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All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA)

Posted by iluvshrutiverma on October 12, 2009

Launch of “All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA)”

11 October 2009

Venue: Public Gardens, Opposite Jubilee Hall
Hyderabad, India

Why do we need an “All India Men’s Welfare Association”?

Welfare of boys and men has been seriously neglected in India over the last two decades. While proudly championing the cause of women’s rights and women’s empowerment, the government and society tacitly approved the propagation of anti-male sentiments, condoned the resultant diminution in value of men’s lives and supported blatant violation of men’s rights through discriminatory laws and policies. The growing apathy of the government and society towards the sufferings of men has necessitated the formation of an All India Men’s Welfare Association.

It has to be noted that while men still perform some of the most risky and challenging jobs in the society, and while the Government of India collects 82% of its tax revenue from men, not a single rupee has been allocated in the name of men’s welfare in the country’s budget in the last 60 years.

The National Family Health Survey, conducted by the Ministry of Health and Family Welfare, does not consider men’s health and welfare important. Enormous focus on women and children, and the mention of men only in relation to how they should contribute to the health and welfare of women and children, clearly indicates the apathy of the Government towards men.

The homepage of the Animal Welfare Board of India (AWBI) cites Vardhamana Mahavira, the sage of total non-violence, who said, “All beings are fond of themselves, they like pleasure, they hate pain, they shun destruction, they like life and want to live long. To all, life is dear; hence their life should be protected.” While Mahavira’s teachings seem to have inspired the Indian Government to assign a separate ministry to look after issues of Animal Welfare through AWBI, the same Government did not see any necessity to establish a Ministry for Men’s Welfare.

Several laws have been passed in the last 60 years in the name of protection of women and their empowerment. However, there are no laws to protect boys and men from any form of abuse or harassment within and outside the home. Men are being subjected to severe discrimination under law, and their basic human rights are being violated every day in the name of more and more legal provisions that claim to empower and protect women.

Thousands of men are becoming victims of “legal terrorism” unleashed through laws like Indian Penal Code Section 498A, Protection of Women Against Domestic Violence Act, adultery laws, laws against rape and sexual harassment, and even divorce, maintenance and child custody laws.

While society is applauding more and more women getting educated, entering the job market and challenging their traditional roles within the family and society, men are still being shackled to their traditional duties of protecting and providing for women, children and the aged.

The growing disregard and hatred against men in our society is forcing more than 56,000 Indian men to end their lives every year. According to statistics obtained from the National Crime Records Bureau, every year, twice as many married men, compared to women, commit suicides unable to withstand verbal, emotional, economic and physical abuse and legal harassment. Deaths of these men make for the brief stories we often read in newspapers stating that a certain man “killed himself due to family issues or financial problems”. While every death of a young married woman is converted into a case of dowry death leading to immediate arrest of the husband and in-laws, accompanied by media-hype, male-bashing and breast-beating, large-scale suicides of men do not cause any outrage in the society.

Domestic and social harmony will prevail only when women AND men are ensured their rightful, honorable place within and outside the home. In addition, when we ensure true gender equality under law, litigations will be reduced, legal terrorism and extortion through misuse of the law will be eliminated, and our human and financial resources can be employed for betterment of the society and the country.

The aim of AIMWA is to work towards providing protection for men and boys against gender discrimination, domestic violence, sexual harassment and other forms of abuse. The organization will also focus on related issues like physical and mental health of men, and the need for social changes, policy reforms and legal solutions to men’s problems.

11 Responses to “All India Men’s Welfare Association (AIMWA)”

  1. Ken Kendall said

    This is so important. In America, fathers and husbands have been so devalued.

    I write a blog about marriage and specifically how men can better love their wives. I think you will like it. I hope you will take a look when you have a chance.

    http://whatsheneedsfromyou.wordpress.com

    Thanks,

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      Ken, you are so very right when you say ‘In America, fathers and husbands have been so very devalued’.

      I fully empathize with what has happened in your nation.

      In fact, it is the US feminists that have shown the way to Indian feminists. And various US Feminist organizations are funding feminism in India.

      Thanks for the link to your blog. I can assure that you will see my participation there soon.

      In future – I am planning to add a section on my blog -’similar blogs’/ ‘similar blog worldwide’/ ‘more blogs about similar issues’ or something like that. I am hoping that I can take the liberty of adding your blog to that list.

      Regards,

  2. if possible, pl.reply by mail,
    thanx

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      What is the context?

      If you are a victim looking for advice, then please ask questions here only.

      If you are a press reporter wanting to educate your readers about the torture of men in the name of gender equality, then please tell me your location and I would put you in touch with local activists who can assist you.

      Regards

      • preeti said

        i am not avictim but such a case happend with my relative and i want advice

      • iluvshrutiverma said

        You are not a victim today – but you never know what happens tomorrow. India has become such an unsafe place for common man.

        I am glad that you are taking interest in current issues. I look forward to hearing more from you on the blog.

        Also, you / relative is more than welcome to seek specific legal/ marital advice.

  3. preeti said

    i want to know how you help those mens who are seffering from false alligation of dory harresment

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      I teach them how to be a sports man – about how they should focus on the game rather than worrying about the end result all the time.

      I advice them to fight the legal battle legally and emotional battle emotionally.

      Although most stories are similar – the cases that are filed, the reasons of why the cases were filed, the intentions of the wives, the intentions of the husband etc etc are very very similar, BUT the sequence and circumstances in which the cases were filed changes the counter strategy.

  4. preeti said

    i want to know how do you give advice

    • iluvshrutiverma said

      If you are asking about the medium through which I give advice: blog is one way in which I give advice.

      I also personally attend at least 1 meeting every week where advice is given to fellow victims so that they can learn from our experiences. And you would be surprised as to how soon they learn things. Most of the people that come to me are basically logical and educated people, just that they need someone to help them kick-start. (So far, I have attended in-person meeting at 13 different cities)

  5. Sagar said

    Hello,

    I have recently become the victim of Domestic violation law (Damages & Compensation). I am still in shock and depressed. I want legal aid and definitely support to hold myself and my family from shattering.

    I am in USA and just received the notice couple of days ago. The demand is ridiculous and it is a clear case of extortion. I am confused. Please help with information that I can call and talk to in USA or India and get some legal help.

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