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Women are never happy

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on May 31, 2009

Despite wealth, health and opportunity, women still less content says study by US National Bureau of Economic Research

You can read the entire set of observations at:

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/world/us_and_americas/article6395879.ece

As a teenager, I had heard the following joke (now studies have shown that it is a reality that women are never happy. They just keep crying about having less even if they have everything):

A store that sells new husbands has opened in New York City, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates:

You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 – These men Have Jobs.

She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads:
Floor 2 – These men Have Jobs and Love Kids.

“That’s nice”, she thinks, “but I want more.”

So she continues upward. The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 – These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking.

“Wow,” she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 4 – These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework.

“Oh, mercy me!” she exclaims, “I can hardly stand it!”

Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads:

Floor 5 – These men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads:

Floor 6 – You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store.

PLEASE NOTE:

To avoid gender bias charges, the store’s owner opened a New Wives store just across the street.

The first floor has wives that love sex.

The second floor has wives that love sex and have money.

The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited.

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16 Responses to “Women are never happy”

  1. Reminds me of this email forward I received …..

    A man was out golfing one day when he hit the ball into the woods.

    He went into the woods to look for it and found a frog in a trap.

    The frog said to him, ‘If you release me from this trap, I will grant you three wishes.’

    The man freed the frog, and the frog said, ‘Thank you, but I failed to mention that there was a condition to your wishes.

    Whatever you wish for, your wife will get times ten!’

    The man said, ‘That’s okay.’

    For his first wish, he wanted to be the most handsome man in the world.

    The frog warned him, ‘You do realize that this wish will also make your wife the most beautiful woman in the world, a Venus whom men will flock to’.

    The man replied, ‘That’s okay, because I will be the most handsome man and she will have eyes only for me.’

    So, KAZAM-he’s the most handsome man in the world!

    For his second wish, he wanted to be the richest man in the world.

    The frog said, ‘That will make your wife the richest woman in the world. And she will be ten times richer than you.’

    The man said, ‘That’s okay, because what’s mine is hers and what’s hers is mine.’

    So, KAZAM-he’s the richest man in the world!

    The frog then inquired about his third wish, and he answered, ‘I’d like a mild heart attack.’

    Moral of the story: Men are clever. Don’t mess with them.

    Attention male readers : This is the end of the joke for you. Stop here and continue feeling good.

    Women readers : Please scroll down.

    The woman had a heart attack ten times milder than her husband .

    Moral of the story : Men think they’re really smart.

    Let them continue to think that way and just enjoy the show

    PS: If you are a man and are still reading this; it only goes to show that men never listen!!!

    Forward this to all the women for a good laugh, and to all the men who have a good sense of humor.

  2. Vipul said

    All true.. Thats what 498A law is being used for. money money money..

    But even after getting money these women are not happy, they go and find the next guy and it starts all over again .

    • Vipul said

      Point I was trying to make was, Guys think twice, thrice, …. forever before getting married and specially to a 498A women.

  3. sarika said

    hello mr advocate

    i have a question

    law entitles a woman to seek divorce if the husband is found to be guilty of marrying again or having a wife prior to aggrieved wife’s marriage to the culprit husband and if the earlier wife was alive. Can not this law be mis-used against women ? what if the man who wants to torture his woman remarries so that the aggrieved girl can seek for divorce from him. If the aggrieved woman does so then the culprit man’s task would be completed as this is what he wanted that is to divorce her wife.

    this will then obviously compel a harassed woman to file umpteen arbitrary cases against the man. once that happens then men cry

    where is the road for salvation ?

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      Hi Sarika,

      The problem is that the woman will file “umpteen arbitrary cases”. So automatically, dowry torture and cruelty cases will be filed – though the problem was bigamy! That is what happens, 498-A is filed as a revenge for any domestic issue.

      About the particular situation that you mentioned – if x was the first wife and y was the second wife, then y’s marriage is null and void, while x’s marriage is still legally valid. So there is no question of divorce.

      Regards

  4. piyush b said

    You are doing great job brother. May God bless you

    […]Women are never happy « Dedicated to my wife…[…]…

  5. jaseem said

    I am a software engineer (Salary 7 lakhs/annum) and my wife works in govt firm as software engineer (Salary 6 lakhs/annum).
    My father resigned from govt service and worked in middle east. And now he is not working.
    My mother is working in a quazy govt firm. I have two sisters and both got married.
    My wife filed a false 498A case against me (for misusing her salary, ornaments and money given by her parents, forcing her for sex, not giving food, not paying medical bills, sharing our problems with her friends) and my parents (for asking dowry).
    All are absolutely wrong.
    She took all her ornaments and I never had any money from her or her parents as dowry.
    She had mentioned about her job in the FIR.
    She was not at all interested for a marriage and she agreed for a marriage only because itz a custom.
    Our relationship lasted only for 1.5 years and we have a baby boy.
    Both of us are from middle class Muslim family of Kerala.
    She is not allowing me to see my baby.
    Due to mental trauma, I lost my job and I am jobless for the last 5 months.
    Will I have to pay compensation for her? If so how much?
    What will be the amount that I will have to pay for my kid?
    Do I need to prove her salary since she had mentioned only about her job in the FIR?

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      If she asks for maintenance, then you would need to prove her salary. Even though she mentioned about her job in the FIR, once it comes to maintenance she would say that she lost her job and hence needs maintenance. But since it’s a govt job, it will be difficult for her to hide it; so if she says she lost her job you should be able to prove rather easily that she is lying

  6. Identity Lost said

    Its a myth that women are never happy, In fact its a men who never happy. After all its men driven society. Let me explain you how:

    1) In our grandparents generation, It was not a good sign that a girl to do job so they just became housewives. Gradually some sensible men wake up after seeing the condition of single/windowed/divorced girl(again lack of men/society support) and men allowed to educate their girl child. There are another reason to educate girl child too because people are denying to accept uneducated girl as a bahoo(sensible thought)

    2) In our parents generation, father equally treated their male/female child especially in financially sound family. All girl become educated so nothing is so especial in them to marry for genius(some ppl think them-self because of their earning capacity & some institute tag) mind person. Now they want a working girl….wow she stands out from the crowd & also looks good due to MNC culture :).

    3)Now the sad part, rest of the girls/families who does not want to allow their girl to work(reasons can be vary) looks miser to other ppl even they belongs to good family & good education but why they are not working is a big question for would be groom & family (again men are not happy).

    4)So now a days mostly girls are working but again men want everything – (convent educated beautiful MNC working girl from a status family who knows house hold activities too) girl are again again failing to fulfill this requirement so she becomes unhappy again.

    Marriages are like completion where men say- hey look at my wife(trophy) which is better(materialistically) than yours.

    Everybody is asking for working wife & 498a wife but nobody have guts to go for a arrange court marriages to re-define the marriage expenditure. (again it happens only when men want it)

    And a very interesting fact that our society is men driven –
    We all are abusing women who were responsible for failed marriages but actually she can be only responsible for failed marriage but not 498a. Actual culprit of filing 498a & harassing other family is girl’s father/brother/boyfriend/or any other male member because a girl can not do all these corrupt legal functions alone especially when she is not working.

    At the end, bitter truth of society – actual victim of marriages (whether men or women) are slapped by society itself. Because society enjoys news and nobody want to be the part of solution by helping them in any manner.

    IIT+IIM passout have courage at the time of his first marriage to marry to a girl who is a sister of real 498a victim?
    My answer is no because everybody wants fresh, juicy & tasty things in any way!

    You are here just because 498a happens with u & how dare she did it with an IIT+IIM. You are not aware ppl, you are just satisfying your ego by putting her name as your blog/profile name & making her infamous.

    If you really want to help for real victims & society, enlighten that what characters of girl/family necessary for marriage. Working/Non-working just materialistic things.
    Encourage them for court marriages.
    Any gift/money from girl’s parents can be deposit in her a/c so things shd be clear at the time of false 498a.

    I choose you for these kind of forum because u have especial Tags IIT, IIM and a man & our society blindly follow your kind of ppl, at least major part of society.

    Except some exception, its a men( in any form father/brother/husband/son) who never happy.

    • raiduads said

      So on this name you want to file cases against everyone irrespective of whether they are living or not. Cruelty comes from no where.

    • JustMy02cents said

      Dear ‘Identity Lost’…

      Let me make it clear that neither I am a friend/relative of the author and nor have I ever interacted with him in any capacity – directly or indirectly.

      I am not sure if you will take my next sentence in good faith and reasoning… you dont just seem to have “lost” your identity but also your human-side as well.

      What the author had attempted was a joke and tried to substantiate his reasoning by quoting an URL. Nothing more or nothing less than that… period. But you have successfullt taken it in a personal way and vented out your personal angst againt male-driven society on the author by chugging onto his academic credentials and questioning the blog-name.

      Prevalence of patriarchial (men-driven) society is very well known and nobody is denying its existence. BUT it does not necessarily mean that just because a society is patriarchial, the “men-driven system” has to be “declared as evil”. Now there exists “matriarchial society” in some specifc parts of our North-East region (like certain communities in Arunachal, Nagaland etc)… now do you want to suggest that there is NO evil activities being done by women or illegal happenings by women, in that part of society, JUST because it is WOmen-driven???… Hope you get my point here… IF the intentions are good then whether it is a men or women driven society it hardly matters… no human being is evil… it is his or her WILLINGLY CHOSEN reaction to a given situation that brings out the devil in them.

      BEfore I make my next point, I must declare upfront that I am not from IIT or IIM but yes… I am a harassed husband and nowadays experiencing my in-laws and wife to go against me in a legal way. You have scored very badly as a human-being when you ended up saying “You are here just because 498a happens with u & how dare she did it with an IIT+IIM.”

      First things first… nobody is advocating that getting an IIT or IIM degree is the ultimate thing in life and IF at all somebody thinks that way he/she is FREE to put in all their energies to STUDY-SMART-and-HARD and fetch for themselves a degree from IIT-IITM or CA or MD-Doctor or anything they PERCEIVE as an ELITIST qualification. NOW by harpening on the tags of IIT-IIM, why cannot you see things in a different perspective that “such well educated males” also endup being victims of 498a misuse. By openly declaring his IIT-IIM tag the person-author has tried to emphasize the point that “smart brains in theory, do not necessarily maketh a successful marriage”… so in that sense it can even be interpreted as a matter of shortcoming for the author… because he was able to “pass through a difficult exam like IIT-JEE and CAT but cannot handle his wife!!!”… who knows what this chap and his family-members (including his mother/sister) has went through… many people might have passed comments on them by now like “loser”, “battered” and what-not. Also try to appreicate the fact that the author decided to “help himself” and started studying law-LLB-degree for his own-sake. AND like other blogs, this blog is just a VENT to a given-author’s feelings, personal experiences and that here in this case, the legal-knowledge that is being gained… it need not perceived as something “complete and reference” entity.

      You seem to have chosen to “conveniently ignore” the silent-suffering that a small-and-genuine (but increasing) number of males are being subjected, due to rampant use of 498a and DV-act. I hope “common sense” which is not usually common nowadays prevails in your thinking and we, as a educated member of society “do not start seeing ego-ghosts” even in simple academic tags like IIT-IIM or even CA for that matter. And last but not the least, let us not forget that even other females-members of our life, in the form of mothers, sisters etc are getting JAILED by the MISUSE of 498a.

      Perhaps in your rampant pursuit of showing how male dominated the society has remained even for today… you seem to have missed the “trauma” part of it. Right from childhood a boy is “mentored” that he is supposed to “take care and offer protection” towards his family members… is ever a boy upon growing up and getting educated (like CA, B.E.) and married given a choice by the wife like as follows.. “it is ok hubby… even if you are a CA-or-BE but if you still do not want to work… it is ok, you just “sit-back” and take care of the home (of course with the maid for bartan, pochaa, dhona and playschool for kid, arranged to-and-fro commutation for kid + a seperate vehicle for oneself like Activa to roam around + kitty parties etc etc)… how about that???…. but this choice is “expected to be given” to even well educated women in today’s loan-EMI-era and ever increasing market inflation and soaring prices of necessary goods (not luxury goods). Please remember that ours will be the 1st generation where there will be nothing like “pension” after we are 60/retire and there will some “monsters” sitting out like medical-insurance etc (you will see these things in years to come as the FDI is now coming in Insurance as well).

      These were just my 02-cents… please do excuse me if you feel any of my reasonings are far-fetched or extreme and if possible please take my above opinion with a “pinch of understanding”. I can be reached at givelegaladviceatyahodotcom

  7. Jignesh S said

    Thank you brother, you are doing a great job helping others. Your wife will go to hell.

  8. Julie S said

    This blog was… how do I say it? Relevant!!
    Finally I’ve found something that helped me. Thanks!

  9. Magnificent blog ! Thank you so much brother for all the hard work you have done for fellow men

  10. upendra said

    I have been looking for information since nearly 4 weeks now, it was only today that I stumbled upon your blogs. In my opinion, if all site owners and bloggers made good content as you did, the biased laws will soon go away.

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