it should also be maintained that these are not being misused

  12. Babai said

    I am also victim of it, if any branch of ‘All India Men’s Welfare Association’ in KOLKATA please let me know.
    Mail: monodutt@rediffmail.com

  13. win4frndz said

    I am the victim of false 498a, can someone post the address of “All India Men’s Welfare Association” in Hyderabad.
    Thanks….

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      You should be able to get this information by doing Google search.

      If you do not find it, write to Uma. Her email ID is president@aifw.info – you can tell her that you found her email ID on this blog

  14. Chandrashekar said

    Hi…am in bangalore and going thru the separation process from my wife. I am looking forward for a peaceful divorce but my wife’s family is coming up with new allegations every 2nd day….i did keep quiet all these days but they are taking advantage of it….pls help

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      What help do you expect from me? Should I come and tell your wife’s family not to trouble you? Will they listen?

  15. Vijay said

    Hi,

    One of my relative was a victim, his wife’s uncle and his son took all the property and sent him out of the house. Now he is struggling to lead the life. He need the help. Please share your contact details in Bangalore.

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      Vijay, search online on Google and you will find helpline numbers in Bangalore. Start to attend weekly meetings

  16. Please let me know what options do men have in case a wife along with her family members & neighbours misbehave, threaten, abuse (even physically assault) a husband & tell open lies to frame a charge against the husband. I am being mentally harassed every momemt & feel like finishing my life….in such a case how can i ensure that the people who harassed me get the treatment they deserve. In my case, they have manipulated the entire system by taking poilice / political leaders into confidence. Looking forward to some real time support system..can anybody help me?

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